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sorry you are so lonely tonight.
sounds like you are pretty anxious and un-grounded at the moment. are there any ways you have of helping you to feel back in touch with yourself and your body? i know that bodyscans and mindful breathing or exercise help me...just really getting in touch with the lower part of my body, my legs and feet on the floor helps me feel more steady sometimes. or can you distract yourself from these sorts of thoughts? you mention writing, is there anything else that helps?
perhaps if its tricky to soothe yourself you have someone you trust you could speak to or a trusted helpline to call?
8-10 weeks without SHing is a great achievement and its important not to undermine yourself for that...
whatever happens do keep posting to let us know how you are :wave:
what can I do? Does concealer help cover up the cuts on my wrist and arm?
It may, but not that well, I always where a plain black and white long sleeved top inside, would you be allowed to where that?
Depends, it will take a couple of day's but will still scar and leave a mark, well it will be faint as you haven't done it that deep. You could also try this cream that pregnant women use to hide stretch marks, its also good for scars, or you could visit your GP and see when they can offer you (((Hugs)))
You're not allowed to what? If it's a deep cut you should get a nurse to have a look at it and if you've started self-harming you should see your GP to get some support to try and address these feelings.
It's your decision ultimately what support you choose to make use of but if you decide to disregard the help you've been offered there's not much anyone can do to help.
I hope that doesn't sound harsh, I'm trying to be honest so that you can consider the repercussions of giving up on the support you already have. If you give all these things up, it becomes much harder to get help in the future if you think you need it. You'd be better off trying to get your social worker to talk to you about more targeted therapies (counselling doesn't sound like it's working for you, so there are other options) and maybe even specialist support for self-harm and smoking. I'm sure that would be possible, even if it takes a little time, but everything will be much more difficult if you refuse support.
thanks for your help x
I only started self harming yesterday but already i've kept going back and doing it again, like its addictive. i know its not the right way to deal with my problems, does anyone have an idea of something i can do instead of self harming to help deal with my problems/ get my mind off home and school?
There's a good list of coping tips and distractions here.
Good luck. I find the best thing to do is to call a friend and talk about nothing in particular, that cheers me up. Also, having something to do with my hands (knitting or sewing) can really help.
I only started self harming recently, on my arms, thighs and pelvis area. I want to tell someone to get it off my chest but not my parents or a teacher or councellor. I want to tell my best friend and tell her not to tell ANYONE! But i'm worried that it will just worry and upset her and be too much of a
weight and responsibility for her to have on her shoulders. What do people think I should do? x
I've noticed you've posted a few times in this thread now and wanted to suggest that you can start your own thread in the Health & Wellbeing forum if you'd like to - that way the community can offer their advice on your personal situation in more of an ongoing way. Maybe there are things going on in your life at the moment that you're finding hard to cope with or you're feeling under a lot of pressure or stress? Have a think about starting your own thread, it might help to have a space to talk about things in more depth?
In the mean time, it sounds like this new urge to self-harm is worrying you a lot and you want to tell someone. Have you seen our article on confiding in someone? Here's the link: http://www.thesite.org/healthandwellbeing/mentalhealth/selfharm/confidinginsomeone
You're already thinking about who might be the best person to talk to first, as piccolo says, making an appointment to see your GP is definitely something to consider but telling a trusted adult like a teacher could be an option too - you could even speak to a close friend and then ask them to come along with you? It depends what you feel most comfortable with at the moment.
There's also some good info on first aid for cuts here:http://www.thesite.org/healthandwellbeing/wellbeing/lookingafteryourself/firstaid
I've been depressed for a few weeks now and last night was a really bad night.
I got drunk and ended up telling this girl i know about it which was the worst thing i could ever do as i don't want people to know. Only my best friend knows but i don't like talking to her about it as i feel bad burdening her with the issue. but yeah, after i told this girl i regretted it and couldn't stop crying over it all night.... but it got to the point were i literal thought of suicide, which i've never considered that strongly before. if it wasn't for my best friend literally dragging me home and watching me i think i would have done something stupid.
but now i don't know what to do, i don't want to see someone but what if it happens again?
There's a cut on my arm from this morning, it's about an inch long and half a centimetre wide, but now my arm feels so heavy and slow. It doesn't hurt apart from the cut itself but my arm and hand and fingers all feel like they're moving underwater or something. It's got germolene on, and I'll put a dressing on it when I go to bed, I just wanted to check that I won't wake up in the morning with no fingers or something??
Have you been to A&E? I hope you're ok.
*hug* Are you okay RG?
i was going to pm this to you but i think everyone should see it.
i think you are one of the bravest, strongest and kindest people on thesite and i have more respect for you than you could ever know. for so many years now we have followed eachother's posts and supported eachother as best as we can. you've inspired me to keep doing so many times, not necessarily by anything you've said to me but because you've kept going too, and seeing you being strong has made me want to be strong. life has thrown so much shit at you and everytime you pick yourself up and carry on you get that bit stronger. i wish things weren't so bad again for you. and i hope with every fibre within me that you are safe and being taken care of. you have given more to this world than you could ever know.
Thank you all for your messages. I am better today as I am with Randomboy tonight. I really appreciate the support, I was feeling lonely and desperate last night. I have been seeing my GP daily and will see her again on Monday. Also last night I called the Samaritans for the first time which was good.
I hope everyone else is okay.
xx
I went out today and it was a big mistake. well on one hand it told me that i was taking this too easy but fucking hell i had no space to breathe. I need to be on my guard. They pressurise me into hurting myself because i know the TRUTH, i know they are there and thats the difference between you and me...i know what hurts the most and they are in control. this is all too overwhelming :crying:
I'm 'looking better'. Well hurrah for that. :rolleyes: