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men who are obsessed with football
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how do you deal with them?
I've been fortunate enough to never have been out with a guy before who is really into his sport. But my new chap seems a tad obsessed with football, and if there's no football on, it will be something else like formula one or cricket.
Oh he also plays footie. It already seems to be getting in the way of us doing stuff. I don't want to change anybody, he can be into whatever he wants but do guys ever grow out of this sorta stuff?
Even worse is he's a Man United fan I wouldn't mind half as much if it was villa!
I've been fortunate enough to never have been out with a guy before who is really into his sport. But my new chap seems a tad obsessed with football, and if there's no football on, it will be something else like formula one or cricket.
Oh he also plays footie. It already seems to be getting in the way of us doing stuff. I don't want to change anybody, he can be into whatever he wants but do guys ever grow out of this sorta stuff?
Even worse is he's a Man United fan I wouldn't mind half as much if it was villa!
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The only time I'd be concerned was if he was spending every waking hour watching or playing football, which is impossible because there's not enough on, unfortunately!
Just don't make him choose between watching the game or spending time with you. Isn't there some way you can combine the two. Go to the pub with him, spend some time together, let him watch his game, then when the whistle goes, he's all yours!
My Dad, at the age of 46 still loves football. He can't miss one match. He sulks if his team lose. He screams when his team score, etc.
Just try and get into it? Theres no point trying to get him to spend more time with you if it means missing something he really enjoys.
Erm yes,... well personally, I hate football and wouldn't consider a guy who was remotely into football. So, unfortunately is like it or lump it....
Oh - and I'm straight
Illora: 'I wouldnt consider a guy who was into football' Giving yourself a limited market are you not? Its also being VERY close minded.
My devious ex toned down his football obsession when I first met him, and it wasn't until about six months in that his true colours came to light and it eventually got to a point where he would watch any football (except women's football - of course) match going. When you have Sky and then start getting into PPV matches then a whole weekend could pass by in the blink of an eye and we wouldn't have had a single conversation. I used to find that pretty damn infuriating (and sad).
I'm more into my footy than my fella now, though, he couldn't care less. Works for me :thumb:
I don't care. I hate football, I loathe football. I hate everything about it, and what it stands for. I hate polyester. I hate anything to do with the sport.
I'm not closed minded, if you want to like football, I'm not going to judge you for it, I just wouldn't date you because you like it. If that makes my choices in a partner limited, I'm not at all fussed.
That said, I can usually be found watching if a good match is on.
But you are judging them. You are holding the fact they like football against them. I fail to see the problem with dating someone who may occasionly go to the pub to watch a game or *shock horror* go to a game!
I get what she means. I could never date anyone who is religious even if all they do is go to church once a week.
Everyone's religious, since everyone has a religious view of the world. What you're saying is that you couldn't go out with someone who had a different relgious view than you, which is different. Similarly, a person might not find someone attractive if they didn't share enough interests with them. But I find it slightly puzzling that you could write someone off purely because they have one interest (football) that you don't enjoy, and can just assume that you wouldn't find a single person in the world, who happened to enjoy football, attractive.
nonsense
Everyone has an opinion of where we came from. Everyone has an opinion of what happens after we die. Everyone has an opinion of the "right" way to live while we're here. The only thing that seperates us is precisely what we believe in answer to these questions. I assume that what Lipsy meant by saying that she couldn't go out with a religious person, was that she couldn't go out with someone who believes in God as a being that has to be worshipped or who's rules have to be adhered to in some way. That's essentially saying that she can't go out with someone who has different values to you, which is a bit different to saying that you can't find someone attractive, who happens to have one interest that you don't like.
I don't think whether they like it or not should matter. Its not as if they are playing it and it is their life. As most have said. Get over it. You can find stuff to do while he is watching a game. I'm sure you have hobbies alot of men would detest.
Pretty much what he said :thumb:
nonsense
nonsense
I believe she meant she wouldn't go out with someone who is religious.
No, it's more like saying you won't go out with someone with a certain set of beliefs, but not necesarily that they have the same"values".
you lost me...
My boyfriend hates football, I'm more of a football fan than he is!
When you say it's getting in the way of you two doing stuff, do you mean he watches/plays it a lot, or is cancelling plans etc?
Bet you end up with a footballer. Opposites attract and all that.
What if your partner wants to wear the same clothes as you?
Bollocks. I bet you have serious problems with relationships because you really are mad if you think a relationship can be incompatible because the other half likes football.
I think you can be. There are loads of issues that my boyfriend and I disagree on, but the stuff that neither of us are interested in, we just do our own thing, you kind of just see beyond that. With football, whenever there's a match on and I'm watching, my bf just goes and does his own thing, not really a big deal.