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I understood that any girl i was likey to get into a relationship with might have had sexual partners before me, and i was ok with that. grow up and learn that things aren't what there were in teh dark ages. women have the same freedom as we do. If your calling all the women whores what are the men????
No.
Monocrat here is a bitter little boy who keeps coming back, saying something really deliberately obnoxious, and getting banned.
he's been banned about 15 times now.
He should get a life.
Too busy trolling to get laid.
I don't know of one sociable male that hasn't met a female who has a hypocritical love life. They say they want one thing, but do something seemingly opposite.
I wouldn't call them 'whores' simply because I don't know a lot of women who sleep around, but they do tend to be selective and picky. They can be because usually it is males trying to get females. However, just because you can doesn't make it right.
Being described as nice is insignificant. You can pay for dinner, a film, dessert. You can speak of nothing but compliments and care, and all you'll come away with is a waste of time and money. Simply concluded: you need more.
I'm 26. I've been single for a couple of years now, kissed my first girl when I was 18/19, got intimate with another after seeing her for a few months - I'd have been just over 20. Lived with another for 3 years, had a quick fling with a friend afterward - and didn't like it. The idea of casual sex never held any appeal for me, and after trying it a couple of times, it really didn't sit comfortably.
I've been single ever since. And whilst on occasion I do miss female company, on the whole I'm very happy with myself - and I think I'm one of the few people in life who don't need to have somebody of the opposite sex next to them in order to feel confident, loved, or to have constant reassurances.
I have a handful of very close friends - both male and female, and positively enjoy their company. They are all very different to each other - some are the brightest in their year(s) at university, others perform manual labour. I treat them all equally, and would do anything for any of them. Including not shouting at 4am when one of them can't get a taxi, and is 30-odd miles from home...
Seriously, whilst many of the people I meet in life appear to be semi-decent on the surface, if you care to delve just a little deeper, I find you often don't like what you see.
And yes, I do have a very dim view of the world, and more importantly, it's people. I admitted to myself earlier this year that I was depressed, and had been for as long as I could remember(20-odd years...), and I'm trying to work it all out for myself. But with so many selfish, thoughtless, careless, and quite possibly evil people out there, I often wonder why I even care...
Anyway... night
Initially I agreed with the guy who started this off. Being told you're "nice" gets really annoying when you're told a lot of women are looking for "nice" but you get nothing in the way of relationships whatsoever.
Being told "let's just be friends" also gets a bit wearing too - but rather than beat myself over the head with it, I try to keep in mind that being referred to as 'nice' enough for a girl to want to be friends with me is still a compliment - just not the compliment I'm looking for.
I know people are only trying to help (and in the case of this forum, only some people want to help or so it seems...) and when they say "you'll meet the right person one day" I know they mean well - it's just I've been looking for such a long time and despite their best intentions, hearing the same thing over and over again no longer means anything like it used to.
For me, the guy who started off the thread and anyone else in this position I guess we're left to try and get our heads around the possibility that it's not them, the girls who seem to 'fob us off' with apparent BS in order to not want to "hurt your feelings".....it's us.
Glad I didn't join in here then.
Everybody has relationship problems - ask them. My Sacrifice has, Girl Interrupted has, your mother has and everybody else at this planet called Earth. Either you bite the sour apple and get on with your life, waiting for a partner, or you could ask a forum on the internet for advice.
PS: We can't give you a girlfriend, and we can't scowl on those who reject you - so wait until someone worthy comes along.
Thanks - but the words 'teapot' and 'chocolate' spring to mind
And ain't that the truth.
One of my best mates is nice, but I don't want to date her. Ever.
Seriously though... What the hell is wrong with women wanting fun? We're not here simply for the enjoyment of men. What's wrong with one night stands, open or polyamorous relationships? Why can't people live a little?
Every time you're intimate with somebody you form a social contract (if you make sure that they know where they stand) and it's your duty to stick to that. So whether you want long term love, or overnight rental doesn't matter hugely unless somebody cheats.
I dunno, I think its some kind of weird hetero thing... :rolleyes:
I'm wondering if you're joking over this?
If not then that's completely untrue. I know sexually sanctamonious prats of all sexualties, and quite a few of them are asexual or repressed homosexuals. Hence their resentment of people shagging for fun - they feel no desire to have sex, or repress their desire for gay sex, and thus end up hating women.
Regardess of sexuality they are all sad fucks. I'd feel sorry for most of them if wasn't for their loathsome attitudes and moralistic hatred which characterises them.
I cant help to think that your just some loser or nerd or creep even, who has no looks or interests that would make a "girl" attract to you. Like really, i know your probably going for girls who you have NO chance in being with, try LOWERING your expectations towards woman.Try relaxing more, and trust me, entering a relationship with those kind of prospectives in mind about women will leave you alone with your hand or pinkie or whatever u beat it with for the rest of your life!
Also, have you ever though about trying to be with men, since your so into the whole "woman suck" attitude?? Maybe ud be happier!!!!!!!!! lol
However in these groups there are those that dislike "anyone" having "too much" sex, and ...
Ok, i see what you're saying...but that dichotomy amongst promiscuous heterosexuals is less prominent than you might think...a lot of this "oh she's a slut for shagging x amount of people" bullshit does come from sexually inactive people regardless of orientation. I know quite a few very selective bi girls and guys (meet/know them through the drugs scene) who are inclined to make these comments...it all stems from personal problems coupled with the conservative cultural legacy (although evidently the latter is more often disregarded by gays and bi's).