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Anyway I wasn't saying that I don't want sex, because I do. I have just made the decision that if I am sleeping with someone, I want to do it when I am ready, and that most likely will be in a stable relationship.
And why would you want to shag someone if you didn't want their babies? I would not sleep with someone if I was not attracted to someone, and the reason we are attracted to the opposite sex is to have eachother's babies. But there is a difference between that and actually wanting a child, which I'm sure someone will miss. Also if there is a 'mistake' I personally would like to be sure I can deal with the consequences without having to resort to abortion.
My opinions were not influenced by indoctrination. My parents don't mind if Im an escort, as long as I can live with the choices I make. I came to my conclusion through simple logical choices, which is cold, but the easiest way to live my life IMHO.
It's a very real human instainct as old as nature it's self. Where does this notion that sex special come from - your parents, school, the media? In the scheme of things it's relatively a very modern concept. Why supress your desires? I think those that treat sex as such are missing out.
Because it's fun? and it feels good.
Wise up renzo!
Well good for you...for 90% of use it was meaningless fun...who cares ya only live once eh?
I fucking depsise people who take the moral highground...yeh so what if you choose not to have sex but don't think you're some God/Godess over it! Get over yourselves! :cool: I'm sooooooooooooooo cooooooool yah yah yah :cool: :cool: :cool:
Does anyone spot the irony?
I've constantly got the impression that celibate people on this forum tihnk they're some sort of brilliant people because they can resist the temptation of sex and that we should admire them for their feats! :rolleyes: Well fuck that...i chose to deny that and I don't see any reasons why people should stay celibate except for religious or low sex drive reasons....otherwise...they're hiding something (this is for 16 and overs of course
Is it not better to regret the things you did, rather than regret the things you didn't do. College and uni are the best times to experience casual sex.
Do you not worry the the window for having fun is passing you by?
I'm glad I've had my fun when I did because later on I want to settle down, get a proper missus and maybe have kids.
I definintely think it's better to experience all that early on.
I'd personally hate to get older then suddenly realise i'd missed out.
2. Im only 19, plenty of time left. Uni isnt all about shagging, my time here has been totally valuable and worth it with all the OTHER experiences ive had.
3. To some it might be "meaningless fun" but i havnt got to that stage. Trust me if i had taken the opportunities i'd had i would have regretted it.
I bet it makes you guys feel so big trying to make be feel like some weirdo :rolleyes:
ETA: Ive only been vaguely confident with girls since coming to uni anyway, beforehand i wouldnt have even beleived i could have done it. Its not all shagging you know.
with all due respect, how can you possibly say 'this man gives me the BEST sex i could ever have?'. if you've only had sex with him then you can't possibly compare him to anyone else can you.
Those of you who pressure others to lose their virginity - stop it. I'm getting sick of this intolerance. You may well subscribe to a culture where you must lose your V-plates as early as possible, but thankfully, some of us have more sense. You talk about individual choice and freedom, yet condemn anyone who refuses to have sex early and often. Live and let live. :mad:
No ones putting any pressure on Renzo to lose his virginity. I doubt he got offline yesterday and thought ooh must shag someone cos the people on thesite told me to :rolleyes:
We were simply challenging his views on virginity. Nothing more.
At last someone who is talkin some sense
You've just claimed people who wait "have more sense" which defeats your entire argument, justifies what you're moaning about and illustrates Turlough's point perfectly.
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If it's a confidence thing, i don't think anyone's going to have a go at about that. It's no sex as morality which gets on people's tits.
Who knows. I'm not about to trawl through 10 pages to find out!
Surely if someone abstains because they are waiting for the right person, and do not wanna shag about, that's a moral reason? Cos they think shagging about is bad?
I don't really know what moral means!
Of or concerned with the judgment of the goodness or badness of human action and character: moral scrutiny; a moral quandary.
Teaching or exhibiting goodness or correctness of character and behavior: a moral lesson.
Conforming to standards of what is right or just in behavior; virtuous: a moral life.
Arising from conscience or the sense of right and wrong: a moral obligation
Moral applies to personal character and behavior, especially sexual conduct
taken from http://dictionary.reference.com/search?q=moral
Ready for what though? It's a natural human instinct to have sex.
Social conditioning has got us this far ya c!
It's pretty obvious we've conditioned ourselves to ignore our natural instincts in return for social issues.
"Waiting till the right moment"
"Don't want to look like a slag"
"Don't believe in sex before marriage"
Our ancestors were at it like rabbits. What do you think the purpose of living is? To live and reproduce...same with all animals.
Our ancestors were at it like rabbits? Hold on a minute - not all of them. Ok, there are religious people, you get me on that. However, I feel that the atheists/agnostics nowadays are more blatant, if you see what I mean. They display their thoughts more conspicuously.
"Just fuck around, man!" is the motto I hear every day. I feel depressed now.
There's nothing immoral with having sex, but blatantly shouting out: "Hey, enjoy, fucking 'round is the meaning of life!" IS, which is where my opinion lies on the matter.
Ding-dong! You are pressuring Renzo, or at least I think you are. Show some decency and respect.
Also, you folks actually managed to change my opinion on this.