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But i still have lots of time to be thinking about the abuse. I know is normal when in counselling but i feel just on my mind constantly now.
I keep thinking of being weak and giving up on my body too soon aswell as thinking about the last time i had contact with him (him admiting he forced sexual acts after i said no)
Maybe TRIGGERING
Ive been thinking maybe its not completly impossible to just not wee for 3 days. And that it was me who weed on him and cant be forced. Cause my body. But i don’t know maybe not possible anyway. And then ive just been thinking about that how the longer i was there the more i gave up on trying to not wee on him, i still tried to not to but maybe not as much as first time. which sounds contradictive but then maybe that was a good thing because i think apart of his wee fetish was seeing people desperate to wee and that would be giving him what he wanted. I don’t know. I want to stop thinking about it now
i had a dream it happened again. But this time not him weeing on me. It was when i weed on him and in the dream i couldnt move at all. But then i actually weed myself in my sleep qnd lol this is so embarrassing to type but i feel sooo bad i cant take it. I literally feel as disgusted as i did then. Omg i want to die 😭😭😭😭😭😭😭😭😭😭😭😭
It's not easy to talk through abuse in therapy and it sounds like you're starting to open up a bit more which is a huge step. This is challenging, but you're trying and although you're halfway through your sessions, it's still okay to take your time. Have you spoken to your counsellor about how you're feeling about the sessions ending?
It's understandable for the abuse to be on your mind constantly at the moment. Often we block trauma out of our minds as a way to protect ourselves, and talking through it in counselling can trigger those feelings to come back which can be challenging to cope with as we haven't had the opportunity to process them before. How are you coping with this being on your mind at the moment?
It sounds like you're feeling a lot of blame for what happened to you. Try not to blame yourself for what happened Shaunie, you did what you had to survive and that doesn't make you weak or dirty. It makes you brave
still 10 sessions which i gues is quite a lot and i havent said much in 10 sessions about the abuse but starting to trust her more so hopeful the rest will start getting more helpful.
i have weekend off work as hoilday. So thought id feel better but not really. I self harm alot when i woke up but feel bit better since then & try to clean the house on day off lol.
But im so proud of myself, im starting to speak and text more people. Im speaking to someone ive meet once on a friends meal called chloe and shes sooo nice and really easy to speak to. Ive started speaking to her cause she was a fb group but shes so nice and funny. Kinda scared to meet up with her though cause only meet her once lol but are planning to meet up and do some christmas shopping together. And im also going to meet another friend Sian and ive known her for ages so that should be good. And then im meeting my oher friend from school which was the last person i meet with and her other friends for her birthday but im too scared for that. But lol shes changed a lot cause shes muslem and used to never drink now shes like proper different lool
Hey @Shaunie
It’s amazing how far you’ve come recently. Opening up about traumatic experiences is incredibly hard and you’re doing so well. I can’t imagine how hard it is for you.
Hopefully now that you are starting to trust your counsellor more, you’ll be able to talk more about the abuse you went through in a more professional setting. It’s good that you still have 10 sessions left. Are you able to get more sessions if you feel like you need it afterwards?
I’m glad to hear you’re getting out and seeing friends! Keeping busy and meeting new people is so important for mental health!
Hope you’re feeling better today and enjoy the rest of your weekend off!
now im scared to go to sleep
I cant stop fantising about death and how i could end it all in a matter of seconds. Ive hardly had any good days since he took all myy dignity and i neever will. And i will never even get justice. No one probably even believes me. Im going to show the counsellor those nessages too, of him admitting it
Can i post them on here again, with his name in the screenshot? You can all tell him to kill himself
and he said "Yh and I'm honestly sorry" thats clear admitting it right ? I want to send it so can see that ita real and came from a real
instagram account
I dont want to leave my bed or do anything snd my family are strssing me out. Feels too much. I just want to die sooooo sooo much. Im fed up. I dont enjoy this life. Never will.
You don’t need to post any screenshots here, of course we already believe you. He’s admitting guilt by saying sorry but it’s a little too late for apologies isn’t it - I don’t think you’re dirty at all but I think he’s a disgusting person. It sounds like it would be a good idea to talk to your counsellor about it and show them the messages too like you said before - when’s your next session?
sending you hugs
- Lucy
I keep having dreams now that im in public place and there are no toilets so then yeah im jusy thinking of humilation and not as horrible as the dreams with him in it. But still horrible.
Just wanted to pop on to offer you some hugs and let you know that we all really care about you here.
Do you want to chat some more about anything?
Dreams can be scary sometimes, are the dreams something you have experienced before or is it a new thing?
Also just want to echo what Lucy has said, we believe everything that you tell us
Do take care
I have a time limit of when embarrassing problem to get better by not soonish - not this year and after that i feel like i seriously will kill myself. But not nessicarly have a plan on how to do that. I just think im going to seriously give up soon. It all makes sense. No one knows what its actually like for me