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I never have done, but im 22 and dont see that i have to if thats what i want.
But I finish university soon and my self-harming and depression is so bad that I could not possibly get a job or do the thing that I really want to do (emmigrate).
They have given me several options (to be discussed next week) but they included things like going to a day hospital every day (monday to friday) for a year whilst living off benefits and being in temporary housing (like a B&B she said- would have to get in touch with the homeless person's unit to find out). I couldn't really hide that from my parents even if I wanted to.
Well it certainly won't work if you go in with that attitude.
It does work actually, but only if you are prepared to give it a go. Just as with anything else in life that's worth anything, it doesn't come cheap.
Talking about your feelings and- more importantly- how you react to those feelings is the only way to get better. Being better is a behaviour that needs to be learned, and you don't learn if you never go to the lesson.
I told my mum, but only when I had to.
She saw my arms once, but nothing more was said until I needed her help to get some therapy. As it turned out the NHS bumped me right to the top of the queue and I got straight in, but I was still glad she knew afterwards. It was like a weight had been lifted.
Yeah, that makes sense.
I had to be coaxed into the couch too, but it made it so much easier once I was there.
It's easier to talk if you can't see the person. Or it was for me. It was a lot easier to be more open, because I could just talk to the room instead of a living person. If that makes any sense. My last session was so weird because she had me sat in the chair, not on the couch.
You should really seriously try the couch hon. It seems a little weird at first, maybe a little vulnerable, but its so much better than having to look the therapist in the eye. Easier to be more honest, I found.
i lost my job and didnt even bother sorting out benefits. finally got back into proper work after 10months but nobody even suggested anything. at one point i even told my therapist i had a plan and date set to commit suicide and was still left on my own for a week. obviously i failed, and managed to keep going.
As for the couch- wish we had one! Where do you all go?? my therapist sees me in a room in our local doctors surgery.
I know he only says it because he cares for me, but it still pisses me off.
I think I've turned a corner now, I really geniualy dont think that I need to cut any more to cope, I just need to find a way to deal with the depression without ADs.
Only a scratch, but I fucking did it.
IT's only a scratch, but I couldn't fucking stop myself until after I'd made it bleed. After everything I've said on here, I can't even follow my own fucking advice.
Take care
And now you move on.
Unfortunately, there isn't anything you can do now. It is in the past.
*Everyone* has relapses. Simple as.
You have always given good advice on here. Always. And nothing you have just done has changed that. You have had an awful week and if I was in your position then I would probably have done similar. You are only human after all.
And you are not a failure. Remember that. Remember that above everything else.
Don't let this affect you too much. As harsh as that may sound. Try and relax a bit this weekend, spend time with your wife and try and put it behind you. xx
fuck shit one mate...well i've been reading your posts and you know how to get over it yourelf.
But I feel so lonely... and I'm finding it very hard to cope... Especially in my own room, at uni, with so much work to do...
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Just think of how good your doing in not SH. Its an acomplishment. Feel free to bother me if your ever lonely. I hope your work can take your mind off things.
The work does kinda help, but at times it really doesn't. Like when I'm so spun up in my emotions I find it hard to concentrate!
I guess there are just good days and bad days that we have to enjoy and get through.
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Why not?
Family first...strangers last.
There's a difference?
I'm confuzzled.
A psychologist/ psychotherapist is not a doctor of medicine and they don't prescribe. They do the therapy stuff.
I'm sorry I have not explained it well. But they psychologists/ psychotherapists are far more like a mummy than a psychiatrist ever is.