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Erm what's wrong with that?
Ah fuck away off would you!
That their child is self-harming. That they're depressed.
And fiends deliberate "oh not everyone comes from a loving family like yours" misses the point by a million miles!
What if you think they wouldn't be able to take it.
When I started self-harming it was on the night that we learnt that my mother has breast cancer. I couldn't possibly have added that on to her already awful day.
Ok go to someone else in your family you can trust. Personally, I wouldn't hide something like that from my family. In fact, I reckon it would make me more depressed...like having this hidden secret, feeling guilty about it.
A few years later I had been getting family close to another family member (my step-brother) and was nearly at the point that I could trust him enough to tell him as he was like a brother to me. But then he decided he liked me as more than a sister and stuff happened and now I don't even trust him.
They don't though.
Is it deliberate?
It doesn't miss the point at all.
You don't tell family things like this. You often don't tell friends like this. You can't. You just can't.
You're right, it isn't good to hide it. But you cut because you want to hide it, you hide your cuts and pretend everything is fine. To admit otherwise is failure. Being weak, not being good enough.
Therapy is great because you can tell them about anything. A good therapist isn't a stranger. I went to my therapist for three years, that's not being a stranger. I've known her longer than some of my friends.
You can never be totally open about everything to someone you know, or who knows the things you talk about. You just can't. I could talk openly to my therapist, knowing it wouldn't go any further.
And yeh I think she did say it deliberately just to piss me off!
Basically, though it's not quite as simple as that.
You can't talk to mummy about things which are mummy's fault.
I still get the urge to do it, esp when i'm drunk or stressed out. Just had a complete fucker of a secret dumped on me by the sort-of boyf. Which I have taken to so well, so trying to not use the old coping mechanisms.
It's a long time since I felt this low. I don't like it
I agree. I feel as though my family perhaps should know. Maybe it would be better that way. But I don't want them to know. I don't think they should have to deal with that. That's my choice, and I think it should be respected.
Does anyone else find that when they go to see their therapist/gp whoever, whatever you thought was bothering you seems to stupid to mention??
I don't want to feel anything. I want to be completely numb.
Of course he'l keep saying it when you're not there, you give him attention.
It is emotional blackmail. No relationship can survive on emotional blackmail.
There are reasons why your relationship ended. Concentrate on those.
At the end of the day, the person who is most important is you.
Everyone who'd be affected has someone else to turn to for support, so they'd be ok.
There's too much guilt for me to do anything drastic to myself.