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Do you know what, I've said I'm alone and I feel angry, and comments like that really aren't fucking helping.
I post on here to get out what I'm feeling, don't bother replying if you have nothing helpful to say.
The first time you have to bump into an ex after a break up can be really painful and it's understandable that you feel hurt by the kids reaction, they might be pretty confused by the situation, it's hard to know. What is clear is that you really did care about them and wanted to do the best for them and nothing has to change that.
Big hugs.. support chat is on later if you need to talk and/or get some distraction tonight *hug**hug*
I'm feeling angry and really stressed out. I keep snapping at people
Took 3 codeine tablets yesterday to help calm me down and it did work, made me really relaxed. Might take 3 more if I carry on like this cause I hate myself.
The other he's put a status telling everyone that I've reported him to NSPCC because he doesn't wash, feed, or play with his kids. Why the hell would I do that!? The kids mean a lot to me and I would never try and keep them away from their dad! And who the hell has reported him? Because obviously they've done it to make my ex think it was me! Why would someone do that!?
I don't know what I have done so wrong to deserve this! And I can't believe he's posted all of this on a social network site!
Feel like fucking shit now! More crying for me.
It will be ok. I will keep texting you until chat to try and keep you busy. Stay strong and remember there are people here who want to help you and will help you xx
I blocked him when we broke up so I can't see anything he puts or report anything he puts.
Somebody that is friends with him on Facebook rang me and told me what he had put and what everyone who has commented have put. They're all saying horrible things. It just frustrates me that I know it's all lies but nobody else thinks it is.
I'll be alright. Was just a massive shock. I thought things had already been as worse as they could but I was wrong.
What can you do today to look after yourself? Maybe try and identify a couple of things that you enjoy doing or that give you pleasure and make sure you do them for yourself today.
They can be little things like having some food or a hot drink you like and sitting somewhere comfy for a while with a dvd or a book. Or going for a walk or having a hug with the dog. Or talking to a friend. Or drawing something. Or listening to a song you like. When you're feeling worn out emotionally and drained you need to make sure you actively take care of yourself as much as you can.
Be gentle with yourself *hug*
My nephew is coming today, he's nearly 10 months. Later I could have a cup of tea and watch moulin rouge. Walking the dog is part of my pledge so I could do that.
It's the fact that I have to spend time with people when I'm feeling like this. Forcing a smile isn't the easiest thing.
My ex called the police and said I was harassing him. Just found out now that they went to his this morning. They didn't come and see me so I hope he realises now that I did not report him to the nspcc, and I hope everyone else realises that I didn't do any of the things he's saying I did do.
I know you don't want to report him, I know you feel guilty about it... that's what he's done to you. You feel like going against him would be to betray all the 'good' he did for you.
But past good means nothing if he's treating you like shit now. It's not the best thing for your kids if they stay with their father, really. It's hard to think otherwise but... if a friend was in the exact same situation as you - being unable to see their kids, being slandered and harassed etc. what would you tell them to do?
At the very least, keep records of what he's doing. Then you've got evidence of things if you finally feel strong enough to go to the police.
I broke down on the phone the other day to my uni friend and she's coming to see me this evening. I know that I'll most probably end up crying again. Uh.
I'm sorry to hear that you are feeling upset, I know you have said you are tired of explaining things but just wanted you to know that there is always someone here at The Site if you wanted to offload. We are here for you*hug*.
Take Care,
Becky.
Spent most of tonight crying and fighting the urge to harm myself. I've taken a few codeine tablets to calm me down.
I know I drone on about things, and I know that I just keep saying similar things over and over. Sorry everyone.
I am sick to death of everyone being so horrible about me. I want to know who keeps reporting him about things to make it look like me. I have done nothing to deserve this. When we broke up I grabbed his neck for 3 seconds to get him off me! you can tell by the picture he took and posted on facebook, they're just 2 little red marks. But that seems to be enough for him to play on it and use it against me as much as possible! I should have just let him beat me up!! I think my life would be easier right now if I had. He actually did hurt me a lot and I never bragged about it, and never will. I grabbed his neck for 3 seconds to GET HIM OFF ME! Why is he doing this!? I honestly want to know! Someone has reported him for benefit fraud. Yes, I was thinking about doing this but I didn't. Who the fuck did? Who is trying to make everything worse for me? Well whoever it is, they're succeeding! So thank you, and well done. Think I've lost my job. Supposed to be at least 3 days a week, not even done one day this week and not heard from her. Obviously she's seen or heard about what he's been saying and clearly doesn't want some stupid cow like me around her son. I wonder what's next.
Sorry, everything just started pouring out then.
Please don't worry about the job. I know it is hard not to over think it but I am sure there is a reasonable explanation for it and it is nothing to do with you. I know it is hard to try and forget about your ex and it isn't going to happen over night but you did not deserve anything he did to you and violence is never acceptable so you shouldn't feel like you should have let it happen. Have you had any contact with your ex since you broke up?
Maybe you could try and not go on facebook for a while. I did this once and even though it was a completely different situation it worked. I got my friend who I trusted to change my password so there was no way that I could get on it unless she gave me the password so when I wanted to I couldn't. You are not a stupid cow. You are a lovely girl who we all want to help. *hug*
It will be ok KC