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Oh there are areas where there is inequality in the other direction. But it's a fallacy to suggest that anyone who calls themselves a feminist is any more in favour of these inequalities as inequalities against women. No, they just tend to focus their energies on inequalities against women, because there are more of them.
Have you read any Freud? If so, what do you think his writings said about his attitude towards women? Freud has been widely criticised for being sexist.
In my opinion - unfortunately not. Because the right to bodily integrity has to be safeguarded, as it is of such fundamental importance, that even in cases like these, once a woman is pregnant, no one can force her to terminate it.
Ideally speaking however, we might want to argue that she owes him some form of compensation. There is a definite wrong that has occurred, she has done something wrong to him and there is a need for some sort of rectification, however inadequate it is.
But forcing someone to have a termination would be equivalent to cutting the hand of a thief or capital punishment. Even if you think the outcome would be the best one, the means by which you get there are inexcusable.
I've never read Freud, but I've heard that the first thing you learn on any psychology degree is that everything he ever said was bullshit.
Hmmm I hadn't considered it being used for revenge.
Don't ever think I was belittling what a woman goes through during pregnancy. Having watched my wife go through it, to term, three times shows me the pressure that the female physology and emotions suffer as a consequence. I'm under no illusions about that.
Which is more my point. It's not you that's wonderful, per se, but nature. It is my deign of nature that's it's the woman that goes through that, not by choice of individual.
So the hours of sleeplessness, the fact that I took over most of the tasks around the house, dealt with the emotions of a wife who, at times, had difficulties as well as my own (for example) are irrelevant?
The fact that when we had the one miscarriage there was great support for her, but I was left to sob my heart out alone - after all I'm just the father so it wasn't happening to me, is fine?
I don't think so.
As a father I don't go through the changes to my body in the same way that a mother does. I knwo that, I did biology at school. However, that doesn't mean that a pregnancy doesn't also have a significant impact on the father too. To suggest otherwise is, frankly, insulting.
My point really, given the issue of this thread, is that we all have a role to play in pretty much every situation. It is beholden upon us not to badge something purely as a "women's issue" because that is discriminatory too.
I feel that I need to repeat myself because the mists seem to have fallen over my previous comments.
I would never argue that a father should have the right of veto when it comes to abortion. Never.
But abortion isn't a women's issue. An abortion affects both partners. To deny that is to deny nature. At the moment males have no rights when it comes to abortion. None. Zip. Nada. Yet they are directly affected by whatever decision is made.
Some feminists think that men shouldn't even have opinions on the subject, let alone be able to vote on laws about them. Personally that appalls me.
Now, surely that's enough about abortion specifically? It one tiny part of equality in the eyes of the law and I suspect that we detract from a thread which is very important. We still live in a country where women's rights aren't being upheld. I would repeat what I say about abortion, and why I mentioned it at all. Piss poor rights for women doesn't make those "women's issues", they are actually a scar on us all.