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he dosent hit me, its mainly grabbing me by the throat and throwing me on the bed or floor and twisting my arms round. he does it only when i stand infront of the door to try and stop him leaving and grab his arms to try and stop him walking out cus i know if he would just calm down and listen to me about whatever we are arguing about then we can work it out. so basically if i didnt get in his way i woulnd get hurt so i kinda bring it on my self, i could just let him walk out but i don't want him to leave bacause im scared of what he will go and do. last time he went to a bar and gave out his number to three diffrent women
thank you for the link Helen, i will take a look at that in a min.
i'm going to his flat tonight as mum has said he is not welcome in our house anymore after royally stitching them up 2day. he has also lost out on a 3 month job they were going to give him becuase JSA and housing benifits have stopped paying him cus he aint had a job in so long so hes going to have to go back to earning money by doing dodgy things
he was questioning on me about a guy i slept with 5 years ago, i told him the truth that yes me and matey did once have a fling and he got proper funny and refused to speak to me. he told me i made him feel sick and then he started burping and stuff and ran to the bathroom and threw up all in the toilet. i'm so discusting and dirty i made my own boyfriend VOMIT. i was sat there in the bedroom listning to the man i love be sick becuase he is so discusted over me. it was one of the worse feelings in the world. he then came back into the bedroom and layed back down and i tryed to say sorry and touch his arm but he just ran to the toilet again and threw up, i could hear the sick hitting the water in the toilet and i can honestly say it felt like my heart was breaking.
i finaly got him talking to me and he broke down in tears saying he wishes he met me when i was a virgin and had never been with another guy. he said he dont want to be with me anymore because i make him sick with some of the stuff i have done in the past and people i have slept with that he knows.
:yes: Personally, I think you need get out of this relationship as it's doing you no good.
@Suzycreamcheese - Maybe she doesnt have any self eesteem? im sure she has enough on her plate without you pointing fingers.
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I agree, I think no-one would dispute that there are issues with low self-esteem here and counselling sounds like a really sensible option. :yes:
Fully agree, i just believe Suzy is stating the truth as to what's behind this lasses reason for staying with the loser and that is low self-esteem.
Who cares if you are alone when you leave him? Who cares if people look down on you for doing it? (Which, of course, no one will, but it seems to be one of your fears). As long as you are safe, nothing else matters. You can then build up from there and start afresh.
Run through the nests and get rid of the beast. NOW!
Read in detail what advice people have said on this thread, and reread what you have said he has done to you.