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Re: Feeling inferior
Hey @TheNightmare
I completely understand where you're coming from, it must be quite disheartening when some of your friends are in work but you haven't landed anything yet. It's really good to hear that you're looking for some volunteering placements though. These can be super helpful at showing employers that, along with your college courses, you are developing soft skills which are super helpful for a wide range of jobs.
I agree that it can be so difficult to get help and support with this type of thing once you've left education, but it is really positive to hear that you are putting in a lot of effort to getting a placement somewhere and that you have some form of support in place at the moment. It's super important to remember that you are doing the best you can right now, it sounds like you're really making an effort.
I think with these things it also depends on the time of year you apply for jobs and placements too, I know at Christmas time it can be quite hard to land a permanent job anywhere, hopefully it'll get a little easier in the new year. Just remember you always have the community to lean on when you need it
I completely understand where you're coming from, it must be quite disheartening when some of your friends are in work but you haven't landed anything yet. It's really good to hear that you're looking for some volunteering placements though. These can be super helpful at showing employers that, along with your college courses, you are developing soft skills which are super helpful for a wide range of jobs.
I agree that it can be so difficult to get help and support with this type of thing once you've left education, but it is really positive to hear that you are putting in a lot of effort to getting a placement somewhere and that you have some form of support in place at the moment. It's super important to remember that you are doing the best you can right now, it sounds like you're really making an effort.
I think with these things it also depends on the time of year you apply for jobs and placements too, I know at Christmas time it can be quite hard to land a permanent job anywhere, hopefully it'll get a little easier in the new year. Just remember you always have the community to lean on when you need it
Re: General chit chat
hope everyone is having a gd day remember your an amazing person inside & out ❤️
That's really kind, really appreciate it and I'm sure everyone else appreciates it too ❤️
Re: 🎅🏻🎄Christmas film quiz! Thursday 19th December🎄🎅🏻
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Re: ill be back ❤️
hey @eylah hope you're doing okay this morning and that your sister is too. take as much time as you need and we are always here to support you. fingers crossed she makes a speedy recovery. and remember to take care of yourself too. 
Re: I’m Often worried about being hurt in public
Hey @bignosegirly0
I think as a woman (unfortunately) it's not surprising to hear that you feel this way, I know for me something that helps me feel safe when I leave the house or when I'm outside is being aware of my surroundings, not having my music too loud in my headphones so I can hear what's going on, and not stopping or acknowledging strangers trying to get my attention. Sometimes pretending to be on the phone is helpful too, people seem less likely to bother someone who is on the phone. I do want to end this by saying that these are all things you can do to make yourself feel safer, but it's definitely not your responsibility to make sure other people don't hurt you. It's on them to be better people. I also think it's lovely that you've acknowledged that 99% of the time, you're safe. That's huge, and something to focus on whenever you do feel those fears creeping up. Given the world we live in, your fears are valid but that doesn't mean they will necessarily come true. I hope this was helpful
I think as a woman (unfortunately) it's not surprising to hear that you feel this way, I know for me something that helps me feel safe when I leave the house or when I'm outside is being aware of my surroundings, not having my music too loud in my headphones so I can hear what's going on, and not stopping or acknowledging strangers trying to get my attention. Sometimes pretending to be on the phone is helpful too, people seem less likely to bother someone who is on the phone. I do want to end this by saying that these are all things you can do to make yourself feel safer, but it's definitely not your responsibility to make sure other people don't hurt you. It's on them to be better people. I also think it's lovely that you've acknowledged that 99% of the time, you're safe. That's huge, and something to focus on whenever you do feel those fears creeping up. Given the world we live in, your fears are valid but that doesn't mean they will necessarily come true. I hope this was helpful
briannat
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Re: 18/12/24 Christmas Support Thread
TheNightmare wrote: »
It's my friends child. My friend is staying at mine right now so I have the bed time duties haha@TheNightmare
I'm back now Haha, cool, I hope you have a great time though on a serious note.
Re: 18/12/24 Christmas Support Thread
@eylah I'm sorry to hear about your sister, it sounds like a really worrying and stressful. Wishing her a speedy recovery. It's completely understandable to find Christmas lonely. You have us to keep you company if you wanted to join the movie afternoon and quizzes.
Can you think of something you might like to do at Christmas? I like to catch up on TV or read when I'm on my own, sometimes the radio is company too.
That;s great news about your medication, I'm proud of how hard you are trying
Can you think of something you might like to do at Christmas? I like to catch up on TV or read when I'm on my own, sometimes the radio is company too.
That;s great news about your medication, I'm proud of how hard you are trying
Claire28
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Re: Why I think I worry so much and feel so negative
Hi @TheNightmare, thank you so much for sharing what's been on your mind - I can see that you've been reflecting about why you're in your current position, how do you feel now that you've gotten this out of your chest?
It sounds like you have a harsh inner critic, which can be helpful in some occasions (like ensuring that you do your work to the best of your ability), but it can be quite damaging sometimes - it's especially sensitive when you haven't achieved success. Perhaps it would help for you to seek feedback from employers after an interview/application you submitted - most of them provide constructive feedback, and you may find that the applicant pool was quite tough, and the reason why you didn't get the job might not necessarily be because of anything wrong with your application/performance. It's also a good way to find out about what you've done well, which is important to remember.
Having said that, as you move forward in your job search, maybe celebrating your tiny victories can help you feel better, even if you didn't get a job. For example, it can be as simple as editing a paragraph in an application, or turning up to an interview and trying your best.
I hear you when you say that it's difficult to shake the fear of failure, and it can be easy to get caught up on your setbacks. But it sounds like you're learning a lot and seeing ways to improve and do even better. I sympathise with your struggle, it's incredibly hard to get a job, I think the whole process needs to be improved, especially for entry-level jobs. What are you particularly struggling with when it comes to the job search?
As well as this, taking breaks from searching is very important. It might be that you're burned out and are in need of a break. It might not seem productive, but it's so helpful to recharge so that you approach the whole process with a clear and refreshed mind.
I just want to say that we're all really proud of your growth. You're making a lot of progress and are getting close to where you want to be, even if it might not seem like it. I'm certain that someday, you will get that job that you've been wanting.
Good luck with everything and continue to reach out to us
Kai
It sounds like you have a harsh inner critic, which can be helpful in some occasions (like ensuring that you do your work to the best of your ability), but it can be quite damaging sometimes - it's especially sensitive when you haven't achieved success. Perhaps it would help for you to seek feedback from employers after an interview/application you submitted - most of them provide constructive feedback, and you may find that the applicant pool was quite tough, and the reason why you didn't get the job might not necessarily be because of anything wrong with your application/performance. It's also a good way to find out about what you've done well, which is important to remember.
Having said that, as you move forward in your job search, maybe celebrating your tiny victories can help you feel better, even if you didn't get a job. For example, it can be as simple as editing a paragraph in an application, or turning up to an interview and trying your best.
I hear you when you say that it's difficult to shake the fear of failure, and it can be easy to get caught up on your setbacks. But it sounds like you're learning a lot and seeing ways to improve and do even better. I sympathise with your struggle, it's incredibly hard to get a job, I think the whole process needs to be improved, especially for entry-level jobs. What are you particularly struggling with when it comes to the job search?
As well as this, taking breaks from searching is very important. It might be that you're burned out and are in need of a break. It might not seem productive, but it's so helpful to recharge so that you approach the whole process with a clear and refreshed mind.
I just want to say that we're all really proud of your growth. You're making a lot of progress and are getting close to where you want to be, even if it might not seem like it. I'm certain that someday, you will get that job that you've been wanting.
Good luck with everything and continue to reach out to us
Kai
kaii
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