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@Anonymous55 that’s a very extreme threat she made that wasn’t based on sense. That’s such an absurd move from a teacher. You deserve to feel safe and respected in your learning environment. I agree with what’s been said above - I think you should tell someone you trust about what happened and the impact it had on you.

@Anonymous55 just wanted to say pretty much the same as the others have said. you didn't deserve for your teacher to react the way she did at all. hopefully there's perhaps another member of staff you'd trust to tell about this if you feel you want to, so that it can be addressed.

it's good to hear you've got supportive people around you as well. hope you feel at least a little bit better today.

sending hugs

Oh @Anonymous55 I'm so sorry this happened to you This could've 100% been avoided if your teacher just thought about what she was saying.

Faolan wrote: »

Oh this is so ignorant and annoying. How long have you been her student? She hasn’t even bothered to learn your name? I’d suggest that she starts reading, starts reading the list of her students names because not knowing is pure laziness and openly admitting to not knowing is embarrassing for her.

I just want to echo what @Faolan said because I can't believe she didn't know your name already. I would've thought that was the first step for teachers to build connections with their students - to simply learn their name! This sounds so frustrating and rude.

Anonymous55 wrote: »

"If I ever see you reading your book in my class again, I will burn it."

This is just so harsh and unnecessary for her to say. I understand that you was probably supposed to be marking your answers instead of reading your book, but saying she's going to burn your book is so unneeded. There are worse things you could be doing in her class than simply reading a book!

Anonymous55 wrote: »

The awful thing about this is that I'm not even angry or upset with her. I'm scared of her, because in that moment, the threat seemed very real, and even though I know it's not like she'd actually do that, it's still scary for me because in those few seconds, she dismantled the trust, faith and respect I have for her. She basically told me that she doesn't respect me, my possessions, or the bond between student and teacher. She told me I am not safe in her classroom, that my show of comfort is not welcome, and that the barriers I have built up around myself due to the abuse I have experienced from my peers and teachers are fully necessary withing her class. So now I'm going to have to walk into that class everyday, hunched over my things, avoiding eye contact with her, not speaking a goddamn word or breathing too loud because she thinks that children don't have boundaries we need in order to feel safe around adults, like adults need boundaries around each other.

I hear how much this has affected you @Anonymous55 and it's completely understandable and valid. You genuinely sound so wise and self-aware in your reflections about this situation and I couldn't have put it better myself. To her whilst it may have seemed like a quick comment that she won't lose any sleep over, this has impacted you greatly. I would absolutely recommend telling someone whether that's a teacher or a family member. This deserves to be addressed and you 100% deserve an apology.

I'm really glad you have the support of your friends they sound like really lovely people to lean on. To be seen by others and also to have them be there when terrible things happen like this can make so much difference. To know that you're not alone or over-reacting, because you're really not.

How are you feeling today about it all? Are you able to reschedule your counselling session? I'm sure it would be really useful for you to discuss this with your counsellor in a safe setting, especially with someone who knows you What a terrible ordeal that shouldn't have happened in the first place

@eylah im so sorry you’ve been feeling like this it must be such hard time for you and I’m so sorry about your mum, I can’t imagine what that’s like. i just wanted to share my situation because I relate to some of your feelings (but I know it’s also very different for you and I’m not trying to invalidate you in anyway❤️)

im gonna be having a pretty major surgery for scoliosis in about three weeks and I’ve also been struggling with the idea of some of the potential complications and risks and i completely understand how you’re feeling, overthinking and constantly crying. It’s a hard thing to process but you are so strong and you’ve got this!!

none of what you said sounds silly at all, it must be very hard to process that you will be having surgery in that hospital and all your feelings are completely justified. i have no idea if this is an option for you in anyway but could they potentially organise the surgery to be in a different hospital? and in terms of being alone I promise we are all here for you always and if you ever want to talk more I will be here❤️ (and if it’s possible maybe you could ask a friend to come check on you in hospital if that would help you feel more comfortable? also even it all seems very scary, usually nurses and doctors are really sweet (at least in my experience) and I’m sure they will do they’re best to help you feel comfortable.

hope your doing okay❤️