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Re: 19M looking for friends
@JMMV2005 Im definitely very lucky that I’m able to currently, I’m hoping that when I move out I’ll be able to continue but I know it will be a lot harder 😭😭 definitely do make a list though that would be a great place to start.
One plsce that’s on my list is New York but honestly a road trip across the whole of America would be so cool
One plsce that’s on my list is New York but honestly a road trip across the whole of America would be so cool
Re: 19M looking for friends
@JMMV2005 yess I actually live kinda near Oxford and it is so pretty!! I’m happy you live somewhere nice.
I went to Paris with my friend and family after my GCSEs and it was such a cool experience. Japan is also on my list, hopefully one day you do get to go!!
I went to Paris with my friend and family after my GCSEs and it was such a cool experience. Japan is also on my list, hopefully one day you do get to go!!
Re: im needing pelvic surgery 😣
@eylah im so sorry you’ve been feeling like this it must be such hard time for you and I’m so sorry about your mum, I can’t imagine what that’s like. i just wanted to share my situation because I relate to some of your feelings (but I know it’s also very different for you and I’m not trying to invalidate you in anyway❤️)
im gonna be having a pretty major surgery for scoliosis in about three weeks and I’ve also been struggling with the idea of some of the potential complications and risks and i completely understand how you’re feeling, overthinking and constantly crying. It’s a hard thing to process but you are so strong and you’ve got this!!
none of what you said sounds silly at all, it must be very hard to process that you will be having surgery in that hospital and all your feelings are completely justified. i have no idea if this is an option for you in anyway but could they potentially organise the surgery to be in a different hospital? and in terms of being alone I promise we are all here for you always and if you ever want to talk more I will be here❤️ (and if it’s possible maybe you could ask a friend to come check on you in hospital if that would help you feel more comfortable? also even it all seems very scary, usually nurses and doctors are really sweet (at least in my experience) and I’m sure they will do they’re best to help you feel comfortable.
hope your doing okay❤️
im gonna be having a pretty major surgery for scoliosis in about three weeks and I’ve also been struggling with the idea of some of the potential complications and risks and i completely understand how you’re feeling, overthinking and constantly crying. It’s a hard thing to process but you are so strong and you’ve got this!!
none of what you said sounds silly at all, it must be very hard to process that you will be having surgery in that hospital and all your feelings are completely justified. i have no idea if this is an option for you in anyway but could they potentially organise the surgery to be in a different hospital? and in terms of being alone I promise we are all here for you always and if you ever want to talk more I will be here❤️ (and if it’s possible maybe you could ask a friend to come check on you in hospital if that would help you feel more comfortable? also even it all seems very scary, usually nurses and doctors are really sweet (at least in my experience) and I’m sure they will do they’re best to help you feel comfortable.
hope your doing okay❤️
Re: 🏖️The Mix beach competition🏖️ The mix chronicles!
@ella would you be able to change it please haha
Sure thing!
@Chloe234 @Rose113 I've popped this in community announcements for over the weekend as it deserves to be seen by as many community members as possible! I can really see and hear how much effort went into this
Have either of you considered a career in screenwriting? 
ella
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Re: im needing pelvic surgery 😣
eylah, i’m so sorry that i don’t really know to say to you but i promise you that nothing you had said sounds stupid at all!! how you feel is 100% valid, and if anyone says any different then they are wrong!! i’m always here if you need someone to listen to you - you’ve got this eylah🫶🏻
Re: Taster session tomorrow
@TheNightmare i hope everything’s is good! I know it can feel really scary being in the strange limbo of finding jobs, I’ve been in the same position too waiting for opportunities and being rejected many times after graduation.
It’s tough out there, and one of the only ways out of it is really putting yourself out there, which is difficult especially since it can build such a negative mindset. I think one thing to remember is, one application done is a step forward, it may seem very little and again you have made the notion to move forward closer to your goal. I think changing your perspective in that way, where you quantify and acknowledge what you’ve done different from the day before and celebrating that may help with your negative thinking 🫂
Just remember, we’re all rooting for you here on the mix, don’t be afraid to reach out at all ❤️
It’s tough out there, and one of the only ways out of it is really putting yourself out there, which is difficult especially since it can build such a negative mindset. I think one thing to remember is, one application done is a step forward, it may seem very little and again you have made the notion to move forward closer to your goal. I think changing your perspective in that way, where you quantify and acknowledge what you’ve done different from the day before and celebrating that may help with your negative thinking 🫂
Just remember, we’re all rooting for you here on the mix, don’t be afraid to reach out at all ❤️
Trimina
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Re: Probably something stupid
That's a really sweet idea to do actually and I can imagine how much those cards could lighten up someone's day 
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Amy22
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Re: i keep blaming myself for mum death. 💔
Hi @eylah, thanks so much for your message.
It sounds like this week has been particulary dreadful for you with the nightmares you're experiencing. This process of grieving you're going through sounds so intense and overwhelming. Grief has no timeline so please be gentle with yourself as you go through this. Before going to sleep, what does your routine look like? I know for myself it can be helpful to practice some calming exercises so my mind feels better prepared to go into a state of sleep and relaxation. Here's a link that speaks a bit more about that: https://www.calm.com/blog/how-to-prevent-nightmares
Does this feel like something you'd be interested in checking out?
If you're willing to share, I'd love to hear about some positive memories you had with your mum. The fact that you're coming on here and talking about what's been going on for you is so brave.
Sending lots of care, @eylah. We're all holding you in mind.
It sounds like this week has been particulary dreadful for you with the nightmares you're experiencing. This process of grieving you're going through sounds so intense and overwhelming. Grief has no timeline so please be gentle with yourself as you go through this. Before going to sleep, what does your routine look like? I know for myself it can be helpful to practice some calming exercises so my mind feels better prepared to go into a state of sleep and relaxation. Here's a link that speaks a bit more about that: https://www.calm.com/blog/how-to-prevent-nightmares
Does this feel like something you'd be interested in checking out?
If you're willing to share, I'd love to hear about some positive memories you had with your mum. The fact that you're coming on here and talking about what's been going on for you is so brave.
Sending lots of care, @eylah. We're all holding you in mind.
Sian321
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