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Amy22 wrote: »

From reading your post quite a few times today I actually saw myself in you as this is something I am also struggling with right now too. I know how hard employment is at the moment for young people and it sounds like you are trying your hardest to get into employment. It can be also a challenge to get the motivation to keep trying as well despite having rejections and not finding the right company to work at. I understand how this must be making you feel right now and I hope everything gets sorted out eventually for you . As @JustV mentioned it may be a good idea to ask for feedback on your CV from peers because then you can collate feedback from different people to see how your CV is looking at the moment. I also know sometimes and this is what I tend to do when I apply for jobs (and say I dont get offered the role) I tend to email the company or recruitment office to ask if they can provide feedback so I can improve on my applications in the near future. I know not all companies may be able to have the resources to provide feedback but its worth a shot at doing though. Also, I am always here too if you ever want some help or advice on getting into employment or even a fresh pair of eyes to read over your cv's or cover letter's, im more than happy to lend a hand and help you on your journey.

I also hear that it has been impacting your moods and having an effect on your day to day life and its totally normally to be overthinking about getting or finding work at the moment. It definitely has a major impact on us too because we can often feel bad about not being in work and it can cause a lot of emotional inflictions upon us. It also sounds like your work coach has also been helping you recently which is good to here (work coaches are good at giving feedback on cv's and stuff as well). I also wish you the best for you work placement too as I hope it goes well and fingers crossed it may lead to a permanent position at that company as well . If not it's still good experience and is good to put on your cv at the end of the day as experience is normally what most employers look for in candidates applications.

I hope you are doing okay right now

Sending digital hugs,

Amy22

@Amy22 Thanks so much for your kind message – it really means a lot. It's reassuring to know I’m not alone in this struggle, and your suggestions about asking for feedback on my CV and from companies are really helpful. I’ll give those a try. You’re right; it’s tough on mental health, and sometimes self-doubt creeps in, but hearing from someone who gets it makes a big difference.

Thanks again for your support. Sending digital hugs back to you too

I think in general there may be a big percentage of young people at the moment who are currently struggling to get into employment right now because stuff having with our new goverment and cost cuts etc. So always remember and I know that it can be at times quite isolating for us because we feel like we are the only ones struggling which we are but that there are lots of people in the same boat as well. It can be hard as well when you see others too getting jobs I find and that can add to that worrying factor as well. Aw no worries I am glad to help you out anytime, it's a good shout actually because you never know the companies may be able to offer more support and guidance as well as feedback on your applications. Again, I am always here too if you want to send over you cv and get some feedback on it as well. I noticed that you have been doing a work placement at the moment and I hope that it is going well, it sounds like its been good so far. I just wanted to ask how are you feeling at the moment about your work placement?. It sounds good so far as well and hopefully you have been able to meet other people as well there. I hope your doing ok right now .

Sending hugs,

Amy

Hi @eylah
Having dreams about your mum sounds so tough after everything that's happened
Remembering a loved one after they've passed away can be heartbreaking, especially when they've recently passed. It sounds to me like you were pretty close to her, I'm so sorry that she had to leave you so early.
It sounds like these dreams are waking you up in the middle of the night and making you feel quite upset, is that true?
After you wake up, do you do anything to deal with the dreams?

Sending big hugs through the screen, you're doing so well in such a tough and devastating situation

Hey @bignosegirly0, thank you for sharing your experience here with us, it's brave to be open about these feelings, and I'm glad you felt you could share this in this thread. We see and hear you

I can understand that you're not feeling in a good place right now. It's okay to express your emotions here! I can hear how you're struggling to find a reason to keep going in life, and that you feel frustrated around physical appearance and how people are treated differently based on it. I don't think you're alone in feeling this way - you'd hope that people would treat you fairly, and I don't think it's unreasonable to expect that standard. You do have value and you do deserve respect!

Being mocked about your love life and being treated unfairly due to appearance are awful to go through, and I'm sorry that you've had to go through that. I hear how having body dysmorphia is difficult anyways, but having these experiences as well exacerbate those feelings so much more. To hear how this impacts the hope you hold in the future is upsetting, and makes it clear how much this is weighing on you.

It's clear that you've tried a lot to do something about this - changing your appearance, weight, dress sense - but that it's not giving you the results that you want. It's something that's affecting you a lot, and you're driven to try and do something about it. I wonder, have you spoken to a therapist or counsellor about how you feel? Being able to talk to someone about body dysmorphia and how you feel about yourself and the experiences you've had can be really helpful to lift a weight off your shoulders and perhaps feel a little less alone. Is that something you could consider trying?

I know that you've had experiences related to your physical appearance that have hurt, but from what you've said, it's clear that you're someone who's really trying their best to help themselves and that you expect fair treatment like others. You as a person still have worth and something to contribute, and I hope that you can still hold onto that. We're happy to have you here as part of our community!

I've included some links below to some support services that might be helpful, in case you'd like to speak to someone about how you're feeling:

Crisis Messenger (24/7) | text THEMIX to 85258
Samaritans (24/7) | call 116 123 | email jo@samaritans.org
Papyrus (2pm-midnight) | call 0800 068 41 41 | text 07786 209 697 | email pat@payrus-uk.org
Supportline (hours vary) | call 01708 765 200
Childline | call 0800 11 11

Hey @bignosegirly0, I can understand how acting out in anger is concerning you. It's encouraging to know that you've recognised that there's an issue, and that you've tried mindfulness techniques to distract your mind. It's kind to think about the impact of your behaviour on others

Have you noticed any patterns that trigger these responses? Particular places, people, topics etc?

I don't have much guidance to offer myself, but just wanted to let you know that you're seen and heard here. I hope that someone is able to share their experience or tips that worked for them with you. We're here to support you