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Re: Smile, say it’s okay ~ poem
what another lovely poem - you really do have such a way with words
Re: Doctors appointment tomorrow
no problem @Rose113 - and it's completely okay to feel awkward about certain topics. it's often just the way our minds work.
try and remember that these doctors and nurses have pretty much trained for most if not all circumstances and problems that patients may come in with - so chances are it's nothing they haven't discussed before. and will have dealt with people coming in feeling a bit awkward about why they are there, so you are absolutely not alone
hoping it all goes smoothly for you 🤞
try and remember that these doctors and nurses have pretty much trained for most if not all circumstances and problems that patients may come in with - so chances are it's nothing they haven't discussed before. and will have dealt with people coming in feeling a bit awkward about why they are there, so you are absolutely not alone
hoping it all goes smoothly for you 🤞
Re: Im tired.
I'm so sorry you're feeling this way @Chloe234. 
It sounds incredibly heavy and exhausting to carry so much on your own. The pressure of trying to appear okay while feeling this way inside can be overwhelming, especially when it feels like no one fully understands just how much you're pushing yourself just to get through each day. Like @Rose113 shared above, everything you’re experiencing is valid, with or without labels, and it's clear that you're going through something very real and painful. You don’t have to have an official diagnosis to be struggling - what you’re feeling is valid, and it matters. The exhaustion, the disconnection, and the pain you’re describing aren’t things you’d make up; they’re genuine struggles, and you deserve to be supported.
Having to hold it together around your family and only being able to fall apart in private must feel isolating. It's worth saying that you don't have to be strong all the time, Chloe. You can be yourself here for sure. Are there ways we here can help support you? Please keep reaching out - it's okay to need support.
It sounds incredibly heavy and exhausting to carry so much on your own. The pressure of trying to appear okay while feeling this way inside can be overwhelming, especially when it feels like no one fully understands just how much you're pushing yourself just to get through each day. Like @Rose113 shared above, everything you’re experiencing is valid, with or without labels, and it's clear that you're going through something very real and painful. You don’t have to have an official diagnosis to be struggling - what you’re feeling is valid, and it matters. The exhaustion, the disconnection, and the pain you’re describing aren’t things you’d make up; they’re genuine struggles, and you deserve to be supported.
Having to hold it together around your family and only being able to fall apart in private must feel isolating. It's worth saying that you don't have to be strong all the time, Chloe. You can be yourself here for sure. Are there ways we here can help support you? Please keep reaching out - it's okay to need support.
Gemma
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Re: Im tired.
Hey Chlo it’s Okie to feel tired especially with everything that you are going through right now, it’s actually really understandable that it’s tiring you out I’m so so so proud of you for how well your doing and I know it doesn’t feel that way to you but your doing amazingly well despite all the shittyness in your life ❤️
I know it’s not the same as physically screaming but our message space is always open if you want to scream, shout and let it all out and to even vent about it all and don’t worry you won’t be burdening me, or bothering me, or trigger me, or be putting pressure on me. I’m here for you, always and forever and that won’t ever change 🫂
Your family are really rubbish and that really isn’t fair on you and it leaves you feel so so rubbish and in a dark place with no light but we are your family, we are your virtual family and we love you especially for who you are because you are an amazing young person ❤️
Friend you don’t need an official diagnosis to be feeling this way, diagnosis or not how you are feeling is still valid and it always will be ❤️ even if years too come and there is no official diagnosis then that’s Okie, how your feeling and the way and why you are feeling will always matter and it will always be valid.
Life has been extremely horrible to you for years and it’s understandable that it’s left a lasting effect and an effect that will take time to work through and I know lately it feels like it’s not getting easier but as each day passes weather it goes slow or fast it’s a less day that this pain will continue ❤️
Soon you will have free rain to make your life your own and till that day comes and even beyond we will always be here to help guide you through 🫂❤️
Sending you ducks and hugs 🤗 🦆 @Chloe234
it’s Okie to feel tired especially with everything that you are going through right now, it’s actually really understandable that it’s tiring you out I’m so so so proud of you for how well your doing and I know it doesn’t feel that way to you but your doing amazingly well despite all the shittyness in your life ❤️I know it’s not the same as physically screaming but our message space is always open if you want to scream, shout and let it all out and to even vent about it all and don’t worry you won’t be burdening me, or bothering me, or trigger me, or be putting pressure on me. I’m here for you, always and forever and that won’t ever change 🫂
Your family are really rubbish and that really isn’t fair on you and it leaves you feel so so rubbish and in a dark place with no light but we are your family, we are your virtual family and we love you especially for who you are because you are an amazing young person ❤️
Friend you don’t need an official diagnosis to be feeling this way, diagnosis or not how you are feeling is still valid and it always will be ❤️ even if years too come and there is no official diagnosis then that’s Okie, how your feeling and the way and why you are feeling will always matter and it will always be valid.
Life has been extremely horrible to you for years and it’s understandable that it’s left a lasting effect and an effect that will take time to work through and I know lately it feels like it’s not getting easier but as each day passes weather it goes slow or fast it’s a less day that this pain will continue ❤️
Soon you will have free rain to make your life your own and till that day comes and even beyond we will always be here to help guide you through 🫂❤️
Sending you ducks and hugs 🤗 🦆 @Chloe234
River
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Work placement from tomorrow
I have another placement tomorrow for a job. I think I'll be doing things like preparing for an interview, which I’ll have at the end of the week. I have a guaranteed interview with this placement, so I believe they’ll help me prepare for that during the week. I'm not too sure what else I'll be doing, but I’m happy to be doing something constructive for these five days.
I feel nervous about the interview at the end, and I find myself anxious about everything. However, I think these placements remind me that I’m taking steps to get into work and not just sitting around doing nothing. I’m trying to stay positive, but since a job isn’t guaranteed at the end, I’m trying not to rely on this opportunity too much. I just hope I can keep getting further opportunities like this, even if I don’t get this job, to help me secure a paid position elsewhere.
I really hope something works out soon; I keep saying it, but I’m fed up with everything right now, and it’s just gotten worse. When I first started looking for work, I didn't want to work in a retail position, but I would now because it’s still money. Everyone starts somewhere, and it doesn’t have to be forever. I still have jobs that I would avoid, but I’ve widened my options for what I would consider. The placement I’m doing will be for a retail role, similar to the last one. I don’t mind because I want to earn, have a routine, and work towards my goals.
I’m just sick of the boredom, so I’m happy to be doing something that could help me this week. Over the past few months, I’ve been trying hard to apply for jobs, take advice, and put myself out there. I got suggested this company who im doing the placement through and I heard about this placement so I wanted to get on it. I had a session on Wednesday where I answered a few questions, it had basically numeracy and literacy questions which was ok so they said come back next week. Quite a few other people went home because they couldn't commit to a fully flexible full time job role, I'd probably prefer to do part time but if full time is all they have then that's ok as I'm flexible anyway. I just am hoping things go well from this, I guess I'll just try my best and see where it takes me.
I feel nervous about the interview at the end, and I find myself anxious about everything. However, I think these placements remind me that I’m taking steps to get into work and not just sitting around doing nothing. I’m trying to stay positive, but since a job isn’t guaranteed at the end, I’m trying not to rely on this opportunity too much. I just hope I can keep getting further opportunities like this, even if I don’t get this job, to help me secure a paid position elsewhere.
I really hope something works out soon; I keep saying it, but I’m fed up with everything right now, and it’s just gotten worse. When I first started looking for work, I didn't want to work in a retail position, but I would now because it’s still money. Everyone starts somewhere, and it doesn’t have to be forever. I still have jobs that I would avoid, but I’ve widened my options for what I would consider. The placement I’m doing will be for a retail role, similar to the last one. I don’t mind because I want to earn, have a routine, and work towards my goals.
I’m just sick of the boredom, so I’m happy to be doing something that could help me this week. Over the past few months, I’ve been trying hard to apply for jobs, take advice, and put myself out there. I got suggested this company who im doing the placement through and I heard about this placement so I wanted to get on it. I had a session on Wednesday where I answered a few questions, it had basically numeracy and literacy questions which was ok so they said come back next week. Quite a few other people went home because they couldn't commit to a fully flexible full time job role, I'd probably prefer to do part time but if full time is all they have then that's ok as I'm flexible anyway. I just am hoping things go well from this, I guess I'll just try my best and see where it takes me.
Re: Overwhelmed
Hi @TheNightmare it sounds like you've got a lot on your mind at the moment. It can be tricky when we feel as if we're unable to shut off our minds- they're cruel in that way especially when we want to sleep. It is very easy to zone in on the negatives and it can often lead to spiralling down a more negative train of thought, but there is so much good to see too. While it may not seem like it, you have come a long way, and set backs don't have to be a negative thing, they can be a pinnacle for change.
Considering it is having quite a debilitating effect on your sleep, I think getting in contact with your GP might be a good idea so that they can best signpost you to the best support moving forward. It may feel scary and overwhelming reaching out but I promsie there is no shame in doing so. Have you had counselling or any CBT before? I can understand it may seem daunting but their job is to make you as comfortable as possible.
You're doing so well remember that! Keep reaching out because it's important to us to know how you are getting on
Considering it is having quite a debilitating effect on your sleep, I think getting in contact with your GP might be a good idea so that they can best signpost you to the best support moving forward. It may feel scary and overwhelming reaching out but I promsie there is no shame in doing so. Have you had counselling or any CBT before? I can understand it may seem daunting but their job is to make you as comfortable as possible.
You're doing so well remember that! Keep reaching out because it's important to us to know how you are getting on
Re: i keep blaming myself for mum death. 💔
I'm so sorry for your loss @eylah. It sounds so unbearably hard to carry so much pain and self-blame on top of the grief you're already going through. Losing your mum and facing such difficult circumstances with your dad must feel overwhelming, especially when you’re missing her support and warmth so deeply. You put so much effort into being there for her, and that takes so much love and strength - it’s clear how much she meant to you.
Can you let us know if you're feeling safe at home with your dad? We care about you.
Grief often brings such complicated emotions, especially when it feels like maybe there was more we could have done. But the truth is, you did everything you could, given everything you were going through yourself. Taking care of her, and yourself, under such tough circumstances was no small thing. Self-blame is so common, especially when we lose someone we love, but none of this was your fault. Your mum wouldn’t want you to carry this on your own or to feel responsible.
Are there any moments or memories with your mum that bring you comfort? I'd love to hear more about her if you'd like to share. You've done really well to reach out here - it’s okay to need others right now.
Can you let us know if you're feeling safe at home with your dad? We care about you.
Grief often brings such complicated emotions, especially when it feels like maybe there was more we could have done. But the truth is, you did everything you could, given everything you were going through yourself. Taking care of her, and yourself, under such tough circumstances was no small thing. Self-blame is so common, especially when we lose someone we love, but none of this was your fault. Your mum wouldn’t want you to carry this on your own or to feel responsible.
Are there any moments or memories with your mum that bring you comfort? I'd love to hear more about her if you'd like to share.
You've done really well to reach out here - it’s okay to need others right now.Gemma
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Re: samaritans 😭 cant take this anymore. safe
aw thank you @eylah 🥹 you are too!! always here if you need someone🫶🏻
Re: samaritans 😭 cant take this anymore. safe
@eylah it’s okay you don’t need to apologise!!!! ask any questions you need to n if i can help you i will help you🫶🏻
i always contact any helpline using the private browser option or else clear my search history which then hides any recent chats ive had with them if that makes sense? i dont think they can tell that its you unless you tell them though. i’m sorry i cant give a definite answer as im genuinely not sure but i think its only if you tell them you’ve contacted them before they will know its you.
i’m so glad you found it helpful!! you deserve support🩷
i always contact any helpline using the private browser option or else clear my search history which then hides any recent chats ive had with them if that makes sense? i dont think they can tell that its you unless you tell them though. i’m sorry i cant give a definite answer as im genuinely not sure but i think its only if you tell them you’ve contacted them before they will know its you.
i’m so glad you found it helpful!! you deserve support🩷
Re: samaritans 😭 cant take this anymore. safe
@eylah honestly there is not one person that i’ve ever spoken to who hasn’t been so lovely and supportive!! i’ve mainly spoken to beth, tracy, alex and becca and they’ve been amazing🩷
i don’t know if this will be helpful to you but just in case it is, they are also very understanding of people who only want to speak to someone of a specific gender too so you can always ask if that’s something that can make sharing your feelings easier, if there is someone of that gender available they will transfer the chat🫶🏻
i don’t know if this will be helpful to you but just in case it is, they are also very understanding of people who only want to speak to someone of a specific gender too so you can always ask if that’s something that can make sharing your feelings easier, if there is someone of that gender available they will transfer the chat🫶🏻