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Work placement from tomorrow
I have another placement tomorrow for a job. I think I'll be doing things like preparing for an interview, which I’ll have at the end of the week. I have a guaranteed interview with this placement, so I believe they’ll help me prepare for that during the week. I'm not too sure what else I'll be doing, but I’m happy to be doing something constructive for these five days.
I feel nervous about the interview at the end, and I find myself anxious about everything. However, I think these placements remind me that I’m taking steps to get into work and not just sitting around doing nothing. I’m trying to stay positive, but since a job isn’t guaranteed at the end, I’m trying not to rely on this opportunity too much. I just hope I can keep getting further opportunities like this, even if I don’t get this job, to help me secure a paid position elsewhere.
I really hope something works out soon; I keep saying it, but I’m fed up with everything right now, and it’s just gotten worse. When I first started looking for work, I didn't want to work in a retail position, but I would now because it’s still money. Everyone starts somewhere, and it doesn’t have to be forever. I still have jobs that I would avoid, but I’ve widened my options for what I would consider. The placement I’m doing will be for a retail role, similar to the last one. I don’t mind because I want to earn, have a routine, and work towards my goals.
I’m just sick of the boredom, so I’m happy to be doing something that could help me this week. Over the past few months, I’ve been trying hard to apply for jobs, take advice, and put myself out there. I got suggested this company who im doing the placement through and I heard about this placement so I wanted to get on it. I had a session on Wednesday where I answered a few questions, it had basically numeracy and literacy questions which was ok so they said come back next week. Quite a few other people went home because they couldn't commit to a fully flexible full time job role, I'd probably prefer to do part time but if full time is all they have then that's ok as I'm flexible anyway. I just am hoping things go well from this, I guess I'll just try my best and see where it takes me.
I feel nervous about the interview at the end, and I find myself anxious about everything. However, I think these placements remind me that I’m taking steps to get into work and not just sitting around doing nothing. I’m trying to stay positive, but since a job isn’t guaranteed at the end, I’m trying not to rely on this opportunity too much. I just hope I can keep getting further opportunities like this, even if I don’t get this job, to help me secure a paid position elsewhere.
I really hope something works out soon; I keep saying it, but I’m fed up with everything right now, and it’s just gotten worse. When I first started looking for work, I didn't want to work in a retail position, but I would now because it’s still money. Everyone starts somewhere, and it doesn’t have to be forever. I still have jobs that I would avoid, but I’ve widened my options for what I would consider. The placement I’m doing will be for a retail role, similar to the last one. I don’t mind because I want to earn, have a routine, and work towards my goals.
I’m just sick of the boredom, so I’m happy to be doing something that could help me this week. Over the past few months, I’ve been trying hard to apply for jobs, take advice, and put myself out there. I got suggested this company who im doing the placement through and I heard about this placement so I wanted to get on it. I had a session on Wednesday where I answered a few questions, it had basically numeracy and literacy questions which was ok so they said come back next week. Quite a few other people went home because they couldn't commit to a fully flexible full time job role, I'd probably prefer to do part time but if full time is all they have then that's ok as I'm flexible anyway. I just am hoping things go well from this, I guess I'll just try my best and see where it takes me.
Re: Overwhelmed
Hi @TheNightmare it sounds like you've got a lot on your mind at the moment. It can be tricky when we feel as if we're unable to shut off our minds- they're cruel in that way especially when we want to sleep. It is very easy to zone in on the negatives and it can often lead to spiralling down a more negative train of thought, but there is so much good to see too. While it may not seem like it, you have come a long way, and set backs don't have to be a negative thing, they can be a pinnacle for change.
Considering it is having quite a debilitating effect on your sleep, I think getting in contact with your GP might be a good idea so that they can best signpost you to the best support moving forward. It may feel scary and overwhelming reaching out but I promsie there is no shame in doing so. Have you had counselling or any CBT before? I can understand it may seem daunting but their job is to make you as comfortable as possible.
You're doing so well remember that! Keep reaching out because it's important to us to know how you are getting on
Considering it is having quite a debilitating effect on your sleep, I think getting in contact with your GP might be a good idea so that they can best signpost you to the best support moving forward. It may feel scary and overwhelming reaching out but I promsie there is no shame in doing so. Have you had counselling or any CBT before? I can understand it may seem daunting but their job is to make you as comfortable as possible.
You're doing so well remember that! Keep reaching out because it's important to us to know how you are getting on
Re: i keep blaming myself for mum death. 💔
I'm so sorry for your loss @eylah. It sounds so unbearably hard to carry so much pain and self-blame on top of the grief you're already going through. Losing your mum and facing such difficult circumstances with your dad must feel overwhelming, especially when you’re missing her support and warmth so deeply. You put so much effort into being there for her, and that takes so much love and strength - it’s clear how much she meant to you.
Can you let us know if you're feeling safe at home with your dad? We care about you.
Grief often brings such complicated emotions, especially when it feels like maybe there was more we could have done. But the truth is, you did everything you could, given everything you were going through yourself. Taking care of her, and yourself, under such tough circumstances was no small thing. Self-blame is so common, especially when we lose someone we love, but none of this was your fault. Your mum wouldn’t want you to carry this on your own or to feel responsible.
Are there any moments or memories with your mum that bring you comfort? I'd love to hear more about her if you'd like to share. You've done really well to reach out here - it’s okay to need others right now.
Can you let us know if you're feeling safe at home with your dad? We care about you.
Grief often brings such complicated emotions, especially when it feels like maybe there was more we could have done. But the truth is, you did everything you could, given everything you were going through yourself. Taking care of her, and yourself, under such tough circumstances was no small thing. Self-blame is so common, especially when we lose someone we love, but none of this was your fault. Your mum wouldn’t want you to carry this on your own or to feel responsible.
Are there any moments or memories with your mum that bring you comfort? I'd love to hear more about her if you'd like to share.
You've done really well to reach out here - it’s okay to need others right now.
Gemma
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Re: samaritans 😭 cant take this anymore. safe
aw thank you @eylah 🥹 you are too!! always here if you need someone🫶🏻
Re: samaritans 😭 cant take this anymore. safe
@eylah it’s okay you don’t need to apologise!!!! ask any questions you need to n if i can help you i will help you🫶🏻
i always contact any helpline using the private browser option or else clear my search history which then hides any recent chats ive had with them if that makes sense? i dont think they can tell that its you unless you tell them though. i’m sorry i cant give a definite answer as im genuinely not sure but i think its only if you tell them you’ve contacted them before they will know its you.
i’m so glad you found it helpful!! you deserve support🩷
i always contact any helpline using the private browser option or else clear my search history which then hides any recent chats ive had with them if that makes sense? i dont think they can tell that its you unless you tell them though. i’m sorry i cant give a definite answer as im genuinely not sure but i think its only if you tell them you’ve contacted them before they will know its you.
i’m so glad you found it helpful!! you deserve support🩷
Re: samaritans 😭 cant take this anymore. safe
@eylah honestly there is not one person that i’ve ever spoken to who hasn’t been so lovely and supportive!! i’ve mainly spoken to beth, tracy, alex and becca and they’ve been amazing🩷
i don’t know if this will be helpful to you but just in case it is, they are also very understanding of people who only want to speak to someone of a specific gender too so you can always ask if that’s something that can make sharing your feelings easier, if there is someone of that gender available they will transfer the chat🫶🏻
i don’t know if this will be helpful to you but just in case it is, they are also very understanding of people who only want to speak to someone of a specific gender too so you can always ask if that’s something that can make sharing your feelings easier, if there is someone of that gender available they will transfer the chat🫶🏻
Re: samaritans 😭 cant take this anymore. safe
@eylah they won’t hate you!! if you do reach out to them again, they aren’t gonna hate you because of a previous chat, they still care and support you🫶🏻
i have had many conversations with them
where i’ve been in a real bad headspace and not gave the nicest of responses to them trying to just support me given how much i was struggling in that moment, (i’ve always apologised afterwards for it), but they’ve always still supported me so so much when i’ve contacted them again - they deffo won’t hate you🩷
i really hope you’re okay, you deserve support and im always here if you need someone to listen to you🫶🏻
i have had many conversations with them
where i’ve been in a real bad headspace and not gave the nicest of responses to them trying to just support me given how much i was struggling in that moment, (i’ve always apologised afterwards for it), but they’ve always still supported me so so much when i’ve contacted them again - they deffo won’t hate you🩷
i really hope you’re okay, you deserve support and im always here if you need someone to listen to you🫶🏻
Re: been diagnosed with endometriosis. 🙁
@eylah I'm sure she'll be able to explore some pain management options for you. It's great your doctor is being proactive and booked you in for an appointment pretty quickly. The quicker the pain is managed the better your everyday life will be. I'm rooting for you Eylah you've got this
Katie
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Re: i keep blaming myself for mum death. 💔
Im so sorry to hear about the passing of your mum eylah, this must be so hard to deal with and i wont pretend to understand how you are feeling but i am here for you. From what I remember from your posts you did so much to help your mum and supported her so much and I’m sure she really appreciated this. Im sorry to hear your having a difficult time with your dad at the moment too, i cant imagine this is helping with your grieving process. Please don't feel you need to apologise for sharing how you are feeling, this is what this is for and I’m so glad you feel able to share.
How are you feeling today? Keep speaking to people and reaching out as much as you can and we will support you through this in any way we can. I also just wanted to assure you that this isn’t you fault and try not to blame yourself for what happened, it’s obvious you cared for and loved your mum so much but sometimes life is unpredictable and out of our control.
How are you feeling today? Keep speaking to people and reaching out as much as you can and we will support you through this in any way we can. I also just wanted to assure you that this isn’t you fault and try not to blame yourself for what happened, it’s obvious you cared for and loved your mum so much but sometimes life is unpredictable and out of our control.
Re: i keep blaming myself for mum death. 💔
i have no idea what it’s like to loose someone so i’m not going to sit here and pretend that i do understand how you’re feeling but i would expect it to be one of the worst feelings to experience. i just want to say though, it isn’t your fault eylah🫶🏻