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Re: Life feels stuck and I'm mad at myself
RainbowPenguin wrote: »Update: feeling better now. Still flu-y, headache and so on, but I don't feel like shit emotionally at the moment. The insecurities and stuff I talked about... it's still definitely hanging around in my brain lol, but I don't feel like I'm stuck in a downward "you suck in every possible way" spiral right now!
It's really hard being even a little bit sick, especially when I was actually starting to feel more confident about stuff and especially especially on my week off work ☹️ I'm struggling to find a balance between resting and, like, not letting my brain kind of stagnate, if that makes sense?
i rly hope you feel better soon
eylah
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Re: tw//: domestic violence. self harm.
Hey @eylah, I'm sorry to hear what you've been going through. I can understand how you feel let down by police. You've reported this and given a statement believing that justice would be served, so to hear that they're not investigating must be really hard to hear. I can also understand how going out is scary given that you don't feel protected. @Aoife provided a good support service that might be helpful to understand how to go forwards from this. Please do let us know how you're getting on, because we're here to listen to you. You deserve to be heard and supported
Azziman
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Re: tw//: domestic violence. self harm.
Hey @eylah , I'm so sorry to hear about the police's decision not to investigate. I can imagine that feels devastating, and it sounds like you're really scared and angry which makes so much sense. I hear you say you're humiliated, but I want to reassure you that it was 100% valid of you to report his dv towards you, and you deserve to be taken seriously.
Did the police offer you any information about next-steps here, or what else could be done?
Day-to-day has there been anything you've found that has helped you to feel a bit safer from him?
I'll list out a few advocacy services below if that feels helpful in getting your voice heard:
Keep us posted - we're with you
Did the police offer you any information about next-steps here, or what else could be done?
Day-to-day has there been anything you've found that has helped you to feel a bit safer from him?
I'll list out a few advocacy services below if that feels helpful in getting your voice heard:
https://refuge.org.uk/i-need-help-now/how-we-can-help-you/independent-advocacy/
https://www.nyas.net/
https://www.womensaid.org.uk/
If you do ever feel unsafe too, it is always an option to dial 999.
https://www.nyas.net/
https://www.womensaid.org.uk/
If you do ever feel unsafe too, it is always an option to dial 999.
Keep us posted - we're with you
Sian321
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Re: Wtf do I do
@Rose113 i know you may be feeling a mix of emotions right now, im so proud you because that was a hard decision to make and you were very brave ❤️❤️❤️
Re: Life feels stuck and I'm mad at myself
idk what to say but im sending you love and hugs 🫂.
eylah
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Themed Chat: Self Esteem
What? Self-Esteem support group
When? Thursday 24th, 8-9:30pm
Where? Join from the support groups page
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Do you ever struggle with low self-esteem?
Self-esteem refers to how we value and perceive ourselves. It's based on our opinions and beliefs about ourselves, which can feel difficult to change. We might also think of this as self-confidence.
Self-esteem will be our topic for this Thursday's topic-specific chat. Join us if you fancy talking it through.
When? Thursday 24th, 8-9:30pm
Where? Join from the support groups page
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Do you ever struggle with low self-esteem?
Self-esteem refers to how we value and perceive ourselves. It's based on our opinions and beliefs about ourselves, which can feel difficult to change. We might also think of this as self-confidence.
Self-esteem will be our topic for this Thursday's topic-specific chat. Join us if you fancy talking it through.
ella
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Re: 19M looking for friends
@JMMV2005 hi
I really understand how you’re feeling and I want to start to by saying I’m so sorry you feel like this because it’s awful, but I would love to be your friend!! Secondly, even if it may not feel like it now, I can promise, from my own experience, it will get better. I used to struggle with not having many real friends and feeling like the friends I did have didn’t really like me or understand me and it took me a while to realise that it wasnt actually my fault because these people weren’t the right people for me.
Ive learnt over time that even if it seems impossible at first, there is a group of people out there who will love you for who you are and make you feel excepted and happy beyond what you can imagine, even if it takes time!! You deserve good people in your life who make you happy and I would love to help<3
I really understand how you’re feeling and I want to start to by saying I’m so sorry you feel like this because it’s awful, but I would love to be your friend!! Secondly, even if it may not feel like it now, I can promise, from my own experience, it will get better. I used to struggle with not having many real friends and feeling like the friends I did have didn’t really like me or understand me and it took me a while to realise that it wasnt actually my fault because these people weren’t the right people for me.
Ive learnt over time that even if it seems impossible at first, there is a group of people out there who will love you for who you are and make you feel excepted and happy beyond what you can imagine, even if it takes time!! You deserve good people in your life who make you happy and I would love to help<3