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Re: Hello :)
hi❤️ welcome to the community. i am here for you if you ever want to talk
Re: Hello :)
Hey it's lovely to meet you! Welcome!
Thank you so much for opening up to us about what's been happening lately. The intense anxiety you're coping with daily sounds really overwhelming, especially alongside your fears of failing at life you 'should' be living, and the fear that your anxiety might never go away. That's a lot of pressure and worry.
I can relate personally to just how all-consuming anxiety can feel sometimes. It's horrible, to feel unsafe even when you're trying to reason with your mind and remind yourself that you are. The anxiety just feels so real, and I relate too to that feeling of 'what if this never goes away? What if this is who I am now?' It can be scary.
I'm so glad that you've found us here. I know there are so many friendly people who want to listen and support you. It feels like you're really working through something right now, and while I have every faith that this anxiety won't be permenant and that things will shift and change, it's okay to not have all the answers right now. I hope you can be kind to yourself, @mollyrose77 , and lean in to whatever you need.
In some of the hardest moments with your anxiety, is there anything or anyone that helps bring you comfort? Who or what helps you feel safer?
Keep us posted, and sending hugs,
Sian
Thank you so much for opening up to us about what's been happening lately. The intense anxiety you're coping with daily sounds really overwhelming, especially alongside your fears of failing at life you 'should' be living, and the fear that your anxiety might never go away. That's a lot of pressure and worry.
I can relate personally to just how all-consuming anxiety can feel sometimes. It's horrible, to feel unsafe even when you're trying to reason with your mind and remind yourself that you are. The anxiety just feels so real, and I relate too to that feeling of 'what if this never goes away? What if this is who I am now?' It can be scary.
I'm so glad that you've found us here. I know there are so many friendly people who want to listen and support you. It feels like you're really working through something right now, and while I have every faith that this anxiety won't be permenant and that things will shift and change, it's okay to not have all the answers right now. I hope you can be kind to yourself, @mollyrose77 , and lean in to whatever you need.
In some of the hardest moments with your anxiety, is there anything or anyone that helps bring you comfort? Who or what helps you feel safer?
Keep us posted, and sending hugs,
Sian
Sian321
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Re: Hello :)
Hi I know how you feel but it will get better trust me I’m like that myself I have health axciety and autisum so anytime you want to talk I’m here for you
Re: Hello :)
Hi, welcome to the forum! We're glad to have you here 
I can hear how you're struggling with mental wellbeing at the moment. Like you've said, you in the right place for support as I'm sure your experience will resonate in some way with others here. I can understand the dilemma you're in here - you stay home because daily life is a struggle, but in doing so, it sounds like you're upset with missing out on society events, academic content and time with friends.
Mental wellbeing can waver over time, and while it's never pleasant to go through a dip, it's reassuring to know that you've been through worse and gotten through. You've got the resilience to make it through this
Taking some perspective on the situation can be helpful too. Our wellbeing can be impacted by all sorts of things at any time, and you certainly won't be the first or last person to need some time away from university. University societies will still run events you can join once you're ready to go back; lecture content can be caught up (and uni tutors can help you to plan this when you return); and I'd hope your house friends will be glad to see you back! When we feel like we're missing out, it can make us feel worse; but at the same time, it gives us something to look forward when we can return. You're not failing at life because you need a little time out - if anything, it's a decision taken with maturity, compared to just ignoring the issue
Is there anything in particular, apart from being at home itself, that you think is making you feel anxious? If missing out is the issue, are there any ways you could slowly ease yourself back into socialising/studies while at home? We're here to support you through this
I can hear how you're struggling with mental wellbeing at the moment. Like you've said, you in the right place for support as I'm sure your experience will resonate in some way with others here. I can understand the dilemma you're in here - you stay home because daily life is a struggle, but in doing so, it sounds like you're upset with missing out on society events, academic content and time with friends.
Mental wellbeing can waver over time, and while it's never pleasant to go through a dip, it's reassuring to know that you've been through worse and gotten through. You've got the resilience to make it through this
Taking some perspective on the situation can be helpful too. Our wellbeing can be impacted by all sorts of things at any time, and you certainly won't be the first or last person to need some time away from university. University societies will still run events you can join once you're ready to go back; lecture content can be caught up (and uni tutors can help you to plan this when you return); and I'd hope your house friends will be glad to see you back! When we feel like we're missing out, it can make us feel worse; but at the same time, it gives us something to look forward when we can return. You're not failing at life because you need a little time out - if anything, it's a decision taken with maturity, compared to just ignoring the issue
Is there anything in particular, apart from being at home itself, that you think is making you feel anxious? If missing out is the issue, are there any ways you could slowly ease yourself back into socialising/studies while at home? We're here to support you through this
Azziman
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Re: One thing after another
ik you had a reply but you know what? they are missing out on a hard working person like you bc remember that job obviously wasn’t meant to be but the next one will! i am here for you like always ❤️
eylah
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Re: One thing after another
Hey there TheNightmare,
I'm sorry to hear you didn't get the job you interviewed for. This feeling of anxiety is deeply relatable and it sucks to be in this process of job searching and being told no after working really hard to be able to apply for the job in the first place. It makes a lot of sense that all of this has taken a toll on your confidence, it's hard to be repeatedly told no
and painful.
I hope you are able to engage in activities or even reach out to different relationships you have in life such as friends and family that remind of your worth outside of working. I wonder if there are any hobbies that you can pursue that don't require money (or very little) ? Learning a new recipe, watching films (streaming services), exercise videos on youtube, or even just going for a walk. You even mentioned volunteering and it doesn't have to take up so much space in your life to where you can't have a paid job but it might be helpful to consider as you go through this job searching process. These are just suggestions, it seems like you really are interested in pursuing hobbies and are just having a hard time getting started.
It's important to take breaks when applying for jobs, as it might start to feel as though you're spending most if not all of your energy on this process which can lead to feeling quite burnt out.
You mentioned tending to focus on the obstacles. This makes sense as they most likely feel like all you can see, but it's important to remember that you are still making progress and you've even mentioned having some options and receiving some support. I hope you're able to do something today that makes you smile or laugh
I'm sorry to hear you didn't get the job you interviewed for. This feeling of anxiety is deeply relatable and it sucks to be in this process of job searching and being told no after working really hard to be able to apply for the job in the first place. It makes a lot of sense that all of this has taken a toll on your confidence, it's hard to be repeatedly told no
and painful.I hope you are able to engage in activities or even reach out to different relationships you have in life such as friends and family that remind of your worth outside of working. I wonder if there are any hobbies that you can pursue that don't require money (or very little) ? Learning a new recipe, watching films (streaming services), exercise videos on youtube, or even just going for a walk. You even mentioned volunteering and it doesn't have to take up so much space in your life to where you can't have a paid job but it might be helpful to consider as you go through this job searching process. These are just suggestions, it seems like you really are interested in pursuing hobbies and are just having a hard time getting started.
It's important to take breaks when applying for jobs, as it might start to feel as though you're spending most if not all of your energy on this process which can lead to feeling quite burnt out.
You mentioned tending to focus on the obstacles. This makes sense as they most likely feel like all you can see, but it's important to remember that you are still making progress and you've even mentioned having some options and receiving some support. I hope you're able to do something today that makes you smile or laugh
briannat
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