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Re: Worried about relationships
if it makes u feel any better @FordRanger @David as a female i dont care about height and i know that a portion of my friends (also female) don't. then again, it's two sided. ive met plenty of guys who have heard my height and been put off because they're the same height as me or shorter and their fragile masculinity cant let that happen but ive never been put off because of that. as @sputnik said, it's a generalisation we can't make bevause a LOT of people dont care about height. it really just depends on the person 
Re: Just a rambling vent
@AnonymousToe that sounds like a really sticky situation with your medication and feeling able to contact the doctors about it. Your health is most important and if you feel the side effects aren't going away or you're still feeling uneasy after a while, it might be best to seek some medical advice on what would be best for you, this could be from somewhere like NHS 111 or a pharmacist even. You might like to check out places like NHS Go which is an app for young people that gives information about health, rights and services nearby.
I'll also reiterate what's been said above that your feelings are never too small to be shared here. We all experience our own hurt, even if we do feel as though others may be going through more than us, that doesn't invalidate our pain. What you're going through isn't insignificant or unimportant - you matter too.
We're all here to support one another with whatever we're going through, no matter how large or small those struggles may feel to us. You are never wasting our time and there is a place here for you
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^Sorry about that! Seems like I shared an old link with you. We weaved some of this guidance into this thread here around not putting too much pressure on ourselves to support others when we're going through things ourselves.
AnonymousToe wrote: »I think I don’t belong here because my struggles are nothing compared to what a lot of the community is going through. I just feel like I’m wasting people’s time, because there are people out there who need and deserve support a lot more than I do. I don’t want to take that away from people by wasting space here.
I'll also reiterate what's been said above that your feelings are never too small to be shared here. We all experience our own hurt, even if we do feel as though others may be going through more than us, that doesn't invalidate our pain. What you're going through isn't insignificant or unimportant - you matter too.
We're all here to support one another with whatever we're going through, no matter how large or small those struggles may feel to us. You are never wasting our time and there is a place here for you
.AnonymousToe wrote: »Hi @Gemma thank you. (When I click the link for the ‘helping each other’ thread you’ve shared, it says I don’t have permission to view it? Is that me doing something wrong?)
^Sorry about that! Seems like I shared an old link with you. We weaved some of this guidance into this thread here around not putting too much pressure on ourselves to support others when we're going through things ourselves.
Gemma
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Re: early 20s
toffuna101 wrote: »also i forgot to mention @Amy22 that by the time i turn 20 you'll be over 25. idk what happens when u turn 25 on here; is it like childline where u cant access the discussion boards?
I think after you turn 25 technically sometimes they do recocmend Mind or more adult services. I found this charity when I was 19 turning 20 so I was a late user and wish I found this website when I was a teenager around 13. But I don't they kick you straight out I think you can stay. I'll be on here as much as I can
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Re: Reflecting on 2023
This is a very difficult resolution @AnonymousToe! Mostly because it's not down to willpower (although it can feel like it should be). For most folks, not self-harming means addressing the reasons they're self-harming in the first place, which can mean therapy, other treatment, building recovery, relapse, and a lot of time and patience. It might also require other things in your life to fall into place - situational or circumstantial changes to your life, maybe a bit of luck.AnonymousToe wrote: »AnonymousToe wrote: »Just found my resolutions for this year and I failed 2/4 of them. Kind of depressing 😂
Don't worry you still got like the whole of 2024 to complete the things that you want to do. I'm basically echoing what @ChrisM mentioned in a way. Also, don't be too hard on your self with resolutions as sometimes it can be very hard to complete them and I understand how trickey they can be. It's like trying to committ to that goal but sometimes we end up not completing the thing we want to do. This happens to me a lot frequently especially when I set up resolutions and never complete them. Your definitely not on your own with this one as I feel the same for last year, as I was supposed to get back into reading and never did. Hopefully this year you are able to do the things you want to achieve
One of them was ‘no sh’ 😭
I don't mean this to be disempowering; just that it's easy for us to feel we have more control over things than we do, because we think a lot of this stuff is just sheer motivation. And I think sometimes when we can't achieve our goals with just motivation, it can lead to us feeling crappy about ourselves, when really if willpower was all it took then we'd all meet 100% of our goals.
Be kind to yourself - you're doing your best with what you have.
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Re: Vent
I get it with the trying to reach out for help especially when the help you want doesn't get given or you don't feel like you deserve the help. But you deserve all the support and help that you need to get back on the right track. The healing process can be one of the hardest things to ever go through, especially if you feel like you never heal over time. Maybe we don't heal but we learn how to cope with our situations and put in strategies to help ourselves. I hope you are okay, and always remember I am here if you need someone anytime . My dm's are always open. (had to edit this)
. My dm's are always open. (had to edit this)Amy22
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