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Re: Behavior
Sometimes people can surprise us by being more friendly than what we might've previously thought. If you thought you were weird or have had other people say or think that you are weird, I can see why it would seem strange for someone to 'forgive you' for being weird and giving you a hug. Maybe they didn't realise that you felt you were weird and so wanted to reassure you?
I think it can be scary to read emails about what we have observed, particularly if it's an email from a manager. We might worry about the other person, how they reacted to our email and what their response might be. And if it's from a manager, it might feel like we are talking to an authority figure (as managers are often the ones in charge), which might seem a bit scary.
I don't know much about sertraline but I imagine that with some medications, such as antidepressants, your body may get used to the dosage and so it might appear to not be working as much as it did when you first started taking it. You might need a different dosage or a different medication. Perhaps you can mention this at the mental health review (if it's relevant)?
I think it can be scary to read emails about what we have observed, particularly if it's an email from a manager. We might worry about the other person, how they reacted to our email and what their response might be. And if it's from a manager, it might feel like we are talking to an authority figure (as managers are often the ones in charge), which might seem a bit scary.
I don't know much about sertraline but I imagine that with some medications, such as antidepressants, your body may get used to the dosage and so it might appear to not be working as much as it did when you first started taking it. You might need a different dosage or a different medication. Perhaps you can mention this at the mental health review (if it's relevant)?
Maisy
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Re: Rant
Sorry to hear that your parent gets frustrated when you ask for help. Understandably this would make you feel anxious about reaching out for help in the future, when you feel you will only get a frustrated reaction, rather than help.
It sounds like the parent you asked for help has a lot of their own issues. It might be that they get frustrated because of their issues and perhaps they feel unable to help you, leading them to feel unsure of what to do and acting out of frustration instead. When I've had to ask for help from people I suspect might get frustrated, I try to think of how I can fix the issue myself or if not, what I need from someone else to help. I might then be able to anticipate any barriers or potential reactions (and how I would handle the reaction) before seeking help. I try to do this so that my asking for help doesn't come across as too urgent or too demanding, which may only stress the person out further. I also think that choosing a time to ask for help can also play into the stress levels- if the person is calm and not doing too much, they might be less frustrated. I'm not sure if any of this helps you at all?
It's good that your other parent tried to explain that you don't like shouting. It can be really difficult to ask for help when you worry what the reaction will be, and worse, when you get shouted at. Naturally you don't want to be shouted at, especially seeing as the issue with your laptop might not be your fault and you've already been anxious trying to get help to begin with. It's good that your parent apologised, though I understand that you never forget. It might be that they don't realise how they come across or let their emotions get the better of them. Is it worth talking to them about this or perhaps the other parent? It's also okay to realise that they are a good person but to also acknowledge that they aren't particularly good at dealing with requests for help or that they can be easily frustrated.
No need to apologise. I'm glad you were able to vent to us
It sounds like the parent you asked for help has a lot of their own issues. It might be that they get frustrated because of their issues and perhaps they feel unable to help you, leading them to feel unsure of what to do and acting out of frustration instead. When I've had to ask for help from people I suspect might get frustrated, I try to think of how I can fix the issue myself or if not, what I need from someone else to help. I might then be able to anticipate any barriers or potential reactions (and how I would handle the reaction) before seeking help. I try to do this so that my asking for help doesn't come across as too urgent or too demanding, which may only stress the person out further. I also think that choosing a time to ask for help can also play into the stress levels- if the person is calm and not doing too much, they might be less frustrated. I'm not sure if any of this helps you at all?
It's good that your other parent tried to explain that you don't like shouting. It can be really difficult to ask for help when you worry what the reaction will be, and worse, when you get shouted at. Naturally you don't want to be shouted at, especially seeing as the issue with your laptop might not be your fault and you've already been anxious trying to get help to begin with. It's good that your parent apologised, though I understand that you never forget. It might be that they don't realise how they come across or let their emotions get the better of them. Is it worth talking to them about this or perhaps the other parent? It's also okay to realise that they are a good person but to also acknowledge that they aren't particularly good at dealing with requests for help or that they can be easily frustrated.
No need to apologise. I'm glad you were able to vent to us
Maisy
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Re: Hey all 👋
Welcome to The Mix! I hope that you settle in and make some friends here- we are a lovely community 
Maisy
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Re: Hey all 👋
Hi @JMMV2005 welcome to the Mix!. I also love cinema and the lords of the rings is a book series I really want to start getting into at some point.
Amy22
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Re: Hey all 👋
@JMMV2005 you can do @ and then the persons username or you copy someone message and then if you look at the top of the text box it has pull down things if you press the 3rd one so the one between the I and the smiley face one and then press quote you can paste the message into the brackets and then reply underneath
Rose113
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Re: Overwhelmed - preparing for uni
Hey @AnonymousToe i'd say its totally normal for the tranistion to university to feel overwhelming but it definitely sounds like you're in a tricky situation.
I have just finished my 3 years at university and honestly i didnt think i would last a month there! I did not know how to cook properly or anything like that to begin with but it is an adjustment that i got used to and now i love cooking!! Definitely started off with pesto pasta a lot
but i have gradually got better and hopefully once you've tried a few times you will too! It can definitely feel overwhelming though which is difficult but during your first few weeks there will be so much support to help you!
I hope you are feeling a little less overwhelmed this week and hopefully as the time gets nearer you will also feel a little excitement too! If you have any questions though about going to uni i would be happy to help
I have just finished my 3 years at university and honestly i didnt think i would last a month there! I did not know how to cook properly or anything like that to begin with but it is an adjustment that i got used to and now i love cooking!! Definitely started off with pesto pasta a lot
but i have gradually got better and hopefully once you've tried a few times you will too! It can definitely feel overwhelming though which is difficult but during your first few weeks there will be so much support to help you!I hope you are feeling a little less overwhelmed this week and hopefully as the time gets nearer you will also feel a little excitement too! If you have any questions though about going to uni i would be happy to help
Katie12
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