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Re: tw//: domestic violence. self harm.
Hey @eylah, I'm sorry to hear what you've been going through. I can understand how you feel let down by police. You've reported this and given a statement believing that justice would be served, so to hear that they're not investigating must be really hard to hear. I can also understand how going out is scary given that you don't feel protected. @Aoife provided a good support service that might be helpful to understand how to go forwards from this. Please do let us know how you're getting on, because we're here to listen to you. You deserve to be heard and supported 
Azziman
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Re: tw//: domestic violence. self harm.
Hey @eylah , I'm so sorry to hear about the police's decision not to investigate. I can imagine that feels devastating, and it sounds like you're really scared and angry which makes so much sense. I hear you say you're humiliated, but I want to reassure you that it was 100% valid of you to report his dv towards you, and you deserve to be taken seriously.
Did the police offer you any information about next-steps here, or what else could be done?
Day-to-day has there been anything you've found that has helped you to feel a bit safer from him?
I'll list out a few advocacy services below if that feels helpful in getting your voice heard:
Keep us posted - we're with you
Did the police offer you any information about next-steps here, or what else could be done?
Day-to-day has there been anything you've found that has helped you to feel a bit safer from him?
I'll list out a few advocacy services below if that feels helpful in getting your voice heard:
https://refuge.org.uk/i-need-help-now/how-we-can-help-you/independent-advocacy/
https://www.nyas.net/
https://www.womensaid.org.uk/
If you do ever feel unsafe too, it is always an option to dial 999.
https://www.nyas.net/
https://www.womensaid.org.uk/
If you do ever feel unsafe too, it is always an option to dial 999.
Keep us posted - we're with you
Sian321
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Re: Wtf do I do
@Rose113 i know you may be feeling a mix of emotions right now, im so proud you because that was a hard decision to make and you were very brave ❤️❤️❤️
Re: Life feels stuck and I'm mad at myself
idk what to say but im sending you love and hugs 🫂.
eylah
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Themed Chat: Self Esteem
What? Self-Esteem support group
When? Thursday 24th, 8-9:30pm
Where? Join from the support groups page
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Do you ever struggle with low self-esteem?
Self-esteem refers to how we value and perceive ourselves. It's based on our opinions and beliefs about ourselves, which can feel difficult to change. We might also think of this as self-confidence.
Self-esteem will be our topic for this Thursday's topic-specific chat. Join us if you fancy talking it through.
When? Thursday 24th, 8-9:30pm
Where? Join from the support groups page
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Do you ever struggle with low self-esteem?
Self-esteem refers to how we value and perceive ourselves. It's based on our opinions and beliefs about ourselves, which can feel difficult to change. We might also think of this as self-confidence.
Self-esteem will be our topic for this Thursday's topic-specific chat. Join us if you fancy talking it through.
ella
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Re: 19M looking for friends
@JMMV2005 hi
I really understand how you’re feeling and I want to start to by saying I’m so sorry you feel like this because it’s awful, but I would love to be your friend!! Secondly, even if it may not feel like it now, I can promise, from my own experience, it will get better. I used to struggle with not having many real friends and feeling like the friends I did have didn’t really like me or understand me and it took me a while to realise that it wasnt actually my fault because these people weren’t the right people for me.
Ive learnt over time that even if it seems impossible at first, there is a group of people out there who will love you for who you are and make you feel excepted and happy beyond what you can imagine, even if it takes time!! You deserve good people in your life who make you happy and I would love to help<3
I really understand how you’re feeling and I want to start to by saying I’m so sorry you feel like this because it’s awful, but I would love to be your friend!! Secondly, even if it may not feel like it now, I can promise, from my own experience, it will get better. I used to struggle with not having many real friends and feeling like the friends I did have didn’t really like me or understand me and it took me a while to realise that it wasnt actually my fault because these people weren’t the right people for me.
Ive learnt over time that even if it seems impossible at first, there is a group of people out there who will love you for who you are and make you feel excepted and happy beyond what you can imagine, even if it takes time!! You deserve good people in your life who make you happy and I would love to help<3
Re: Hey!
hi katie i just seen this post nice to meet you welcome to the mix love your pfp
Thank you @eylah I love yours too !
Katie
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Re: does it ever get better?
asking dad if he would come to my ultrasounds appts today bc im anxious bc its internal and just normal one so i have two ultrasounds today and im scared bc i hate them bc of past trauma but dads getting angry at me saying he has better things to do then go with me bc apparently bc im 18 i can do things on my own.i dont deserve this
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Hugs @eylah
I hear you're feeling anxious and scared for these ultrasounds because of your past trauma. It can be a lot to have to do things that may be triggering even if they are important appointments. Is there anyone else that would be able to go with you?I also want to ask if there's anything you might be able to take with you that could help with grounding and regulating your emotions? This could be some earphones for music, a cuddly toy or even a fidget toy. These might be able to help distract you whilst you're waiting or even during your appointments.
I'm keeping you in my thoughts today Eylah
I want to echo that we hear how your dad is getting angry and how he is treating you. We agree that you don't deserve this at all Eylah. We care for you!Katie
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Re: Does it sound like I'm getting more ahead ?
not much to say but im here and i see how much your putting into this i am so proud of you. you are doing amazing hugs .
.eylah
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