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Re: Overwhelmed - preparing for uni
Hey @AnonymousToe i'd say its totally normal for the tranistion to university to feel overwhelming but it definitely sounds like you're in a tricky situation.
I have just finished my 3 years at university and honestly i didnt think i would last a month there! I did not know how to cook properly or anything like that to begin with but it is an adjustment that i got used to and now i love cooking!! Definitely started off with pesto pasta a lot
but i have gradually got better and hopefully once you've tried a few times you will too! It can definitely feel overwhelming though which is difficult but during your first few weeks there will be so much support to help you!
I hope you are feeling a little less overwhelmed this week and hopefully as the time gets nearer you will also feel a little excitement too! If you have any questions though about going to uni i would be happy to help
I have just finished my 3 years at university and honestly i didnt think i would last a month there! I did not know how to cook properly or anything like that to begin with but it is an adjustment that i got used to and now i love cooking!! Definitely started off with pesto pasta a lot
but i have gradually got better and hopefully once you've tried a few times you will too! It can definitely feel overwhelming though which is difficult but during your first few weeks there will be so much support to help you!I hope you are feeling a little less overwhelmed this week and hopefully as the time gets nearer you will also feel a little excitement too! If you have any questions though about going to uni i would be happy to help
Katie12
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Re: 19M looking for friends
Re: 19M looking for friends
Sure you can make friends here! Everyone’s really nice. I’m almost 19 (female) and I don’t have any friends irl, I have friends here though!
Re: Topic-specific support group this Thursday: Family Relationships 💚
Always with the good questions @Chloe234! This is an interesting one actually.
So for Thursdays, this would be the priority order (from highest to lowest):
So the Themed SC would be closed first in this case, because it's open to everyone and Support Chat is a good replacer, and we'd want to prioritise the most accessible spaces.
So for Thursdays, this would be the priority order (from highest to lowest):
- Support Chat
- General Chat
- Themed Support Chat
So the Themed SC would be closed first in this case, because it's open to everyone and Support Chat is a good replacer, and we'd want to prioritise the most accessible spaces.
JustV
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Re: Coping
@ellie2000 If you're feeling frustrated or angry you could try using something like a stress ball or throwing some ice somewhere safe outside to help process your emotions. Unfortunately we can't predict how other people act so it can help to use mechanisms to destress. I'm not sure what you mean by "better" but I would just take things day by day and see how you get on.
The number for SHOUT is 8528 and I've added a link to their website https://giveusashout.org/get-help/
I hope this helps
The number for SHOUT is 8528 and I've added a link to their website https://giveusashout.org/get-help/
I hope this helps
Re: Better help (therapy app)
Adding to what the others have said, feel obligated to say that Better Help have been in some hot water over the last year for sharing customer data unlawfully. Last year they were ordered to pay out $7.8m by the FTC in the US, and this year 800,000 people got refunds.
Doesn't mean you need to write them off as an option but something you should know.
Doesn't mean you need to write them off as an option but something you should know.
JustV
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Re: Better help (therapy app)
I was watching reviews on YouTube about BetterHelp a few months ago. I tried to find the ones that were legit and based on personal experiences rather than paid advertisements. From what I could gather, it’s hit and miss depending on what therapist you get. I guess this is also true for in person therapy too. Sometimes you connect with people and sometimes you don’t. I read that you can change your therapist though if you’re not a fan, I think that’s a positive.
I think they offer video chat/phone call sessions which imo is kind of important for therapy to be worth it. It helps for them to see if and when you’re uncomfortable and also avoids any miscommunications that can happen over text bc of lack of body language / tone of voice
Tbh, for £60 pw I’m pretty sure you can get private therapy locally if you wanted to but it wouldn’t hurt to give it a try if you’re curious. Just look to see if it’s a subscription you can cancel if you’re not a fan
I think they offer video chat/phone call sessions which imo is kind of important for therapy to be worth it. It helps for them to see if and when you’re uncomfortable and also avoids any miscommunications that can happen over text bc of lack of body language / tone of voice
Tbh, for £60 pw I’m pretty sure you can get private therapy locally if you wanted to but it wouldn’t hurt to give it a try if you’re curious. Just look to see if it’s a subscription you can cancel if you’re not a fan
Re: Upcoming party
hello @Past User
Trying to balance personal needs with what might be expected from you in a relationship is very complex; it sounds like you're having conflicting feelings about your boyfriend's actions, as well as feeling unsure whether your own emotional reaction to the situation might be correct or not - it is really positive that you have decided to open up about it with your friend and you both might be right in saying that he might want to go to the party as a way to relax. Have you tried to breach the topic with your boyfriend?
It might be useful to take a step back and to try and figure out what might be causing you to be upset. You mentioned that you and your boyfriend could have spent the time together and that you'd like him to be more considerate because that's what you would do for him. If you feel comfortable, would you mind talking a bit more about how that makes you feel? How would you have liked your boyfriend to do in this situation?
Trying to balance personal needs with what might be expected from you in a relationship is very complex; it sounds like you're having conflicting feelings about your boyfriend's actions, as well as feeling unsure whether your own emotional reaction to the situation might be correct or not - it is really positive that you have decided to open up about it with your friend and you both might be right in saying that he might want to go to the party as a way to relax. Have you tried to breach the topic with your boyfriend?
It might be useful to take a step back and to try and figure out what might be causing you to be upset. You mentioned that you and your boyfriend could have spent the time together and that you'd like him to be more considerate because that's what you would do for him. If you feel comfortable, would you mind talking a bit more about how that makes you feel? How would you have liked your boyfriend to do in this situation?