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Re: samaritans 😭 cant take this anymore. safe
just so you know, to join the chat they have a little form, it just asks your name, age (it’s like age brackets so not specific age), gender and then also the option to select area’s that you’re struggling with!
i have been using them for about 6 months now and haven’t had a bad experience with them at all, they are such supportive people!! you also get through to the same people often so they get to know you in a way so you also don’t have to constantly explain your situation as they’ll know from talking to you before if i’ve even made sense lol
i promise you they cannot involve anybody unless you ask them too and provide them with your information, other than that they can’t tell anybody what you have said - ive attached a screenshot from a chat i had with them confirming this as i 100% understand the fear of helplines etc involving police and i always like to see evidence i guess that they can’t.
i really hope if you do reach out to them that you have a good experience with them🫶🏻
i have been using them for about 6 months now and haven’t had a bad experience with them at all, they are such supportive people!! you also get through to the same people often so they get to know you in a way so you also don’t have to constantly explain your situation as they’ll know from talking to you before if i’ve even made sense lol
i promise you they cannot involve anybody unless you ask them too and provide them with your information, other than that they can’t tell anybody what you have said - ive attached a screenshot from a chat i had with them confirming this as i 100% understand the fear of helplines etc involving police and i always like to see evidence i guess that they can’t.
i really hope if you do reach out to them that you have a good experience with them🫶🏻
Re: samaritans 😭 cant take this anymore. safe
hey eylah, i’ve had the same thing happen to me in the past:( their limit is 100 calls or 20 hours on calls in a 30 day period, whichever you hit first just in case you don’t know that. it’s so frustrating though as nearly every time i’ve used samaritans the volunteer has said “you can call us as many times and as often as you need”…
i emailed them about it and they had just informed me of the limits (100 calls/20 hours) and then unblocked my number, they told me if it happened again then i would be blocked for 12 months (i personally think that is an absolute joke and incredibly unfair) but it happened again as for some reason most of my calls were connected but the person couldn’t actually hear me meaning i had to hang up and call back which meant i hit the 100 call limit in no time but that wasn’t my fault obviously!! i can confirm though, i was just blocked for another 30 days, not 12 months the way they said that i would be.
i’m not sure if you are aware but samaritans do have a webchat option too in case that helps, but it’s only available between 6pm-10pm monday-friday then 6pm-8pm on a sunday but they don’t like suddenly close at 8pm/10pm, you just have to either be in the queue or on a chat already before that time and they’ll continue the chat for as long as needed (i’ve been on many long after midnight for example)
also this is the email address i used to send the email to about the restriction and how i got my number unblocked! it is: caller.support@samaritans.org
&& just to add, i have the same issue with places like shout involving police, i found a place called kelly’s heroes and they are honestly so so helpful - they can ONLY involve other services if you give them your information, without you telling them, they cannot tell anyone so it’s the exact same as how samaritans works, the way they can only involve police etc if you provide them with information!! they are open 6pm-9pm monday-thursday and 6pm-10pm friday-sunday.
hope you’re okay and get the support you need🫶🏻
i emailed them about it and they had just informed me of the limits (100 calls/20 hours) and then unblocked my number, they told me if it happened again then i would be blocked for 12 months (i personally think that is an absolute joke and incredibly unfair) but it happened again as for some reason most of my calls were connected but the person couldn’t actually hear me meaning i had to hang up and call back which meant i hit the 100 call limit in no time but that wasn’t my fault obviously!! i can confirm though, i was just blocked for another 30 days, not 12 months the way they said that i would be.
i’m not sure if you are aware but samaritans do have a webchat option too in case that helps, but it’s only available between 6pm-10pm monday-friday then 6pm-8pm on a sunday but they don’t like suddenly close at 8pm/10pm, you just have to either be in the queue or on a chat already before that time and they’ll continue the chat for as long as needed (i’ve been on many long after midnight for example)
also this is the email address i used to send the email to about the restriction and how i got my number unblocked! it is: caller.support@samaritans.org
&& just to add, i have the same issue with places like shout involving police, i found a place called kelly’s heroes and they are honestly so so helpful - they can ONLY involve other services if you give them your information, without you telling them, they cannot tell anyone so it’s the exact same as how samaritans works, the way they can only involve police etc if you provide them with information!! they are open 6pm-9pm monday-thursday and 6pm-10pm friday-sunday.
hope you’re okay and get the support you need🫶🏻
Re: samaritans 😭 cant take this anymore. safe
Jayzus… what use is that ? I’m so sorry they stopped you contacting them. I didn’t even know they had a limit on how many times you could reach out to them for help??
I’m sorry, it sounds like Samaritans was a safe space for you to talk about your grief so it’s sad they’re taking that away from you and other helplines don’t compare
have you tried grief specific helplines? Most have an email you can contact them on rather than talking over the phone. I had a look at a few over the last few months and put off reaching out but I decided to recently, it was so helpful and I’m glad I did.
I hope you find the support you need. We’re here for you too💚
I’m sorry, it sounds like Samaritans was a safe space for you to talk about your grief so it’s sad they’re taking that away from you and other helplines don’t compare
have you tried grief specific helplines? Most have an email you can contact them on rather than talking over the phone. I had a look at a few over the last few months and put off reaching out but I decided to recently, it was so helpful and I’m glad I did.
I hope you find the support you need. We’re here for you too💚
Faolan
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Re: 19M looking for friends
@JMMV2005 No worries I get that, I’ve only recently found music that I really enjoy but now I literally can’t imagine my life without it😭 (if you want any recommendations lmk I have pretty varied taste)
I have to be honest I’ve never watched any James Bond films but I do love the song No time to die that Billie eilish wrote for one! I’ve also never tried watching lord of the rings but I know a lot of people love it so I’m sure it’s good (might have to try watch it)
Working in an ice cream factory sounds honestly really cool!! I hope it’s pretty fun and carpentry sounds so interesting. I’m sure it could lead somewhere great ❤️
And don’t worry about how long it takes you to reply, i completely understand and relate to that, there’s no pressure<3
I have to be honest I’ve never watched any James Bond films but I do love the song No time to die that Billie eilish wrote for one! I’ve also never tried watching lord of the rings but I know a lot of people love it so I’m sure it’s good (might have to try watch it)
Working in an ice cream factory sounds honestly really cool!! I hope it’s pretty fun and carpentry sounds so interesting. I’m sure it could lead somewhere great ❤️
And don’t worry about how long it takes you to reply, i completely understand and relate to that, there’s no pressure<3
Re: Ford Fiesta mk6
like a tin can on wheels
Aren’t all cars just tin cans on wheels 😆
Your feeling here are valid, sure, I’d feel hurt if someone insulted or run down what I liked and worked hard for.
I guess everyone has different preferences and what one person might find terrible another person might find amazing.
I quite like fiestas, they’re decent little runners.
Hope you’re feeling okay about it now 😊
Faolan
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Re: 19M looking for friends
@JMMV2005 I completely agree, you should not have to change yourself to fit in. Goodluck, I hope everything goes well for you<3
Re: 19M looking for friends
@JMMV2005 thats okay!! I was hoping you wanted to do because that would be great<3
A bit about me is I’m 16 and I just started my a levels (I do psych, business and art!) and I love music and watching movies. Do you have a favourite singer or band??
A bit about me is I’m 16 and I just started my a levels (I do psych, business and art!) and I love music and watching movies. Do you have a favourite singer or band??
Re: tw//: domestic violence. self harm.
Hi @eylah
Just wanted to jump in here and let you know that women's aid is also for survivors of domestic abuse, here's the section of the website all about that:
https://www.womensaid.org.uk/information-support/the-survivors-handbook/ive-left-and-i-need-support/
If you feel comfortable and think it would help you can also reach out for some support from them by dropping them a wee email
I hear that you've not too keen on contacting them but i thought i'd let you know that they do have support available to you
Just wanted to jump in here and let you know that women's aid is also for survivors of domestic abuse, here's the section of the website all about that:
https://www.womensaid.org.uk/information-support/the-survivors-handbook/ive-left-and-i-need-support/
If you feel comfortable and think it would help you can also reach out for some support from them by dropping them a wee email
I hear that you've not too keen on contacting them but i thought i'd let you know that they do have support available to you
Re: Life feels stuck and I'm mad at myself
RainbowPenguin wrote: »Hey @Azziman 🙂 I guess the most important task right now, or the most important big thing, is finding a job with more regular hours. Doing non-work writing (for example on my blog) also comes to mind, as does learning driving, but those are more about smaller regular bursts of work over time.
Tbh though it's really hard to think clearly or feel optimistic about this stuff right now... I still feel exhausted nearly all the time, my head hurts, and I've got one of those hacking chest coughs that takes all the energy left out of you, etc.
I'm just so frustrated that I've been resting and drinking and trying to do everything you're supposed to but after three days I still feel shattered. (Gen note for the group lol -) it has to get better soon right? Plz tell me it will 😢
it will get better i believe it will it sounds like your body needs rest to then be ready to fight everything again in future. im sending you so many hugs. 🫂
eylah
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Re: Does it sound like I'm getting more ahead ?
Hey @TheNightmare, it's so lovely to read your updates here! Thanks for keeping us posted!
It sounds really positive that you've already completed your first placement taster session - congratulations! I can hear that while you did not get offered the official placement at the end following your interview, the experience itself felt really valuable - would that be fair to say? That's so wonderful, and I'm so glad to hear too that the interview did not necessarily rock your confidence (although it is very valid to feel this sometimes too). What was your favourite thing about the taster session? How are you finding the functional skills training too? I'd love to hear more about it if you'd like to share
We're rooting for you with your next placement taster session too. Whatever happens, you're doing your best, and you deserve to feel proud of the steps you're taking We believe in you, and trust that you're going to find a job that feels right. Your future-team will be so luck to have you!
What has taking care of yourself between job-hunting tasks looked like recently?
Sending hugs!
It sounds really positive that you've already completed your first placement taster session - congratulations! I can hear that while you did not get offered the official placement at the end following your interview, the experience itself felt really valuable - would that be fair to say? That's so wonderful, and I'm so glad to hear too that the interview did not necessarily rock your confidence (although it is very valid to feel this sometimes too). What was your favourite thing about the taster session? How are you finding the functional skills training too? I'd love to hear more about it if you'd like to share
We're rooting for you with your next placement taster session too. Whatever happens, you're doing your best, and you deserve to feel proud of the steps you're taking
We believe in you, and trust that you're going to find a job that feels right. Your future-team will be so luck to have you!What has taking care of yourself between job-hunting tasks looked like recently?
Sending hugs!
Sian321
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