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Re: Opening up to more extent (Trigger warning mentions of suicide)
TheNightmare wrote: »
Hey @Gemma I just wanted to ask about the peer to peer support service about if there's any updates about when it's getting up and running as I've not heard much about it for a while.
Heyya @TheNightmare just wanted to give you a lil update on the Peer Support Service! More information will be coming out soon about the new service, but the team are really excited to share their progress with you and invite you to join when it's ready! We appreciate it's been a bit of a wait but all for good reason! Thank you for being so keen this is great to hear
Katie
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Re: Hey!
TheNightmare wrote: »@TheNightmare Hey long time no see! Hope all is going good for you as well
@Katie great to hear from you, not doing too bad. Do you still have your Nissan Micra?
Yup @TheNightmare great memory! She's still running I just had to get her battery changed though because I haven't been driving it as much so it's just been sat there but making a conscious effort now to get out in it !
Katie
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Re: Ppl with duty of care
Hey @ellie2000, echoing what @eylah says above, your feelings matter and raising those concerns is a valid action to take. That being said, it's important to discuss it in a constructive way - focusing on how you feel instead of pointing fingers at people means that you can discuss the situation without it getting heated.
I can also hear how not having access to the list of talking topics could be causing stress. Could you ask the people on your side if they can share the list with you? Hopefully that can help to ease your concerns. We're here to support you
I can also hear how not having access to the list of talking topics could be causing stress. Could you ask the people on your side if they can share the list with you? Hopefully that can help to ease your concerns. We're here to support you
Azziman
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Re: does it ever get better?
Hey @eylah, thank you for sharing how you feel with us - it's not ridiculous at all, talking about our wellbeing is part of what the forum is for!
I'm really sorry to hear that you've had a hard and tiring week. I hear how the way your dad is treating you, and missing your mum, are both on mind a lot. Would you like to share a little more about these, and how they're tiring you out?
I'm glad to hear that you're trying your best each day. Sometimes it can feel like there's a lot on our plate or minds, so taking things a day at a time is a healthy approach to have. I hope that you're okay, and please know that we're here to support you and listen to you - you're not alone
I'm really sorry to hear that you've had a hard and tiring week. I hear how the way your dad is treating you, and missing your mum, are both on mind a lot. Would you like to share a little more about these, and how they're tiring you out?
I'm glad to hear that you're trying your best each day. Sometimes it can feel like there's a lot on our plate or minds, so taking things a day at a time is a healthy approach to have. I hope that you're okay, and please know that we're here to support you and listen to you - you're not alone
Azziman
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Re: Negative thoughts
You're doing so well in processing how you're feeling @OceanDreaming. It takes so much strength to catch those difficult thoughts and work through grounding yourself, and that's something to be really proud of. Is there a particular grounding exercise you find most helpful? How have you been managing the transition to uni? Big changes like that can feel overwhelming at times for some people, I hope you're doing okay
It might be really helpful to reach out to your uni's wellbeing team for some extra support, it's great you've got a team there at your uni. Even just popping in to see what types of services they offer could make a difference. You're already showing such great self-awareness in recognising your emotions and identifying that this isn't suicidal ideation. If they ask any questions around that, you're in a strong place to explain how you’re feeling.
There are also some great organisations out there that offer support when it comes to self-harm urges, so you’re never alone in this. Reaching out to them could give you even more tools to help manage during these moments where you're having these thoughts to self-harm. I've shared a couple below that you may wish to look into
Keep us updated with how you're feeling
It might be really helpful to reach out to your uni's wellbeing team for some extra support, it's great you've got a team there at your uni. Even just popping in to see what types of services they offer could make a difference. You're already showing such great self-awareness in recognising your emotions and identifying that this isn't suicidal ideation. If they ask any questions around that, you're in a strong place to explain how you’re feeling.
There are also some great organisations out there that offer support when it comes to self-harm urges, so you’re never alone in this. Reaching out to them could give you even more tools to help manage during these moments where you're having these thoughts to self-harm. I've shared a couple below that you may wish to look into
*Crisis Messenger (24/7) | text THEMIX to 85258
*Samaritans (24/7) | call 116 123 | email jo@samaritans.org
*CALM | Call on 0800 58 58 58 (5pm–midnight every day) or use their webchat service.
*Self-injury support - self-harm & self-injury charity offering direct support via email, text, phone and webchat.
*Calm Harm - is an NHS approved app designed to prevent people from urges to self-harm.
Keep us updated with how you're feeling
Aoife
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Re: positive quotes every day ❤️🩹
Laura_tigger82 wrote: »What lovely posts you are sharing
thankuou:)
@Amy22 love them
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eylah
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Re: I'm not sure where to go from here
Just jumping in to agree you are so brave for sharing this with us @KikiChanel
I hope your appointment goes well and we are always here to talk through things with you
I hope your appointment goes well and we are always here to talk through things with you
amy02
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Re: I'm not sure where to go from here
@KikiChanel just wanted to echo what laura has said. it can be hard when our minds begin to convince us that people don't want to help when they do. and however you are feeling right now is perfectly okay to feel.
but remember - the fact you have even spoken about it on here shows that you're taking the first step and a part of you wants to get better. and for that you should be super proud of yourself.
hopefully your appointment goes well when it happens, and we will try and support you however we can when you need us to on here.
sending hugs
Sinéad
but remember - the fact you have even spoken about it on here shows that you're taking the first step and a part of you wants to get better. and for that you should be super proud of yourself.
hopefully your appointment goes well when it happens, and we will try and support you however we can when you need us to on here.
sending hugs
Sinéad
Re: My first funeral and complex feelings
Hey @RainbowPenguin and welcome to the community
If this helps, you're describing exactly the way I experience funerals too (unfortunately I've been to quite a few). The fairly normal build up and even excitement to see people, do something a bit different, and dress up a bit. The enormous weight of the emotional processing once you're there and confronted with everything, then just... getting back to normal after.
Mostly I just want to say that however you experienced your granny's funeral is totally okay. Grief plays out so differently for everyone, depending on the death and the circumstances and everything else. It's not meant to 'go' any specific way youy know. Especially because the feelings can be so complex and intense, maybe we even feel a bit numb to it.
I'm sorry about your granny by the way. Maybe you can tell us about her some time - it sounds like she meant a lot to you. Well done for going to the funeral. 💫
If this helps, you're describing exactly the way I experience funerals too (unfortunately I've been to quite a few). The fairly normal build up and even excitement to see people, do something a bit different, and dress up a bit. The enormous weight of the emotional processing once you're there and confronted with everything, then just... getting back to normal after.
Mostly I just want to say that however you experienced your granny's funeral is totally okay. Grief plays out so differently for everyone, depending on the death and the circumstances and everything else. It's not meant to 'go' any specific way youy know. Especially because the feelings can be so complex and intense, maybe we even feel a bit numb to it.
I also don't think this means there's anything wrong with you. The will and any inheritance is something that needs to be settled when someone dies, and I think it's normal to wonder whether you'll be given anything during that process. You can have those thoughts and all the feelings of love and grief and heartbreak for the person who passed. One doesn't nullify the other.It's the bit about wandering if I'll get anything in the will that makes me feel especially gross I think. I mean I don't even need more money. And i loved her. Love. Whichever. Wtf is wrong with me?
I'm sorry about your granny by the way. Maybe you can tell us about her some time - it sounds like she meant a lot to you. Well done for going to the funeral. 💫
JustV
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