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Re: Failure in a good way!
Also wanted to say I absolutely love this perspective - it's a little shift in mind that can change so much for us. Even when we don't succeed at something, we can use the opportunities to learn from what went well and what didn't so that we can grow and learn for the future.
Congrats on entering the competition - i'm sure what you wrote was amazing (even if it didn't win)
Sinead
Congrats on entering the competition - i'm sure what you wrote was amazing (even if it didn't win)
Sinead
Re: Failure in a good way!
Im also super proud of you too. I think it's fantastic that you entered an essay writing competition but eventhough you didnt win you tried and had a go which is amazing to hear. 
Amy22
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Re: my mum. :( ( addiction )
It sounds like you've had a really difficult time with your mum and her addiction. It sounds like your sister has struggled too and has wrongly blamed you for your mum being in hospital. Addiction is an awful thing to go through (and for others to see loved ones addicted too) but it's often the nature of addiction that makes things worse- feeling like they need a drink all the time, even to the point of being really unwell and needing hospital treatment. Even if your mental health was okay, chances are, your mum may still struggle with addiction.
18 is still quite young and so it makes sense that you really don't want to lose your mum. Despite any past hurts, you still need her in your life. It's okay if you don't want to see your mum in hospital at the moment. It's natural to feel scared or upset at the thought of seeing your mum in hospital hooked up to all sorts of machines. And more so if you already have difficult memories of that particular hospital.
Right now, things are stressful and upsetting for you. The best thing you can do is to look after yourself. If you feel upset, let yourself cry. If you don't want to see your mum, realise that it's okay given everything you have been through. If you want to see your mum, perhaps consider taking someone with you to make things a bit easier for you.
I'm really glad that a match has been found. This is promising and fingers crossed, things will be okay. Hopefully, the hospital will recommend treatment for your mum to help her manage her addiction. If you want, maybe you could ask if there is support for family members of those with addiction? It might help you to realise that you aren't alone in this at all.
Keep us updated
18 is still quite young and so it makes sense that you really don't want to lose your mum. Despite any past hurts, you still need her in your life. It's okay if you don't want to see your mum in hospital at the moment. It's natural to feel scared or upset at the thought of seeing your mum in hospital hooked up to all sorts of machines. And more so if you already have difficult memories of that particular hospital.
Right now, things are stressful and upsetting for you. The best thing you can do is to look after yourself. If you feel upset, let yourself cry. If you don't want to see your mum, realise that it's okay given everything you have been through. If you want to see your mum, perhaps consider taking someone with you to make things a bit easier for you.
I'm really glad that a match has been found. This is promising and fingers crossed, things will be okay. Hopefully, the hospital will recommend treatment for your mum to help her manage her addiction. If you want, maybe you could ask if there is support for family members of those with addiction? It might help you to realise that you aren't alone in this at all.
Keep us updated
Maisy
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Re: Failure in a good way!
I'm super proud of you for sharing this, it's great to hear that you're reframing "failure" into a positive and that you had the confidence to put yourself out there and enter the competition in the first place 
Re: Hug
i get comfy and put my arms around my shoulders. like this emoji. 🙅🏼♀️ but. hands on my shulders. it gives a hug feeling. hope your ok. @ellie2000
eylah
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