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Re: im trying to keep going 😕
Hey @eylah , I've just read your message. What you went through last night sounds horrific, and no one has a right to ever treat you that way. That sounds extreamly distressing for you.
Can I check, do you feel safe this evening? What kind of support have you received since this happened?
The following places are here for you if you'd wanting support:
Keep us posted, @eylah . We're thinking of you and all you're coping with right now.
Can I check, do you feel safe this evening? What kind of support have you received since this happened?
The following places are here for you if you'd wanting support:
https://www.womensaid.org.uk/
https://www.childline.org.uk/
https://www.nspcc.org.uk/
https://www.themix.org.uk/get-support/speak-to-our-team/crisis-messenger
https://www.childline.org.uk/
https://www.nspcc.org.uk/
https://www.themix.org.uk/get-support/speak-to-our-team/crisis-messenger
Keep us posted, @eylah . We're thinking of you and all you're coping with right now.
Sian321
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Re: Struggling alone
@TheNightmare None of us are meant to be an island, and talking to us is a good way to process difficult times. Ideally all of us would love to say we have 100s of friends we can talk to, but I myself find that only few can be trusted with vulnerabilities. To be honest, I think we all struggle: every person on the planet, otherwise, they'd be living a life with zero challenges- and I just don't think that's real life.
I'm really sorry you feel alone. Loneliness is painful, and struggling alone can feel overwhelming. If there is one person who can be a trusted friend, it can make a difference. If you haven't got that person now, it doesn't mean it will always be that way. True friends are out there- though sometimes it takes time and caution to find them.
It's really tough to feel like you're facing everything alone, and it's completely valid to feel the way you do. Sometimes, being without someone to talk to can make us feel isolated, but please remember that you are not alone in your experiences, even if it feels that way right now. There are so many of us who have struggled with similar feelings.
Keep talking to us
) That's one way to do it, and you'll find many people manage it the same way. Then maybe later on there will be someone offline you feel you want to talk to too. Regardless, we're here for you
I'm really sorry you feel alone. Loneliness is painful, and struggling alone can feel overwhelming. If there is one person who can be a trusted friend, it can make a difference. If you haven't got that person now, it doesn't mean it will always be that way. True friends are out there- though sometimes it takes time and caution to find them.
It's really tough to feel like you're facing everything alone, and it's completely valid to feel the way you do. Sometimes, being without someone to talk to can make us feel isolated, but please remember that you are not alone in your experiences, even if it feels that way right now. There are so many of us who have struggled with similar feelings.
Keep talking to us
) That's one way to do it, and you'll find many people manage it the same way. Then maybe later on there will be someone offline you feel you want to talk to too. Regardless, we're here for you 
Re: Struggling alone
@TheNightmare im so sorry you’ve been feeling this and i promise all your feelings are valid. i know it can be very hard to open up sometimes and that’s why it’s so good that you managed to write this and let us know how you’ve been feeling. i can definitely relate to the feeling of being ‘too’ sensitive and feeling dismissed but know that it’s not your fault and it’s not a bad thing at all and people shouldn’t make you feel like it is. i am here for you❤️
Re: Friendship ended after fight
@orangemoons, I think that one thing that is really important in friendship is how they make you feel- not that they are meant to make you happy but that if friends hurt you, that is significant. Being pressurised and blamed is also not healthy behaviour from friends. I know it can feel really difficult when your torn between friends and your loyalty and love for both of them. But situations like these can also be very revealing as to whether friendships are good for your heart to keep.
It really does suck letting go of friends, and I had to do this myself for someone who I realised wasn't very nice: they were nice to me when we were on good terms but not nice in how they spoke of others. It seems like you are stuck in the middle of something very heated that could get quite ugly, in which case, I think you have done the wise thing, which is to disengage. It definitely isn't overreacting to distance yourself from a situation like this. I've very sorry they've been hurtful when you had no other intent than to see a friend and to grab a casual lunch. They can only see your actions and how it made them feel. They can't see your intentions/motives. I'm sorry. It really isn't nice to be misjudged or to have your actions misread.
Try not to be hard on yourself: this is a reflection of the heat and dislike between those two and you have not done anything wrong. I know it really sucks to let a friend go, and leave questions in your head about whether you did the right thing. But even if it's sad, it can still be the right thing for you to prioritise your well being. Friendships should be safe- even in times of disagreement, true friends will care about how they make you feel and try to keep it kind
It really does suck letting go of friends, and I had to do this myself for someone who I realised wasn't very nice: they were nice to me when we were on good terms but not nice in how they spoke of others. It seems like you are stuck in the middle of something very heated that could get quite ugly, in which case, I think you have done the wise thing, which is to disengage. It definitely isn't overreacting to distance yourself from a situation like this. I've very sorry they've been hurtful when you had no other intent than to see a friend and to grab a casual lunch. They can only see your actions and how it made them feel. They can't see your intentions/motives. I'm sorry. It really isn't nice to be misjudged or to have your actions misread.
Try not to be hard on yourself: this is a reflection of the heat and dislike between those two and you have not done anything wrong. I know it really sucks to let a friend go, and leave questions in your head about whether you did the right thing. But even if it's sad, it can still be the right thing for you to prioritise your well being. Friendships should be safe- even in times of disagreement, true friends will care about how they make you feel and try to keep it kind
Re: Is it to late for me to make friends?
my friend used the social media approach of starting a page that people can join if they're interested in meet ups and I think she's really enjoying it. I guess it could be a mixed bag though- unpredictable who will join.
Re: General chit chat
I was hoping to have sweet dreams last night but that never happened - there was a mouse in my bedroom so I couldn’t sleep there 😭 Tried catching it with the help of my mum but no luck 😅. Ah well, sleeping in the living room was ok but I hope I can return to my bedroom tonight. I hope you’re both having a good weekend @TheNightmare and @eylah.
Re: Is it to late for me to make friends?
Just ask about like emails on Google find clubs in your area and then just go in and make friends it boosts your confidence up
Re: ASD "round up"
@Amy22 Thank you so much for the message it really helps I defineltly will try to write down the people I trust enough to not mask around. In answer to your question I guess I kinda feel like I mask around everyone a little I guess the only person I don’t always mask around is my sister. I hope your doing really well too and I hope you can figure things out tho I don’t think you can always have everything firgured out I’ve been diagnosed around 10 yrs I still don’t understand everything .
Ems222
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Re: ASD "round up"
That’s an amazing idea! This is really helpful thing to have I think, I was wondering i always find it hard to distinguish from my masked self and my real self I know it’s sounds weird but I’m always confused about when I’m being each one does anyone know what I can do to try keep them separate? And like know who I’m masking around?
Hi I can confirm what your feeling isn't weird at all in fact this can happen the most to us all of, because we think sometimes maybe we aren't neurodiverse enough but we are simply who we are. It can feel like we aren't masking enough or not being authentic enough but that's ok to feel. For me I tend to find that I genuinely mask around strangers and people I don't know, because I always get this unsettling feeling that they may not like like the real me sometimes. However if it's around family or close friends of mine I tend to unmask a bit more because I feel comfortable around those people in genuine. It may be an idea to keep a diary or something and write down the people you feel like you can unmask around and those you find it harder to therefore you mask around them. Do you find that you tend to mask more around unfamiliar people and more unmasked with close friend, though you can still mask around family as well. I'm probably not the best at explaining this myself because I am also figuring this out for myself as well. I hope your doing okay right now
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Amy22
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