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Re: This is me
@Lottie5433 nice to meet you, hope you’re enjoying your time at the mix!! There are a lot of us here, talking about our interests and different struggles, so please don’t hesitate to come along if you’re ever in need of someone to listen or talk to 🫂 we’re always here to help 
Trimina
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Re: i am so angry at myself 😭💔
Hey @eylah firstly, I'm so sorry for your loss. I can't imagine how you are feeling and how it's been for you these last couple of months. I'm sending you so many hugs right now 
It sounds like this was one night where you drank alcohol - is that correct if you feel comfortable sharing? I don't think you've failed badly at all. We're humans - we make mistakes and sometimes give into temptations. It sounds like a lot happened last night so no wonder you're feeling lots of different emotions right now. In terms of liver failure from alcohol usage, this requires a large amount of alcohol to be consumed over a period of time. If you want to change your habits Eylah, I want to reassure you that you definitely have time. What happened last night doesn't have to be a defining moment for you - you might find some comfort in just seeing it as a blip. We're all human at the end of the day so please be gentle with yourself.
Is there anything that brings you comfort when you miss your mum? Any comforting items or fond memories you like to think about? Grief can be so tricky to navigate and usually ends up being very up and down. The amount of grief you are feeling just shows how much she meant to you - and that's a beautiful thing.
Please also know that we are right here with you - you're not alone
It sounds like this was one night where you drank alcohol - is that correct if you feel comfortable sharing? I don't think you've failed badly at all. We're humans - we make mistakes and sometimes give into temptations. It sounds like a lot happened last night so no wonder you're feeling lots of different emotions right now. In terms of liver failure from alcohol usage, this requires a large amount of alcohol to be consumed over a period of time. If you want to change your habits Eylah, I want to reassure you that you definitely have time. What happened last night doesn't have to be a defining moment for you - you might find some comfort in just seeing it as a blip. We're all human at the end of the day so please be gentle with yourself.
Is there anything that brings you comfort when you miss your mum? Any comforting items or fond memories you like to think about? Grief can be so tricky to navigate and usually ends up being very up and down. The amount of grief you are feeling just shows how much she meant to you - and that's a beautiful thing.
Please also know that we are right here with you - you're not alone
Katie
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Re: i am so angry at myself 😭💔
idk if many know but my mum passed away in september from her liver failure/transplant and her other health issues. i feel so ashamed of myself bc i said to her i would not touch alcohol especially bc she passed from it. but last night i drank alcohol and was threatened with being arrested if i didjt go hospital with police so i did. but i woke up today and i feel so guilty and ashamed with myself bc i did the exact thing that killed my mum and i feel so so angry with myself bc I have failed so badly. im sat here sobbing bc i want my mum back but that ive started going down the path she did. im so emotional rn i wish i had ppl to talk to but im alone 💔. i feel so like she is so mad at me for doing it. i cant do this💔😭.
I’m so sorry you’re feeling this way, but please don’t be too hard on yourself. Grief can bring out overwhelming emotions, and you're not failing by feeling lost right now. You’re doing the best you can, and it’s okay to make mistakes. Please reach out to someone, you don’t have to go through this alone. You’re loved, and you will get through this. ❤️
Re: i am so angry at myself 😭💔
Your feelings are valid @eylah - it is okay to not have wanted to be there, even if you recognise they wanted you there because they were concerned about you.
It sounds particularly difficult that this relates to alcohol, which you promised your mum you would not drink.
Are you able to talk to anyone about how you are trying to manage at the moment and more about what happened to your mum?
Some resources you may find helpful are:
Alcohol Change
Alcohol Health Alliance
Nacoa
If you are struggling with your own drinking, some resources you may find helpful are:
The NHS's Alcohol Advice:
Drink Aware
Alcohol Change UK linked above could also help with this
Are there any of these resources you think you might like to try? Would you like to share more with us about how things are for you today?
It sounds particularly difficult that this relates to alcohol, which you promised your mum you would not drink.
Are you able to talk to anyone about how you are trying to manage at the moment and more about what happened to your mum?
Some resources you may find helpful are:
Alcohol Change
Alcohol Health Alliance
Nacoa
If you are struggling with your own drinking, some resources you may find helpful are:
The NHS's Alcohol Advice:
Drink Aware
Alcohol Change UK linked above could also help with this
Are there any of these resources you think you might like to try? Would you like to share more with us about how things are for you today?
Re: Something you wish others knew
This thread is so so lovely! It's so nice getting to know everyone better
@Katie, scrapbooking looks like so much fun - and I'd totally love to do this as well, I see lots of videos of people scrapbooking and it's so satisfying seeing how their pages come to life! I'm so glad that this is an activity you enjoy doing, it's a lovely way to document memories and facilitate creativity
@Amy22, omg it's so so cool that you were involved in your friend's short film that almost got 11 nominations!! You're so so talented!
@eylah, woah that's absolutely amazing that you've performed in front of many people in London and got a main role in the Addams family! What role did you play? I took singing lessons when I was year 10 and also had to perform in front of people in my hometown with a band, although I was really nervous it was a lot of fun and would love to do it again one day!
@Sian321, wow it's so cool that you've worked for an environmental charity and helped plant seagrass meadows in the ocean! I bet that it was wonderful and that it was a lot of fun!!
For me, I think a lot of people around me see me as a reserved individual who likes drawing, playing the piano, and as someone who wants to do well in school. I guess I'd like other people to know that I'm really open to learning new things, like I really want to take dancing classes one day to just have fun and develop my confidence! Taking classes is scary, especially since I have no control over my body whatsoever, but I know that over time, I'll grow to enjoy it and become comfortable!
As well as this, I really enjoy writing and want to be able to write a lot of stories (I have a story in progress but haven't been working on it recently because of uni aaaaa)! This sounds like a really ambitious goal, but even so I wouldn't mind not achieving this. As long as I find time to write, I'm happy
I'll be graduating next year, so it would also be great if I could start an art business as a side hustle after I graduate where I could sell bookmarks, and hopefully art prints if it does well
@Katie, scrapbooking looks like so much fun - and I'd totally love to do this as well, I see lots of videos of people scrapbooking and it's so satisfying seeing how their pages come to life! I'm so glad that this is an activity you enjoy doing, it's a lovely way to document memories and facilitate creativity
@Amy22, omg it's so so cool that you were involved in your friend's short film that almost got 11 nominations!! You're so so talented!
@eylah, woah that's absolutely amazing that you've performed in front of many people in London and got a main role in the Addams family! What role did you play? I took singing lessons when I was year 10 and also had to perform in front of people in my hometown with a band, although I was really nervous it was a lot of fun and would love to do it again one day!
@Sian321, wow it's so cool that you've worked for an environmental charity and helped plant seagrass meadows in the ocean! I bet that it was wonderful and that it was a lot of fun!!
For me, I think a lot of people around me see me as a reserved individual who likes drawing, playing the piano, and as someone who wants to do well in school. I guess I'd like other people to know that I'm really open to learning new things, like I really want to take dancing classes one day to just have fun and develop my confidence! Taking classes is scary, especially since I have no control over my body whatsoever, but I know that over time, I'll grow to enjoy it and become comfortable!
As well as this, I really enjoy writing and want to be able to write a lot of stories (I have a story in progress but haven't been working on it recently because of uni aaaaa)! This sounds like a really ambitious goal, but even so I wouldn't mind not achieving this. As long as I find time to write, I'm happy
I'll be graduating next year, so it would also be great if I could start an art business as a side hustle after I graduate where I could sell bookmarks, and hopefully art prints if it does well
kaii
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Re: General chit chat
idk just fed up
❤️ let me know if you need anything and I'm here if you just to talk.
Re: 19M looking for friends
@JMMV2005 Yeahh thanks I’ve been telling myself that!! luckily today im walking Millie (the cute dog) today so hopefully that will help. Do you have any pets ❤️
Re: 19M looking for friends
@JMMV2005 and @eylah how have you been recently 🫶
i currently have 3 days left until i go for my operation so im feeling nervous but also grateful that it’s actually happening (it’s already been postponed once because i got ill so i was really scared that was gonna happen again). apart from that I’ve been feeling a bit lonely recently and kinda like im falling behind in school a little bit
i hope you guys are going alright❤️
i currently have 3 days left until i go for my operation so im feeling nervous but also grateful that it’s actually happening (it’s already been postponed once because i got ill so i was really scared that was gonna happen again). apart from that I’ve been feeling a bit lonely recently and kinda like im falling behind in school a little bit
i hope you guys are going alright❤️
