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sorry to hear that you're feeling overwhelmed with it all! starting university is a lot to deal with so you are doing so well! when do you start?

hey @AnonymousToe I’m really sorry to hear you’re dealing with all of this right now. It sounds like such a tough situation with your sister and everything going on at home.

For your uni place, moving into a new environment can definitely take some readjusting with new rules and expectations (and dw that will be the case for everyone, although I understand why you feel more worried about that side of things). It’s totally normal for everyone to go through a bit of a trial-and-error phase as you all get used to each other’s habits and figure out what “acceptable” means for everyone. Have you met your housemates yet? Once you’re all settled, it might be helpful for you all to have a casual chat about how you’ll handle house things together. In my experience these things naturally come up when living with new people.

And I’m really sorry to hear about how things are with your sister. It must be so hard to be dealing with her behaviour on top of everything else. How are you holding up? Do you have anyone you can talk to about this, or maybe a friend who you trust?

As always we're here if you need to chat more or need any advice. You don’t have to go through this alone.

if youve had trauma its common in people to be rude to others, dont worry.

From experience, counselling is generally a more exploratory process, allowing you more to understand your emotions, situation and anything else that ailes your thoughts. There is a little less structure with a lot of the initiative on you to reflect on how you're feeling in the moment and what to target on working with with your counsellor. Future actions can then be taken when discussing them with your counsellor to support you in your needs.

CBT on the other hand has more structure to it as it can help target with managing your thought and behaviour problems, encouraging you to better deal and learn techniques to manage your specific issues. You can explore how you feel whilst also explore probable solutions help solve them.

Overall, there is a certain openness you need when approaching these services. I think your ability to assess your needs as you've explained now is a great step in helping you overcome how you're feeling right now and should be something to bring up on whichever route you choose. Agree with @sinead276, where it depends on the person. Factor in the fact that there may be a warming up period between you and the counsellor before they're able to properly understand and support you- these processes really does rely on your honesty and collaboration.

I'm sorry you feel that way with yourself. A simple reminder is to definitely not compare yourself to others. People have different lives and start from different places, all equally valid as each other. The biggest thing to remember is to be tune in what makes you happy and proud with yourself, and not tally your achievements to others. There are so many paths that people choose from themselves, and I think the way you have the intention to seek change, and observe what your needs are is a great first step in achieving this. Definitely don't lose hope, be kind and be patient with yourself.

theres CBT and DBT which could help you. theres also normal counselling where you speak to a normal counsellor and work through your problems.

i understand that. hopefully you dont have to go into A&E or hospital. you always have the mix to fall back on in case things get worse.

sending hugs @AnonymousToe

Heya @AnonymousToe well done for working out how to start a conversation I feel feel like that is the hardest bit getting started but hopefully once it starts off will flowquite naturally. Maybe you could talk about like your hobbies and stuff like that or ask if they are looking forward to starting the course? Or another easy question maybe you could ask them what school they went to and did they like it? Those are just some ideas but ill be thinking of u and just remember everyones in the same position so just be urself and u will find ur people

Oh @eylah I'm so incredibly sorry. We're here for you