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Re: Dream about meeting a girl
Hey @TheNightmare thanks for reaching out 
I can understand your worries about having a relationship - your fears of potentially bad experiences are definitely understandable. I suppose as with most things, there will be ups and downs when looking for a romantic relationship, but there will be someone amazing out there for you 
Are there certain aspects of dating apps that particularly concern you? I know they're not for everyone, but they can still lead to long-term relationships (speaking from my own experience! )
I can understand your worries about having a relationship - your fears of potentially bad experiences are definitely understandable. I suppose as with most things, there will be ups and downs when looking for a romantic relationship, but there will be someone amazing out there for you Are there certain aspects of dating apps that particularly concern you? I know they're not for everyone, but they can still lead to long-term relationships (speaking from my own experience! )
amy02
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Re: i am so angry at myself 😭💔
Gosh @eylah I can hear how much you're struggling right now and I am sending love. We are here for you and are so proud of you for trying your best Remember you are not alone in this
We are here for you and are so proud of you for trying your best Remember you are not alone in thisamy02
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Re: i am so angry at myself 😭💔
Ah, @eylah , last night sounds extreamly difficult. I'm so sorry that you were struggling that much and feeling so alone. That feels heartbreaking, and honestly horrible to be threatened with being arrested when you were just missing your mum so badly.
I hear just how furious you are with yourself today and how hard it is to forgive yourself. It sounds so painful too to be afraid that your mum would be mad at you or dissapoinnted if she knew what happened. I completely agree with @AnonymousToe and I believe that your mum would understand - it sounds like there was so much love between you, and I can imagine that her main concern would just be that you're hurting, and that more than anything she would simply want to be there for you.
You said that you feel stupid, and I can imagine it's so frustrating because you feel so clearly in your mind that you don't want to touch alcohol ever, and yet, when things are very stressful or you're struggling to cope, alcohol has been something you've reached for. That makes sense, @eylah , even though it might feel like a battle going on inside you. We don't judge you here in the slightest, and from where I'm standing you've simply been trying your very best to cope through unbearable circumstances.
Grief can feel messy and all-consuming sometimes, and perhaps it doesn't always feel within your control. That's overwhelming, and we're here for you every step of the way, no matter what happens.
I hear just how furious you are with yourself today and how hard it is to forgive yourself. It sounds so painful too to be afraid that your mum would be mad at you or dissapoinnted if she knew what happened. I completely agree with @AnonymousToe and I believe that your mum would understand - it sounds like there was so much love between you, and I can imagine that her main concern would just be that you're hurting, and that more than anything she would simply want to be there for you.
You said that you feel stupid, and I can imagine it's so frustrating because you feel so clearly in your mind that you don't want to touch alcohol ever, and yet, when things are very stressful or you're struggling to cope, alcohol has been something you've reached for. That makes sense, @eylah , even though it might feel like a battle going on inside you. We don't judge you here in the slightest, and from where I'm standing you've simply been trying your very best to cope through unbearable circumstances.
Grief can feel messy and all-consuming sometimes, and perhaps it doesn't always feel within your control. That's overwhelming, and we're here for you every step of the way, no matter what happens.
Sian321
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Re: General chit chat
Happy Monday everyone - hope everyone is doing okay and has a good week this week.
Re: Autumn walks and auroras
what beautiful pictures - especially the first one of the northern lights - they look so bright and clear there
Re: i am so angry at myself 😭💔
Big hugs @eylah im sure your mum would understand how it happened. You’re going through possibly the hardest time of your life so it’s ok to slip up. We’re here for you 🫂 🩷
Re: This is me
@Lottie5433 nice to meet you, hope you’re enjoying your time at the mix!! There are a lot of us here, talking about our interests and different struggles, so please don’t hesitate to come along if you’re ever in need of someone to listen or talk to 🫂 we’re always here to help
Trimina
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