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Re: ( mention of sexual assault ). life is so hard atm
Hey there @eylah
I'm sorry to hear that the helplines you reached out to were useless. I can say from experience it's frustrating to reach out during a time where you already feel vulnerable to only feel either worse or neutral afterwards. Would you feel comfortable in sharing why you felt as though the helplines you reached out to were useless?
Also here's a website where you can type in your own information and find things local to you. If you feel up to it, it might be helpful to have a look around and see if there's anything that might sound useful to you
Reaching out for support repeatedly takes a lot of energy and strength, you're doing a solid job
I'm sorry to hear that the helplines you reached out to were useless. I can say from experience it's frustrating to reach out during a time where you already feel vulnerable to only feel either worse or neutral afterwards. Would you feel comfortable in sharing why you felt as though the helplines you reached out to were useless?
Also here's a website where you can type in your own information and find things local to you. If you feel up to it, it might be helpful to have a look around and see if there's anything that might sound useful to you
Reaching out for support repeatedly takes a lot of energy and strength, you're doing a solid job
briannat
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Re: Barrier of getting support
@TheNightmare
It’s no problem at all, I hope you find something that works for you! Taking it one step at a time sounds like a good plan, the first step is always the hardest but so worth it in the end:)
It’s no problem at all, I hope you find something that works for you! Taking it one step at a time sounds like a good plan, the first step is always the hardest but so worth it in the end:)
Re: ( mention of sexual assault ). life is so hard atm
I am sorry to hear that you are going through such a difficult time at the moment. You are being so brave. It's completely up to you whether you want to investigate further into the investigation as you know yourself better than anyone else. We are here with you though this if you do decide to. You deserve justice and not to be forgotten about. It's not okay what happened to you and should not be brushed aside like it has.
In terms of your sh are you managing to care for yourself afterwards? I.e applying antiseptic wipes or plasters to the area? Are you able to try and do something nice for yourself to distract yourself such as put on a film or have a nice bath?
I'll also attach some useful links to some apps that help with sh and ways of managing urges and your emotions
In terms of your sh are you managing to care for yourself afterwards? I.e applying antiseptic wipes or plasters to the area? Are you able to try and do something nice for yourself to distract yourself such as put on a film or have a nice bath?
I'll also attach some useful links to some apps that help with sh and ways of managing urges and your emotions
Re: my positive recovery
It's little steps but it's all progress @eylah so you should be proud of yourself! I hope the spaghetti bolognese is nice later
Re: my positive recovery
Well done for still brushing your hair and making yourself some food even though you weren’t feeling great, it can be so hard to push through and take care of yourself when things are hard, you should be really proud of yourself for doing this!
I really love this thread as it can be hard to focus on the positives when struggling with mental health and recognise when we are making progress and doing something positive and this thread clearly shows all the positives things your doing:) keep going eylah, you got this<3
I really love this thread as it can be hard to focus on the positives when struggling with mental health and recognise when we are making progress and doing something positive and this thread clearly shows all the positives things your doing:) keep going eylah, you got this<3
Re: my positive recovery
@eylah , sending you the biggest hug. I'm so pleased to hear that you went to the kebab shop even though it felt scary, and that today you're caring for yourself and cooking yummy food too. It takes immense energy to do these things and show up for ourselves when we're hurting, and I just think this positive recovery thread is such a beautiful record of self-compassion, even when recovery isn't linear. You're wonderful, Eylah
Sian321
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Re: ( mention of sexual assault ). life is so hard atm
I'm sorry that was your experience @eylah - it sounds really deflating to have the courage to reach out to a helpline and open up but to then be left with no help. Have you tried any other helpline?
You would think that people who work on a helpline, especially that one, would understand that people are reaching out because they've experienced something traumatic. It sounds really unpleasant that the person on the other end wasn't friendly and seemed quite moody with you. Your feelings here are completely valid and I can understand why you found it useless. I just really wish this wasn't the case for you
I also wanted to check if you'd heard back from that woman about giving evidence? I know you've unfortunately been waiting a while and you were feeling a bit uncertain about what to do. It sounds like there's so much on your mind at the minute Eylah and it's a lot for one person to hold in their head. How are you feeling today about it? Giving evidence sounds like a really tricky decision to make that comes with all kinds of emotions. Only you can make that choice
You would think that people who work on a helpline, especially that one, would understand that people are reaching out because they've experienced something traumatic. It sounds really unpleasant that the person on the other end wasn't friendly and seemed quite moody with you. Your feelings here are completely valid and I can understand why you found it useless. I just really wish this wasn't the case for you
I also wanted to check if you'd heard back from that woman about giving evidence? I know you've unfortunately been waiting a while and you were feeling a bit uncertain about what to do. It sounds like there's so much on your mind at the minute Eylah and it's a lot for one person to hold in their head. How are you feeling today about it? Giving evidence sounds like a really tricky decision to make that comes with all kinds of emotions. Only you can make that choice
Katie
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Re: my positive recovery
Sorry to hear you were struggling yesterday, remember in recovery there will ups and downs but you are doing so well and making good progress from what I can see from this thread. Try not to beat yourself up too much for this relapse and focus your energy into using your distractions again next time the thoughts creep in. You got this eylah and we will be here to listen and support you throughout
Well done for going to the kebab shop too that’s really positive step! You should be really proud of yourself, it’s normal to struggle with something like that but you stuck with it and kept going which is great:)
Well done for going to the kebab shop too that’s really positive step! You should be really proud of yourself, it’s normal to struggle with something like that but you stuck with it and kept going which is great:)