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eylah wrote: »

thankyou @Maia @ella you both are amazing rly you are thankyou for your kindness tonight ❤️

i just find december difficult altogether bc of christmas etc but i have booked ice skating for tmr for the evening so im hoping it brings me some joy? bought myself a disney colouring book today and gel pens bc i need something to distract myself with so have done. think ima get a hot choccy tmr to as it will be cold bc of after. yeah i used to do ice skating when i didnt hurt my hip 😅❤️

thankyou both ❤️

You're amazing @eylah


I really hope that this can bring you some joy too, you deserve some joy after the horrible year you've had The disney colouring book sounds amazing! Aww, you're doing so so well Eylah, next time I see you around i'll check in with you to see how it all went?

@eylah - that sounds like a genuinely perfect birthday and I am SO proud of you for organising it this evening- birthdays can feel so overwhelming! You'll have to share the Disney colouring pages with us too if that feels comfy- it sounds so cute!

Ooo, be careful with your hip when you are skating tomorrow!

kaii wrote: »

Hello everyone!

Christmas doesn't really feel like Christmas this year to me - I felt the same way last year, maybe my feelings about it might change later on in the month, but that's how it feels to me at the moment.

I'm worried about failing my psych exams in January, I find this period especially difficult to get some revision done, I want to rest but at the same time I want to do well in my exams which means revising every day.

As for what I'm looking forward to, I'm excited to have delicious meals with family soon and to just be chilling at home playing on my piano and watching Christmas movies

I hope everyone's doing okay, and keep us updated on how you're feeling

Hey friend

I totally get what you mean about Christmas feeling a bit off this year . Sometimes, the magic of it all doesn’t quite hit the same as it usually does, especially when there’s a lot on your mind. You're right that it might change later in the month (I hope it does!), but it’s okay to feel how you feel right now. ❤️

I hear you on the exam stress - I'm totally in the same boat right now! Trying to find that balance between resting and revising can be so tricky. It's so important that we give ourselves breaks though so that we don't reach burn out. You'll get through it! I find it helpful to break my revision up into small chunks so that it feels manageable and not too overwhelming. I usually give myself a small treat after each chunk too - like a biscuit or something

Christmas dinner, playing piano and watching christmas movies sound like perfect ways to unwind - I'm excited for you!!

Hey @kaii - so nice to have you here this evening<3

Christmas doesn't really feel like Christmas this year to me - I felt the same way last year, maybe my feelings about it might change later on in the month, but that's how it feels to me at the moment.

It's okay to feel like Christmas isn't quite the same this year. Our feelings about holidays definitely can change over time. Perhaps giving yourself some grace and allowing yourself to feel whatever you're feeling, without judgment, might help?

Christmas holds a lot of big feelings for every single one of us depending on a lot of factors and it sounds like you have a lot going on with exams at the moment which is likely why you aren't feeling so festive this year - does this sound right to you? Have you thought about any specific things that might help you feel more festive this year? Perhaps a new Christmas movie you'd like to watch, or a festive recipe you want to try? Small acts of self-care can make a big difference at this time of year!

I'm worried about failing my psych exams in January, I find this period especially difficult to get some revision done, I want to rest but at the same time I want to do well in my exams which means revising every day.

I hear you, this is such a common worry at this time of year (I think it's cruel to put exams so close to christmas!!) It's super important to find a balance between studying and rest, though. Perhaps you could try breaking up your revision into smaller, more manageable chunks? It might also help to reward yourself for completing tasks, like taking a short break or doing something you enjoy- maybe you could even work in a nice coffee shop? It's always nice to be out and about at this time of year.

I'm sorry to hear that @eylah The holidays and special occasions like birthdays can bring up so much pain, right? and I’m so sorry you’re going through this alone right now. You deserve so much love and care, especially on your birthday.

Ice skating sounds like a lovely idea Eylah! Are you good at ice skating? It might be difficult, you're right, It's okay if you feel like it's hard to do or if you’re not sure if it will be enjoyable, but giving yourself the chance to do something you like could be a way to be kind to yourself on a tough day. I'm really proud of you!

If you don’t want to go ice skating or it feels too much, maybe you could also treat yourself to something comforting at home? Something that makes you feel a bit better, even if just in a small way. Maybe watching something that makes you smile or working on some art, if that feels good? You're doing amazing

@eylah Ice Skating on your birthday sounds so fun and low pressure. It is also a nice thing to do on your own. I did it last year on one of my days off and treated myself to a hot chocolate afterwards which was really fun and relaxing! Maybe after ice skating you could take yourself out to a nice warm cafe to do something you enjoy- maybe some reading or drawing (which you are so good at!)

It is also totally okay if you'd prefer a day at home. Whatever you choose to do, make sure to take some time for yourself. You deserve it after the year you have had.

I hope this helps with a loose plan for tomorrow?

@AnonymousToe, I hear that coming back home after being in uni for 3 months can be stressful and hectic, it may be quite an overwhelming time since it's the Christmas season. Is there anything that generally helps you adjust to new situations? For example, it could be doing something that distracts you or knowing what will happen in advance.

I'm in the same boat as you regarding the amount of work to do over Christmas, you're not alone with this - one thing I'm telling myself to get through it is to take things one step at a time, and to make a general (not specific) plan of what you'd like to get done over the period. This helps me not get mad at myself for not doing as much work as I wanted, and it allows flexibility as well. I hope this can help. It's definitely important to take breaks during this period though, 3 months of uni is already tough, you deserve a break