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Re: Overthinking previous appointment
@TheNightmare Sorry about this
First of all please don’t overthink, It’ll wear you down and trust me theres no need to because it’s ok to make mistakes or do something wrong, I used to overthink tons but I realised I was basically poisoning myself with my own thoughts and I’ve been working to try and cut it down, I know thats easier said than done but the first step is be kinder to yourself and don’t beat yourself up, you don’t deserve it
Also about taking opportunities, don’t overthink how you didn’t take past opportunities but focus on future opportunities, and if your scared or unsure about taking a job in the future please just take it, theres a 90% chance it’s not gonna be as scary as you think, and if it isn’t nice you don’t have to stay
I’ve been trying things that I’m scared of or unsure of lately and it’s been the best thing I’ve ever done, I feel more positive and I can see progress being made in my life even if it is in small steps, the “don’t think just do” mindset can be so helpful
So don’t beat yourself up with overthinking and when you get an opportunity for something but your not sure if you should take it, just try it and see where it leads you, worst case scenario you don’t have stick with it, and like I said I’d say about 90% of the time when you try something your unsure of it pays off
Good luck I believe in you
First of all please don’t overthink, It’ll wear you down and trust me theres no need to because it’s ok to make mistakes or do something wrong, I used to overthink tons but I realised I was basically poisoning myself with my own thoughts and I’ve been working to try and cut it down, I know thats easier said than done but the first step is be kinder to yourself and don’t beat yourself up, you don’t deserve it
Also about taking opportunities, don’t overthink how you didn’t take past opportunities but focus on future opportunities, and if your scared or unsure about taking a job in the future please just take it, theres a 90% chance it’s not gonna be as scary as you think, and if it isn’t nice you don’t have to stay
I’ve been trying things that I’m scared of or unsure of lately and it’s been the best thing I’ve ever done, I feel more positive and I can see progress being made in my life even if it is in small steps, the “don’t think just do” mindset can be so helpful
So don’t beat yourself up with overthinking and when you get an opportunity for something but your not sure if you should take it, just try it and see where it leads you, worst case scenario you don’t have stick with it, and like I said I’d say about 90% of the time when you try something your unsure of it pays off
Good luck I believe in you
JMMV2005
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Re: TW/ wish i wasnt here
Hey @eylah , I'm just catching up on these messages 
It feels awful that you're having to battle through so much of this on your own right now, and I can imagine esspecially with your birthday coming up next week it's overwhelming to reflect on your life right now and how alone you're feeling.
And I can hear how much you miss your mum in the middle of all this too. That's a whole extra layer - coping with grieving and missing her everyday. It's been world-altering what you've been through, and it sounds devestating to feel yourself breaking into pieces. I know it doesn't even begin to take the pain away, but I'm sending you the biggest hug. You matter, Eylah. I'm so sorry you're having to fight everyday right now. You deserve so much more than this.
You mentioned that no one likes you, and I wondered whether you were referring to anyone / any group of people particularly here that have made you feel this way esspecially recently, or perhaps this is a general feeling?
It feels awful that you're having to battle through so much of this on your own right now, and I can imagine esspecially with your birthday coming up next week it's overwhelming to reflect on your life right now and how alone you're feeling.And I can hear how much you miss your mum in the middle of all this too. That's a whole extra layer - coping with grieving and missing her everyday. It's been world-altering what you've been through, and it sounds devestating to feel yourself breaking into pieces. I know it doesn't even begin to take the pain away, but I'm sending you the biggest hug. You matter, Eylah. I'm so sorry you're having to fight everyday right now. You deserve so much more than this.
You mentioned that no one likes you, and I wondered whether you were referring to anyone / any group of people particularly here that have made you feel this way esspecially recently, or perhaps this is a general feeling?
Sian321
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Re: Christmas Trees!🎄
Heres my Christmas tree, I just came home from my shift at whsmiths and I found this appeared in my house fully trimmed and decorated 🤣 the best feeling ever.
thats so duper cute 🥰
eylah
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Re: Overthinking previous appointment
hi @TheNightmare
I know from your previous posts that having a job is really important for you. I wonder what thoughts come up for you when you get closer to getting a job. It sounds like taking that step that would put you directly towards achieving your goal of being employed is something that scares you? I could be wrong of course but you've done a lot of searching and meeting with others to get a job, and it seems like there's still something holding you back. Rather than judging yourself and getting lost in a cloud of shame, I wonder what it would be like for you to just observe your feelings, fears, concerns etc with curiosity? It seems like you recognise that your work coach is trying to help you, and you are deserving of help, but the process of that sounds frustrating for the both of you. Remember to take breaks too, you'll get where you need to be eventually
I know from your previous posts that having a job is really important for you. I wonder what thoughts come up for you when you get closer to getting a job. It sounds like taking that step that would put you directly towards achieving your goal of being employed is something that scares you? I could be wrong of course but you've done a lot of searching and meeting with others to get a job, and it seems like there's still something holding you back. Rather than judging yourself and getting lost in a cloud of shame, I wonder what it would be like for you to just observe your feelings, fears, concerns etc with curiosity? It seems like you recognise that your work coach is trying to help you, and you are deserving of help, but the process of that sounds frustrating for the both of you. Remember to take breaks too, you'll get where you need to be eventually
briannat
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Re: Fighting against Social Anxiety
@JMMV2005 thats so great!! If you feel like it, give us an update when you go, i would love to hear about it 
Re: Fighting against Social Anxiety
@JMMV2005 im proud of you and how far you’ve come❤️ i know how hard it is and im very glad for you that you are managing to challenge your anxiety!! The progresss you have made already is impressive and it sounds like you have a good plan with New Year’s resolutions (im gonna do that too it’s a good idea) im happy for you 🫶