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Hey @bignosegirly0 , thanks so much for sharing this. Mhm, I feel frustrated on your behalf hearing this! That sounds really dissapointing, to be physically ignored in a situation where you're trying to convey your point!

How did this leave you feeling?

It feels really positive that you were aiming to open up about how you feel and to share your point of view. You deserve to be listened to. How do you feel more generally about your colleagues and your place of work?

Sending hugs,

Hey @eylah , thank you for this message.

Firstly, that sounds really worrying about your friend, and I suppose I'm just thinking of how you've had to cope with similiar worries in the past and how this might bring up those past memories. Worrying about someone you care about that way can feel sickening, and I can imagine it's just a lot on top of the ways you're trying to survive yourself too.

Can I ask if your friend feels able to reach out to any services for support? I can put some below if helpful:

And secondly, thank you for sharing some more about where you're feeling unliked and uncared for. Thats a painful thought, @eylah , and I really appreciate your honesty in sharing that sometimes that's a reality for you here too on Community, feeling as though you're useless and taking up space. It feels important that you can be honest about what it feels like to be a member here.

I know this doesn't take away from how you're feeling at all, but I wanted to share that as a relatively new Community mod, I'm really moved by just how authentically you show up in this space, speaking out from an honest place about what you're going through. The fact that you make posts about what's on your mind is, from my perspective, seriously comendable, and I think that when we are vulnerable, that can often be permission-granting for other people too, encouraging others to open up and take up space as each of you deserve. You're absolutely vital here on Community, Eylah, and a huge part of setting the tone of this space becoming an ever-more honest and real space. So thank you. Thank you for taking up space. Thank you for posting. Thank you for letting us in. It's genuinely such an honour that you choose to share, and we care. I assure you

That being said, I don't mean to say that in order to 'change' how you feel because your experience is valid, and I appreciate that for you, this space can feel isolating sometimes too. Again, thank you for being so real about that, and I hope we can keep a conversation going about this

With care,
Sian

@TheNightmare Sorry about this

First of all please don’t overthink, It’ll wear you down and trust me theres no need to because it’s ok to make mistakes or do something wrong, I used to overthink tons but I realised I was basically poisoning myself with my own thoughts and I’ve been working to try and cut it down, I know thats easier said than done but the first step is be kinder to yourself and don’t beat yourself up, you don’t deserve it

Also about taking opportunities, don’t overthink how you didn’t take past opportunities but focus on future opportunities, and if your scared or unsure about taking a job in the future please just take it, theres a 90% chance it’s not gonna be as scary as you think, and if it isn’t nice you don’t have to stay

I’ve been trying things that I’m scared of or unsure of lately and it’s been the best thing I’ve ever done, I feel more positive and I can see progress being made in my life even if it is in small steps, the “don’t think just do” mindset can be so helpful

So don’t beat yourself up with overthinking and when you get an opportunity for something but your not sure if you should take it, just try it and see where it leads you, worst case scenario you don’t have stick with it, and like I said I’d say about 90% of the time when you try something your unsure of it pays off

Good luck I believe in you

Hey @eylah , I'm just catching up on these messages It feels awful that you're having to battle through so much of this on your own right now, and I can imagine esspecially with your birthday coming up next week it's overwhelming to reflect on your life right now and how alone you're feeling.

And I can hear how much you miss your mum in the middle of all this too. That's a whole extra layer - coping with grieving and missing her everyday. It's been world-altering what you've been through, and it sounds devestating to feel yourself breaking into pieces. I know it doesn't even begin to take the pain away, but I'm sending you the biggest hug. You matter, Eylah. I'm so sorry you're having to fight everyday right now. You deserve so much more than this.

You mentioned that no one likes you, and I wondered whether you were referring to anyone / any group of people particularly here that have made you feel this way esspecially recently, or perhaps this is a general feeling?

hi @TheNightmare

I know from your previous posts that having a job is really important for you. I wonder what thoughts come up for you when you get closer to getting a job. It sounds like taking that step that would put you directly towards achieving your goal of being employed is something that scares you? I could be wrong of course but you've done a lot of searching and meeting with others to get a job, and it seems like there's still something holding you back. Rather than judging yourself and getting lost in a cloud of shame, I wonder what it would be like for you to just observe your feelings, fears, concerns etc with curiosity? It seems like you recognise that your work coach is trying to help you, and you are deserving of help, but the process of that sounds frustrating for the both of you. Remember to take breaks too, you'll get where you need to be eventually