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Re: My parents said that I should die
Hey @Kate_20
It sounds really distressing to have your own parents make comments about how you're managing each day when you're dealing with so much. You deserve to be supported and understood through this, Kate. You're dealing with so much, and you've been so brave to push through all of these painful and overwhelming emotions. I'm wondering if there's anyone else in your life that you feel safe and trust, that you can maybe stay with for now to help keep you safe, as it seems like home is quite toxic for you at the moment?
It sounds really distressing to have your own parents make comments about how you're managing each day when you're dealing with so much. You deserve to be supported and understood through this, Kate. You're dealing with so much, and you've been so brave to push through all of these painful and overwhelming emotions. I'm wondering if there's anyone else in your life that you feel safe and trust, that you can maybe stay with for now to help keep you safe, as it seems like home is quite toxic for you at the moment?
Re: whittering
I away frm where i live n I feel good 😊 but why do we fall wen we go to the environment we live in?
Re: Drink and pregnancy
Hey @annas - how are you feeling after a bit of time has passed from these intense feelings? Have you had an appointment with a midwife yet? If not, it may be worth seeing if you can have a chat with one about how you have been feeling. They will be able to talk you through your options and also refer you to further support if they think you could benefit from this.
You've mentioned a few times that you are thinking of ending your pregnancy, how are you feeling about this at the moment? It's really important to remember that it is always your right to choose this as an option, and there is support available to work out what feels right for you at the moment. It may be worth reaching out to an organisation such as BPAS (British Pregnancy Advisory Service) who can provide support across all aspects of pregnancy, including thinking about having an abortion. You can find out more about their support options here. One thing to flag from that article is the advice they give around some abortion advisory services, which says:
We are all here for you, do let us know how you are getting on and if you want to talk anything through with us
You've mentioned a few times that you are thinking of ending your pregnancy, how are you feeling about this at the moment? It's really important to remember that it is always your right to choose this as an option, and there is support available to work out what feels right for you at the moment. It may be worth reaching out to an organisation such as BPAS (British Pregnancy Advisory Service) who can provide support across all aspects of pregnancy, including thinking about having an abortion. You can find out more about their support options here. One thing to flag from that article is the advice they give around some abortion advisory services, which says:
Some organisations advertising free pregnancy testing and unplanned pregnancy counselling are strongly opposed to abortion. They often attempt to mislead women by presenting themselves as an organisation which provides information about abortion as well as the other options.
They will not discuss all the options available to you in an unbiased way. If they talk about abortion as an option at all, it may involve negative, unpleasant, un-evidenced or untrue claims, and statistics.
There is a list of registered Pregnancy Advice Bureaux on the Department of Health’s website. These have all met the Department of Health’s required standards on accurate and balanced information-giving, because they refer for abortion.
We are all here for you, do let us know how you are getting on and if you want to talk anything through with us
Ed_
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Re: What do you think about straight writers writing stories with LGBTQ+ characters in it?
Building on this, I found out recently that 'perspective editors' provide feedback and suggest edits to how fictional characters are written. For example, if a straight male is writing a bisexual female character, a bisexual female perspective editor can be hired to go over the writing.I don't think there's anything wrong with it at all. Like Brooke says any characters written need to make sure you do proper research about, like when some men write about women and its the most obscene thing ever lol
JustV
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Re: Concern over LFTs and PCRs
Hey @AislingDM ! I am really sorry to hear you are feeling anxious. I won't lie, as I have been (and largely continue to) shield due to being clinically extremely vulnerable, I am also feeling anxious about it. For example, I graduate from my Masters into employment this year, if everything moves offline again - does that mean I am at risk or unemployed?
However, as you said, I also understand that people who are less vulnerable are excited to go back to normal and do all the things they couldn't when things were shut and put on pause. It is really difficult and I would be interested to hear everyone else's thoughts
However, as you said, I also understand that people who are less vulnerable are excited to go back to normal and do all the things they couldn't when things were shut and put on pause. It is really difficult and I would be interested to hear everyone else's thoughts
Re: What do you think about straight actors playing gay roles?
Hey @AislingDM
Thanks for your response. Oh, indeed. I can only agree with how multi-faceted it is. One step at a time, and if we all play our role, we can make a huge difference!
Thanks for your response. Oh, indeed. I can only agree with how multi-faceted it is. One step at a time, and if we all play our role, we can make a huge difference!
Re: Suggest makeup looks?
@Jellyelephant have you been doing any creative eye make up recently? I wanna do like that sunset colours you did
i have that pallette shaunie i love it!!
you;ve inspired me to try a new colour so i gave green a go today. Not sure how I feel about it but here you go
Re: Would you rather.....
Re: Help me get more informed!
Hey @LowTrekker
First of all welcome to The Mix, it's a pleasure to meet you, and thank you so much for sharing what you're going through right now. I honestly think that red flags will change from person to person, and you should feel comfortable about what is being discussed whatever person you're speaking to. If this is a concern for you, or makes you feel uncomfortable, then maybe this is a so called red flag personally for you, and that's more than okay. I know we can feel pressured from society to be in a relationship that lasts by a certain age or have your life mapped out but you're still very young, and your journey and pace will be different to someone else and that is perfectly okay!
Also, I again think that casual status of relationships is something that varies greatly from one person to the next, so your definition of casual relationships is probably different to theirs. If you're worried or feel unsure, if you feel comfortable, it may be helpful to speak to them about what they think a casual relationship entails and see if it is in line with what you're looking for right now. Your feelings are valid, and you deserve to be involved in something that makes you happy and is within your boundaries and comfort. Some people may see casual relationships as friends with benefits, meaning they want to be your friend too and get to know you, whereas others may see it more as just sexual relations with someone they know and that's it.So it may be important to find out what their idea of this is for your own benefit.
As far as I'm aware serious relationships tend to be something where you get to know the other person (or people) in more depth, build a strong connection and have a longer term plan of staying together. Of course, this will probably vary from one relationship to the next. I hope this is helpful and thank you for reaching out! We're always here if you ever need anything
First of all welcome to The Mix, it's a pleasure to meet you, and thank you so much for sharing what you're going through right now. I honestly think that red flags will change from person to person, and you should feel comfortable about what is being discussed whatever person you're speaking to. If this is a concern for you, or makes you feel uncomfortable, then maybe this is a so called red flag personally for you, and that's more than okay. I know we can feel pressured from society to be in a relationship that lasts by a certain age or have your life mapped out but you're still very young, and your journey and pace will be different to someone else and that is perfectly okay!
Also, I again think that casual status of relationships is something that varies greatly from one person to the next, so your definition of casual relationships is probably different to theirs. If you're worried or feel unsure, if you feel comfortable, it may be helpful to speak to them about what they think a casual relationship entails and see if it is in line with what you're looking for right now. Your feelings are valid, and you deserve to be involved in something that makes you happy and is within your boundaries and comfort. Some people may see casual relationships as friends with benefits, meaning they want to be your friend too and get to know you, whereas others may see it more as just sexual relations with someone they know and that's it.So it may be important to find out what their idea of this is for your own benefit.
As far as I'm aware serious relationships tend to be something where you get to know the other person (or people) in more depth, build a strong connection and have a longer term plan of staying together. Of course, this will probably vary from one relationship to the next. I hope this is helpful and thank you for reaching out! We're always here if you ever need anything
What helps you set boundaries with your family?
Hey everyone,
Family relationships can be difficult and it's important to remember that you have the right to set boundaries with whatever behaviour upsets you. I thought I'd start up a thread for everyone to share their advice for someone struggling with a difficult family relationship.
Comment below any advice you have
Family relationships can be difficult and it's important to remember that you have the right to set boundaries with whatever behaviour upsets you. I thought I'd start up a thread for everyone to share their advice for someone struggling with a difficult family relationship.
Comment below any advice you have
Aoife
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