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Hope you're doing okay @kels1278

Do keep us updated with how you're feeling and remember we're here for you. I also wanted to share some additional places you can reach out for support if you feel you would like someone to talk to. Some of these services are open 24 hours a day, so they are just a call or text away when you need them

*Crisis Messenger - Our crisis messenger text service provides free, 24/7 crisis support across the UK. If you’re aged 25 or under, and are experiencing any painful emotion or are in crisis, you can text THEMIX to 85258.
* Papyrus - If you are having thoughts of suicide, you can contact HOPELINEUK for confidential support and practical advice. You can call them on 0800 068 4141 or text them on 07786209697.
* Samaritans are reachable by phone and email 24/7. Whatever you're going through, you can call them any time, from any phone on 116 123.
* If you have any concerns for your health or safety, the quickest way to get help is to call 999 or go to your nearest A&E. 

How are you getting on, @kels1278?

kels1278 wrote: »

I cba to fight anymore man, I'm tired. I'm so, so tired.

kels1278 wrote: »

I’m fine, I always be fine in the end. If I don’t pick myself up no one else is going to do it

I wanted to acknowledge some of the feelings behind what you shared here. It sounds like you're feeling pretty... exhausted? That feeling of tiredness and 'I'll always be fine in the end' is something a lot of people experience when they live with chronic mental health challenges. Dealing with these things for a long time is emotionally draining, and it's understandable and normal to want to drink.

Do you mind if I ask, is there anything you can share with us that might provide more context to how you're feeling? Is there anything specific making you want to drink (e.g. life challenges)?

You've done well to connect with us here. Reaching out for support is never an easy thing to do and this community is always here to support you where we can.

Great thread idea!

I think a key piece of advice is that you never need to justify yourself to others. I'm not big on drinking, and I remember worrying about that before going to university. I'd think what excuses can I use? Now I know, you don't need any excuses - what you feel comfortable with is the only thing that matters So just being firm but fun worked for me. Lighthearted things like "I'm happy with my mocktails, no hangover for me!".

If anybody continues to make you feel uncomfortable...they're not the people you need in your life

Such lovely replies to this!

I'd love to echo indepndent's note, that addiction is an illness. It does not make you a bad person, it does not define you, and it is separate from who *you* are.

To support a friend, I'd really emphasise that I am a safe person with no judgement. I'd let them know I am somebody they can talk to openly without feeling ashamed. I'd be nothing but proud of them for opening up and admitting they needed support. Such a huge and wonderful step towards their recovery

What amazing responses have already been provided! Such great words of wisdom. Also so uplifting to know we are in a community with such supportive and friendly people. Keep being you I think if I was in this situation, I would mainly provide a listening ear and one of my favourite quotes that "it will all be okay in the end, if it is not okay it is not the end" . I find the quote really comforting and reassuring in times of difficulty!

The most important thing is to be available for this person and give them all the support they need.
Addictions are a very intensive topic, but definitely giving support is the best thing you can do, in my opinion

I'd say to tell a friend who'll support you. One can feel very ashamed and embarrassed to have an addiction, and it can force you to isolate yourself and hide the struggle from those around you. Having someone to talk to can be a really important emotional support, and stop one from feeling lonely going through what is a really difficult experience x

I think I’d advise that addiction is an illness, just like other mental illnesses, and addicts aren’t always “bad” people. Whether it’s drugs or alcohol or something else, an addiction is very hard to control and recovery isn’t easy. I’ve known people who struggle with addiction and it’s not always as easy as saying “just stop drinking” or such things. And it’s ok to need support for it.

Of course, it is important to understand the potential risks and indicators of drinking too much alcohol. However, many people enjoy having a few drinks with their friends, for celebrations, or many other reasons - and that's okay! Understanding how to keep yourself safe and others around you safe while drinking is the key

So I'm wondering - what are your best tips for safe drinking?