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I think I like girls.
I recently matched with a guy on tinder not realising it was a couple looking for someone to join them sexually. After talking I was open to the idea and wanted to try it out, and I absolutely loved it! When I was with the girl it was different but it felt so amazing. I’ve always just had sex with guys and I have found women attractive before but never actually been sexual with them but WOW! I enjoyed it a lot but I like having sex with men too although I don’t think I like men but I like the sex with men too! I don’t know I’m just confused and I can’t really talk to my family as I’m Asian and that won’t go down well.
Re: Scared about the thought of moving out
Distraction wrote: »Long story short, my dad said he thinks I should get a place of my own so that I can be annoyed with myself (if I'm so upset with how things are at home)
He's normally chilled about these things, so it's the first time he said something like this, we just moved into a new house and I love my room, I have a double bed and work space and two windows with views of just trees, it makes me so happy in the morning, I'd be sad to leave it, but that's the only thing I'd be sad about and the dog, I'd miss the dog so much, I'd be quite happy living by myself, I worked out that I could rent a flat I found for at least a year with bills included and have money left over and of course I'm only at college for another 5 ish months so I can do full time work once I've finished that, it's not too far from work and theres a train that goes right into the city close by, I also have a motorbike which is my own so I have transport.
I'm just scared to make the move and whenever this topic has come up with my step mum we always say I'm moving out but then we resolve it and I don't.
It's always been a touchy subject, I don't really know what to do.
If I did move out maybe we'ed all have a better relationship or maybe my dad and step mum will split up cos she'll be arguing with him more when I'm not around to take her sh*t.
Hey
moving out is certainly a big decision! I find it interesting that your dad has mentioned this out of nowhere, normally people discuss moving out over some time, and you'd be the person to bring it up. Personally I'd figure out why he's brought this up now. If you're happy at home, then surely it's worth discussing about the possibility of staying? x
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Re: My daily struggles are boring now I am sick of myself (TW: suicidal feelings)
I can hear how much pain you're in right now @Kate_20 , you've clearly been suffering for such a long time in so many ways, it's no wonder you feel simply exhausted by it all. It must be especially draining to worry so much and to feel like your problems are not legitimate or 'real'. I truly promise you that the pain you are in is real and you certainly are no 'attention-seeker' for needing help throughout this. It sound like you have a confusing array of thoughts that conflict each other, this must be really scary and overwhelming. Given how much constant distress you're in, it's beyond understandable to feel there is no way out, but I truly promise you, you do not deserve to die, Kate. I know that this probably won't change how you're feeling right now though, and that's okay too. I know you're trying so hard to be here and for this I am thankful.
I'm wondering what do you think makes you feel like you need to be 'of some kind of use'?
Huge hugs and love xx
@AislingDM That is a good question. I think everyone has to create some sort of value.
Kate_20
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Re: My daily struggles are boring now I am sick of myself (TW: suicidal feelings)
Sorry for not replying on time. I am really afraid of replying wrongly as I cannot think clearly.
Kate_20
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Re: I send nudes and then got blocked
Hi @Annahahahh I am truly sorry that happened to you. Your fears and worries and completely valid, but you are not alone and there are people out there who can help you. I am pleased that you did try to contact the police, even though they we not helpful its good that you felt like you could go to them. @AislingDM is making very good suggestions and they are right, sharing someone else nudes online is illegal, so you at least have some legal proection.
Something that might be helpful once you are in a better mind frame would be to speak to someone about why when you are in self destruct mode you behave in this way. It does not seem like a healthy coping mechanism, and has the potential to be dangerous for you. Talking to someone about it might help you realise why you do this and help you to be sexually active but in a healthier, safer less destructive way.
https://www.torontoaddictioncounselling.com/sex-as-coping-mechanism/ this website has some good info
https://www.talkspace.com/blog/when-is-sex-bad-for-your-mental-health-what-to-do-about-it/ this website has good info too.
03001237123 is the national sexual health helpline - they will be able to offer advice about revenge porn and other worries you may have about your sexual health.
www.brook.org.uk - offer sexual health advice as well, but they also offer counselling and therapy.
I hope that you are able to get some closure about this and move one
Something that might be helpful once you are in a better mind frame would be to speak to someone about why when you are in self destruct mode you behave in this way. It does not seem like a healthy coping mechanism, and has the potential to be dangerous for you. Talking to someone about it might help you realise why you do this and help you to be sexually active but in a healthier, safer less destructive way.
https://www.torontoaddictioncounselling.com/sex-as-coping-mechanism/ this website has some good info
https://www.talkspace.com/blog/when-is-sex-bad-for-your-mental-health-what-to-do-about-it/ this website has good info too.
03001237123 is the national sexual health helpline - they will be able to offer advice about revenge porn and other worries you may have about your sexual health.
www.brook.org.uk - offer sexual health advice as well, but they also offer counselling and therapy.
I hope that you are able to get some closure about this and move one
Advice for university
Hey guys, I am going to university soon and it will be the first time I spend a long time, alone, away from my family 
. I wouldn't say that I am nervous yet because things tend to become real for me a lot slower than it does for other people but I am still in need of some advice about going to university for the first time. The thing is I don't really feel like I am going to go because the end of my last year in 6th form was really rushed, we just did exams and then left. No goodbye. No send off. It was just like "okay see ya! good luck with your life" so it doesn't feel like it has ended but it has which is no fault of their own because, ya know the pandemic!!! But yeah I just don't know if I feel excited or nervous because it doesn't feel real.
But yeah if anyone has advice for me on what I should do before and when I get to uni, how to make friends when I get there, how to approach lectures and independent study etc. Any advice you have would be great and accepted here. And hey maybe others who are worried about university can find some good advice here.
(My thoughts are really jumbled so if this is hard to read, I am sorry
)
. I wouldn't say that I am nervous yet because things tend to become real for me a lot slower than it does for other people but I am still in need of some advice about going to university for the first time. The thing is I don't really feel like I am going to go because the end of my last year in 6th form was really rushed, we just did exams and then left. No goodbye. No send off. It was just like "okay see ya! good luck with your life" so it doesn't feel like it has ended but it has which is no fault of their own because, ya know the pandemic!!! But yeah I just don't know if I feel excited or nervous because it doesn't feel real.But yeah if anyone has advice for me on what I should do before and when I get to uni, how to make friends when I get there, how to approach lectures and independent study etc. Any advice you have would be great and accepted here. And hey maybe others who are worried about university can find some good advice here.
(My thoughts are really jumbled so if this is hard to read, I am sorry
)