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Re: Share your advice on how to manage peer pressure
The one bit of advice that comes to mind is to pick and choose your friends carefully, remember that there's always people out there who you'd have fun with and would want to spend time with you. Admittedly this is more of a pre-emptive tactic to avoid getting peer pressured in the first place but it's also good to remember if your friends are making you uncomfortable there's no reason to force yourself to stick around!
Re: How to delete your account
I cannot find how to contact @TheMix over PM. I would like to delete my account (option 2).
Re: What are you listening to right now?
Going On by Gnarls Barkley. Slightly obscure artist I only really remembered from the song 'Crazy' but turns out their other stuff is pretty bomb.
https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=u_R9fId_Rqo
Also an absolute gem by The Black Keys - The Weight of Love. I love songs like this where you can just zone out and jam to the guitar sections that seem to go on forever.
https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=ygdVEIrVnIk
https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=u_R9fId_RqoAlso an absolute gem by The Black Keys - The Weight of Love. I love songs like this where you can just zone out and jam to the guitar sections that seem to go on forever.
https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=ygdVEIrVnIk
JustV
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Re: My daily struggles are boring now I am sick of myself (TW: suicidal feelings)
I hear what you mean in regards to feeling like everyone should produce value, however I reckon that nearly everyone does in their own way. Instead of thinking about value in terms of literal contribution to society, or how you can do well academically, we could think about tiny things that you might instinctively dismiss as being 'insignificant'. Like the fact that you talk to people on here, shows the 'value' that you bring to other people's day-to-day as we can find some peace in knowing that you are still here. To me this is extremely brave and valuable. Sometimes I reckon we place to much value upon the notion of 'tangible contribution to society' and this can make us feel worthless, when this certainly is not the case. It must be so frustrating on top of the pain you are in to have to worry about completing academic work for your deadlines 
I'm wondering if you would share what you're studying about atm to see if anyone on here could provide some insight and support? (Especially if the university won't provide you with additional help, despite your pain) 
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I'm wondering if you would share what you're studying about atm to see if anyone on here could provide some insight and support? (Especially if the university won't provide you with additional help, despite your pain) x
Re: I feel like the crisis team would think it is my fault if I die
That's simply horrid, and in some ways I'm sure, leaves you feeling totally alone That's certainly not the role of a crisis team, but that doesn't mean they cannot end up making you feel worse, as has clearly happened. You deserve to be supported, no matter what the circumstances, and feeling blamed for your pain is truly ridiculous and wrong. Would you like to talk about how they made you feel like it's your fault?
That's certainly not the role of a crisis team, but that doesn't mean they cannot end up making you feel worse, as has clearly happened. You deserve to be supported, no matter what the circumstances, and feeling blamed for your pain is truly ridiculous and wrong. Would you like to talk about how they made you feel like it's your fault? Re: I feel like the crisis team would think it is my fault if I die
Hi @Kate_20,
I am so sorry to hear you had a negative experience with the crisis team. It does not sound like they helped you much. Please remember you can always reach out to Papyrus and Samaritans if you would like further support. I have posted their details below. I hope you feel better soon. We are here for you.
Papyrus (2 pm - midnight)
Call 0800 068 41 41
Email pat@papyrus-uk.org
Samaritans (24/7)
Call 116 123
Email jo@samaritans.org
I am so sorry to hear you had a negative experience with the crisis team. It does not sound like they helped you much. Please remember you can always reach out to Papyrus and Samaritans if you would like further support. I have posted their details below. I hope you feel better soon. We are here for you.
Papyrus (2 pm - midnight)
Call 0800 068 41 41
Email pat@papyrus-uk.org
Samaritans (24/7)
Call 116 123
Email jo@samaritans.org
Re: I feel like the crisis team would think it is my fault if I die
@Kate_20 That sounds really tough, especially if you feel unsupported by crisis teams.
Regarding your issue of lack of privacy in your room, I would like to suggest SHOUT which is a free mental health helpline that you can text 24/7 which would ensure your privacy and perhaps have faster replies than those of an email service. I will leave their details below in case that sounds of interest
Text 'SHOUT' to 85258
https://giveusashout.org/
Regarding your issue of lack of privacy in your room, I would like to suggest SHOUT which is a free mental health helpline that you can text 24/7 which would ensure your privacy and perhaps have faster replies than those of an email service. I will leave their details below in case that sounds of interest
Text 'SHOUT' to 85258
https://giveusashout.org/
Re: I feel so empty and stressed for nearly nothing
@Kate_20 great!!
I'm not sure what kind of podcasts you're interested but some really good ones are...
These are all quite easy-to-listen, chatty/ upbeat podcasts. Let me know if you'd like any more recommendations, perhaps from different genres!!
By the way, apologies this has taken me so long to reply to, I'm new here and still getting used to it
I'm not sure what kind of podcasts you're interested but some really good ones are...
- Happy Place (Ferne Cotton) - A really conversational podcast hosted by Ferne Cotton, where she interviews a new celebrity guest each episode, talking through their personal lives and what makes them happy basically!
- Off Menu (Ed Gamble & James Acaster) - Really funny one where celeb quests are asked to create their dream menu (a lot more enjoyable than it sounds, they always go off on very entertaining tangents!)
- Sh**ged Married Annoyed (Chris & Rosie Ramsay) - Married comedians chat about anything and everything, answering weekly questions from the public and a secret celeb (I've never actually listened to this one but heard from friends it's hilarious so will definitely be giving it a go myself!)
- Private Parts (Jamie Laing) - Another celebrity interview one, but where celebs are encouraged to spill stories they haven't told before/ chat through embarrassing moments etc (another really funny one - I have to stop myself laughing out loud when listening to this while out walking!)
These are all quite easy-to-listen, chatty/ upbeat podcasts. Let me know if you'd like any more recommendations, perhaps from different genres!!
By the way, apologies this has taken me so long to reply to, I'm new here and still getting used to it
Re: My parents said that I deserve to suffer that crime (TW: suicidal feelings)
Hi @Kate_20,
I agree with what @Azziman has posted. I want to add hugs and the reminder that you can always contact Samaritans or Papyrus. I have posted their details below to support you and anyone else who has been affected by any of the topics discussed. We acknowledge that you, unfortunately, do not feel great about yourself but we all think you are wonderful.
Papyrus (2 pm-midnight):
Call 0800 068 41 41
Email pat@papyrus-uk.org
Samaritans (24/7):
Call 116 123
Email jo@samaritans.org
I agree with what @Azziman has posted. I want to add hugs and the reminder that you can always contact Samaritans or Papyrus. I have posted their details below to support you and anyone else who has been affected by any of the topics discussed. We acknowledge that you, unfortunately, do not feel great about yourself but we all think you are wonderful.
Papyrus (2 pm-midnight):
Call 0800 068 41 41
Email pat@papyrus-uk.org
Samaritans (24/7):
Call 116 123
Email jo@samaritans.org
Re: Hello..I'm here looking for help
Welcome to the community, Roberto. You've done well to open up here.
What you've been through and are currently going through sounds rough, and you're doing the right thing to reach out for support. Any one of the things you mentioned in your post would be a lot to be dealing with, let alone all of them at once. Grief isn't an easy process at the best of times.
Just a heads up that The Mix community is a space for young people to talk to other young people (which might be why not many folks have replied here). You can find out a bit more about our age policy in 'What if I'm over 25?'
I'd encourage you to use a service more setup for adults, such as Side by Side - a community like ours run by Mind, a mental health charity for over 18's. That might be a good place to find other parents in a similar situation who can relate a bit more.
Alternatively, Young Minds are an organisation who specialise in supporting parents of young people.
Best of luck with whatever happens next, and I hope you find the time to grieve and process what's happening with your family. If your son wants to join this community, he's more than welcome.
You've done well to open up here.What you've been through and are currently going through sounds rough, and you're doing the right thing to reach out for support. Any one of the things you mentioned in your post would be a lot to be dealing with, let alone all of them at once. Grief isn't an easy process at the best of times.
Just a heads up that The Mix community is a space for young people to talk to other young people (which might be why not many folks have replied here). You can find out a bit more about our age policy in 'What if I'm over 25?'
I'd encourage you to use a service more setup for adults, such as Side by Side - a community like ours run by Mind, a mental health charity for over 18's. That might be a good place to find other parents in a similar situation who can relate a bit more.
Alternatively, Young Minds are an organisation who specialise in supporting parents of young people.
Best of luck with whatever happens next, and I hope you find the time to grieve and process what's happening with your family. If your son wants to join this community, he's more than welcome.
JustV
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