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Re: Q&A with Kate - a counsellor at The Mix
"What counts as bullying?"
Bullying can take many different forms and can take place in different settings. Whether it is in school, home, clubs, work.....bullying can cause lasting effects and should be addressed as soon as possible.
Bullying is when someone is the recipient of persistent behaviour that makes them feel ridiculed and worthless. Such bullying behaviour can be verbal (teasing, name-calling), social (spreading rumours, excluding from groups), and physical (hitting, taking/breaking things). There is often an infliction of a perceived or real power difference.
It is not acceptable, and noone should be on the receiving end of bullying behaviour. We must seek help as soon as we can. Please reach out to someone; there will be someone who can help and support.
Bullying can take many different forms and can take place in different settings. Whether it is in school, home, clubs, work.....bullying can cause lasting effects and should be addressed as soon as possible.
Bullying is when someone is the recipient of persistent behaviour that makes them feel ridiculed and worthless. Such bullying behaviour can be verbal (teasing, name-calling), social (spreading rumours, excluding from groups), and physical (hitting, taking/breaking things). There is often an infliction of a perceived or real power difference.
It is not acceptable, and noone should be on the receiving end of bullying behaviour. We must seek help as soon as we can. Please reach out to someone; there will be someone who can help and support.
Re: Q&A with Kate - a counsellor at The Mix
"How to tell someone you are being bullied. What to do when you don't know how to cope with bad self esteem."
In whatever setting the bullying is taking place, the person you should tell should be someone you can trust. Together with that person you can discuss how to take steps forward to tackle the situation, to remove the bullying behaviour. It is important that together you involve someone who is in a position of influence over the setting within which the bullying behaviour is taking place (if they are not the first person you reached out to). This might be to tell a teacher, manager at work, or a family member.
Telling someone can be hard. It is an important step, and with someone else by your side, you don't feel so alone. This can give extra strength.
Self-esteem is something we all have to work on throughout our lives. Some of us have positive early life experiences and relationships which can lay a solid foundation for building up self-esteem. Some of us have not had such early life experiences and have to work hard to build up our self-esteem. Whatever our foundation, our self-esteem can get knocked or boosted throughout our lives - we have to keep a close relationship with it.
We are social beings and the vast majority of us (if not all) build up self-esteem with the support and meaningful presence of others. It is not a sign of weakness to rely on or need others. Connecting with others in a positive way can give us the strength to build up our self-esteem. Counselling can provide an opportunity for discovering our values and strengths, upon which self-esteem can be built.
In whatever setting the bullying is taking place, the person you should tell should be someone you can trust. Together with that person you can discuss how to take steps forward to tackle the situation, to remove the bullying behaviour. It is important that together you involve someone who is in a position of influence over the setting within which the bullying behaviour is taking place (if they are not the first person you reached out to). This might be to tell a teacher, manager at work, or a family member.
Telling someone can be hard. It is an important step, and with someone else by your side, you don't feel so alone. This can give extra strength.
Self-esteem is something we all have to work on throughout our lives. Some of us have positive early life experiences and relationships which can lay a solid foundation for building up self-esteem. Some of us have not had such early life experiences and have to work hard to build up our self-esteem. Whatever our foundation, our self-esteem can get knocked or boosted throughout our lives - we have to keep a close relationship with it.
We are social beings and the vast majority of us (if not all) build up self-esteem with the support and meaningful presence of others. It is not a sign of weakness to rely on or need others. Connecting with others in a positive way can give us the strength to build up our self-esteem. Counselling can provide an opportunity for discovering our values and strengths, upon which self-esteem can be built.
What's your favourite comfort tv shows or films?
As it's getting closer to winter, and the daylight is shortening, I know it can be really difficult time for everyone. I thought I'd create this thread as it may help others find new comfort shows or films in a time where it's needed most.
My favourite comfort films are the Harry Potter series, I feel like winter is always the best time to watch them. I also am loving Once Upon A Time right now, it just feels like a warm hug to me right now. (No spoilers please, I've only just started it, I know I'm late haha)
Sending love to you all, don't forget we're always here for you to reach out to whenever you need it
My favourite comfort films are the Harry Potter series, I feel like winter is always the best time to watch them. I also am loving Once Upon A Time right now, it just feels like a warm hug to me right now. (No spoilers please, I've only just started it, I know I'm late haha)
Sending love to you all, don't forget we're always here for you to reach out to whenever you need it
Sense of Achievement
What is the thing that you have created that brings you the biggest sense of pride in yourself? It can be anything, from a song to a poem to some cakes to a DIY project. Anything works as long as it made you happy!! xx
Positive quotes
“Say something positive, and you’ll see something positive.” —Jim Thompson
“All you need is the plan, the road map, and the courage to press on to your destination.” —Earl Nightingale
“Keep your face always toward the sunshine—and shadows will fall behind you.” —Walt Whitman
“Extraordinary things are always hiding in places people never think to look.” —Jodi Picoul
“Setting goals is the first step in turning the invisible into the visible.” —Tony Robbins
“You can have it all. Just not all at once.” —Oprah Winfrey
“All you need is the plan, the road map, and the courage to press on to your destination.” —Earl Nightingale
“Keep your face always toward the sunshine—and shadows will fall behind you.” —Walt Whitman
“Extraordinary things are always hiding in places people never think to look.” —Jodi Picoul
“Setting goals is the first step in turning the invisible into the visible.” —Tony Robbins
“You can have it all. Just not all at once.” —Oprah Winfrey
Re: Sibling Relationships
Hi @Anch0r33 that sounds really tough, but lovely that you want to form a bond with your sister.
Do you think you could try and find out (maybe from your dad?) or from her directly - what does she really like? You could then ask her some questions about that? Like if there’s a particular film / tv series / game that she likes, it might be good to sit down and watch or play together or at least have a conversation about it?
I think it’s easier to talk about something you love vs trying to think of random stuff, which can really help bonding, hence that suggestion! What do you think?
Do you think you could try and find out (maybe from your dad?) or from her directly - what does she really like? You could then ask her some questions about that? Like if there’s a particular film / tv series / game that she likes, it might be good to sit down and watch or play together or at least have a conversation about it?
I think it’s easier to talk about something you love vs trying to think of random stuff, which can really help bonding, hence that suggestion! What do you think?
Late Night Question Time!
Hey guys I have a question for you all.
My question is if you had one day left in this world where would you go and why?💕.
I think I would go to Disneyland in America with some friends and family because I’ve never been on a plane before and I would like Disneyland to be my first flight because I’ve always wanted to go there.
Where would you choose?
My question is if you had one day left in this world where would you go and why?💕.
I think I would go to Disneyland in America with some friends and family because I’ve never been on a plane before and I would like Disneyland to be my first flight because I’ve always wanted to go there.
Where would you choose?
Disabilities ✨
Hello guys so I would like to talk about disabilities and people with no disabilities. So as I might have said ages ago I have a disability called cerbal parsley which means I can’t walk but some people with my disability can’t walk talk or eat themselves but I guess I am luck because I just can’t walk I am not paralysed or anything but if I was It shouldn’t be a problem.
The whole point of this post is to say from my opinion I think people that haven’t got no disabilities are sometimes horrible to disabled people like people need to understand that we are all human at the end of the day and we need to be kind to each other. Then the world would be a better place.
For example people that can walk look at people funny in a wheelchair and I think that is not nice. ‘
Also just because your in a wheelchair people that aren’t disabled think it’s wrong to date someone that is disabled and honestly most disabled people can give the same love as anyone else can.
Non disabled people just think it’s weird to date or be friends with someone that is disabled and trust be there is nothing wrong with us.
It is ok to be different.
We still deserve to be loved🥰💖✨
The whole point of this post is to say from my opinion I think people that haven’t got no disabilities are sometimes horrible to disabled people like people need to understand that we are all human at the end of the day and we need to be kind to each other. Then the world would be a better place.
For example people that can walk look at people funny in a wheelchair and I think that is not nice. ‘
Also just because your in a wheelchair people that aren’t disabled think it’s wrong to date someone that is disabled and honestly most disabled people can give the same love as anyone else can.
Non disabled people just think it’s weird to date or be friends with someone that is disabled and trust be there is nothing wrong with us.
It is ok to be different.
We still deserve to be loved🥰💖✨
Re: Upon reflection, what are your thoughts/feelings about the past year and a half?
I have a lot of thoughts on this, but I'll keep it to the key ones. It's complicated - on the one hand, the first lockdown came at a time where it actually did me a huge favour. And as other said, it definitely forced many of us to reevaluate what we found important, and I think reflection is a very useful exercise!
Having said that, many of us felt that our social relations became really strained, especially if you live far away from one another. Several friends in relationships all broke up due to it, countless friend groups fell away, and good friendships dissolved without any way to meet up. Lots of people feel lonely especially after the forced isolation, and I wonder what the scarring effect of that will be going forwards x
Having said that, many of us felt that our social relations became really strained, especially if you live far away from one another. Several friends in relationships all broke up due to it, countless friend groups fell away, and good friendships dissolved without any way to meet up. Lots of people feel lonely especially after the forced isolation, and I wonder what the scarring effect of that will be going forwards x
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Re: Upon reflection, what are your thoughts/feelings about the past year and a half?
It has definitely been a challenging year for everyone but it has made me evaluate the things and people which are truly important to me and add something positive to my life. It has also made me appreciate the NHS more than ever, and made me want to work in mental health services even more, as so many people have been struggling during this time. Hope everyone is doing okay