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Re: Direct Messaging (DMs)
I am here to defend the friday afternoon chat, I do think it will be useful for some including me.
And @AnonymousToe it’s a lot to read but basically we’re all very much in agreement with you.
And @AnonymousToe it’s a lot to read but basically we’re all very much in agreement with you.
Re: Direct Messaging (DMs)
toffuna101 wrote: »i wish they had a dark mode feature because its going to get dark soon and i need my eyes to be comfortable.
Haha. Its funny cause when I first joined over 2 years ago (which feels crazy) I suggested a dark mode, which apparently was already something many others were suggesting too. But we were told it was 'too difficult to implement on the back end' so it wasnt a priority (which btw, as a software dev myself I can say its not hard to implement). And now we're here, still without a dark mode that people we asking for, but with a random colour scheme no one has asked for
Re: Drowning in stress
Hey @Redemption, sorry to hear what you've been going through lately. It sounds like you've had a difficult time. As you say, you've been taking some really good steps forwards, but at the same time, I can hear how not being able to get that job is weighing on your mind. It's valid to feel that some days are especially hard in this recurring situation. Are there any small things you can do to make yourself feel a little better when things feel especially tough? We're here to listen to you!
Thank you @Azziman really appreciate all the empathy, encouragement and kind words. I'll need to think of some small things that might be able to help, absolutely everything just seems so tough right now. Anyway cheers really appreciate it mate ❤️.
Re: [deleted]
@BillieTheBot - i know we will all miss you so much here on the boards and in chats, myself included. you quickly became a key member in this community, helping others along side your own struggles. you should be proud of the progress you've made along the way.
i think most of us here completely understand and sympathise with your reasons for leaving, given the changes seen in recent months to the mix.
so all i can say is best of luck with everything in the future and remember to take care of yourself, because you are an amazing person who deserves so much love, luck and success (which i'm sure you'll achieve). and if you ever feel like popping back and saying hello, then you are more than welcome to.
sending the biggest of hugs
Sinead
i think most of us here completely understand and sympathise with your reasons for leaving, given the changes seen in recent months to the mix.
so all i can say is best of luck with everything in the future and remember to take care of yourself, because you are an amazing person who deserves so much love, luck and success (which i'm sure you'll achieve). and if you ever feel like popping back and saying hello, then you are more than welcome to.
sending the biggest of hugs
Sinead
Re: unhealthy coping
Yes, I think so to some extent. It’s an urge and like an itch I can’t scratch any other way. I think it’s hard for me to make a change because it isaddictive. I’ve had these behaviours on and off for a couple of years, but it’s escalated as I’ve got older. It makes me feel dirty, and I worry about what actions I’ll take next to fulfil my ‘sickness’ and these urges. It’s overwhelming to stop. I have before, but it’s so easy to fall back into the habit that I don’t see myself stopping for a while because I don't know what I'll do otherwise.What you're describing sounds so hard, and i can really feel just how much that sense of shame has gotten under your skin, leaving you feeling unclean and numb. I can hear how you worry that watching this content doesn't feel healthy and that it has become addictive, as though the compulsion to watch it feels outside your control and very overwhelming. Would that be fair to say
I just wanted to put my thoughts down. I feel gross and like I’m a pervert, but it’s easier for me to talk about things like this anonymously rather than to someone I know personally. There’s less judgement, although I still feel judged, but it’s most likely my own judgement towards myself and paranoia, honestly. It feels disgusting, and I hate the way i am and how I act.
I don’t want to talk to anyone I know personally about it. I don’t want to admit to or come forward about the content I view. I don’t watch pornography often, and it’s not my main source, but regardless, it would cause issues I don’t want to deal with. I don’t want to have to explain myself, face the shame and consequences, and be cut off from it when I’m not ready to.
I’ll look at the sources you’ve provided. Thanks.
Re: Direct Messaging (DMs)
independent_ wrote: »I am here to defend the friday afternoon chat, I do think it will be useful for some including me.
i so agree with you re friday chats - no it won’t suit everybody as people who are in school for example may be unable to join, but same goes for evening chats in terms of not being able to suit everybody either due to commitments so it’s actually good that they did take that onboard and have a bit of variety when it comes to chat times!!
Why?
With all the changes, could you not have created a whole new site and left this one alone?
Re: What if I'm over 25?
DonnerKebab wrote: »Got about 3 years left for me, despite only joining a few days ago, but hey, maybe i can use my tech skills to whip up an over 25's version of the Mix, cause lord knows my tech skills ain't getting used in this barren job market. Who knows. Who would be interested in an over 25's only version?
To be fair depending how long I got on here, having an over 25s mix would definitely be handy in the future. Its something I would want to do actually myself in the near future. Set something up that actually helps people you know.
Amy22
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Re: Direct Messaging (DMs)
We have had multiple meetings where our voices have "been heard" but they've been pretended to. Like what has happened after the last meetings, if anything it's just become even more unreliable. Y'all can keep trying but I'm not and I wish you the best with that but I'm absolutely done. I don't need this right now, I'm sure none of do I've been so so stressed sweating in bed about everything in my personal life then the most important to me is all falling a part when I need it, it ok though and my fault for becoming reliant on this space. Nothing is going to improve this, the community is done, it's over, absolutely over.