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thats interesting. well i hope you find the andy's man club helpful.

Andy’s man club is basically for men they meet up and have like a brew and you each take turns to talk about your struggles without being judged, it's like support circle here but in person more people and different ages from 18 and it's I think for men but similar it's 1 day a week you take your turn to speak and everyone supports you. It's for men because I think a lot of men feel weak, less masculine and all that for struggling, crying, not being OK and all that but it's not weak at all, it's OK not to feel OK. Like in person supportive I've felt is more effective. I love this community so much, the support is amazing and everyone is amazing, it's definitely been helpful, ive valued the community a lot more since the start of last year. It's just a bit amount of getting support and I've used online stuff. In person support might feel effective and I guess the more support the better.

It's just exhausting to struggle and any support I can get can help, the andys man club sounds ideal, maybe find people who relate, its all sges so people older or younger from 18 plus, I could pottentially meet friends there , it's drop in sessions you could just turn up also it's Monday evening from what I'm told which doesn't clash with any sessions here but if it does for whatever reason clash with here I could see what I think the best or if it clashes with work or whatever I'll have to see but yh im looking at working during the day really for just general but I know it might not be available, I'll know I'll get sorted but in the meantime or when I get a job I get I'm not going to get fully cured, it might get a overwhelmed stressed still, it will definitely help but on bad days things like therapy I'm getting will have or will make a difference hopefully, therapy I'm paying for but another thing about andys man club I think its free too. Andy’s Man Club is basically a support group for men where they meet up once a week and talk about their mental health and struggles without being judged. They have them in different parts of the country, and there’s one local to me.

I’ve bottled stuff up before, but I’ve been able to share things here and now to my therapist, and it helps. Talking might not fully cure things, but it can be a weight lifted off your shoulders when you talk to the right people.

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so i was talking to my care coordinator and my counsellor at camhs today and they recommended me to join disability sports activities. so i was like sure, ill have a look at the links they sent me to do with disability sports. bare in mind that i have cerebral palsy so i cant really do much in terms of physical activity therefore everything has to be accessible for me. my care coordinator said that i have to try at least two activities so i promised him that i would and even gave him a handshake for me to fulfill that promise. so the first activity i was thinking to do an induction on adapted cycling to try it out and see how i go. i used to like cycling on my tricycle when i was younger (maybe around 8-10ish) so that would suit my needs very well. so about an hour ago my dad booked in the last available slot for me to go on that event and im very excited to go there to be honest. however, id have to miss my volunteering in the school library since the induction starts at 10am and finishes at 11am and my volunteering in the school library starts at 11am therefore i wont be able to make it on time. but thats ok, ill just say that im sick or something. if i like it i asked my dad if i could go there to that park where theyre hosting the event there once a month. i cant go there more often since its like a half an hour drive away from my house so it would be a hassle for my dad to take me there every week. and plus you have to pay like £15 for the induction and £6.30 to ride on a bike/adapted bike so the costs would add up. for the second activity im thinking of doing wheelchair bowling but the problem with that is that i only occasionally use a wheelchair when i have to travel long distances therefore i dont know if id be allowed to go there since i use a walking frame for short distances instead of a wheelchair. so i just emailed them asking if i could join despite that issue. so unless if they say no my two activities are sorted. im going to the park to do the induction on the 6th of may and i think ill enjoy it very much. ill update everyone on this thread to see how it goes.

@toffuna101 that all sounds interesting, worth miss volunteering for that, it all sounds fun, I understand it's hassle for your dad and expensive fully adding up, relatable to me myself, it's thoughtful you're thinking about him. The wheelchair bowling sounds great too. Both sounds like exciting activities, hopefully they say yes because they are both fun and exercise at the same time. I hope you have a good time.

thank you @Redemption i hope they say yes too.

Don’t want the stupid “are you safe questions” so to save the pain of people asking yup I am safe!

But I’m fucking done with everything, I cba anymore with the battle sometimes I wish social media didn’t fucking exist and that phones didn’t exist. If my mum didn’t pay for my phone I’d smash it and go back to the old fashion way of communication so for now I guess I’ll just have to mute everything 👍🏻

Hi Penny!

Here to echo what Shannon has said, she's given some amazing resources and advice there! You deserve to be heard, and the community here at The Mix are here for you too, your feelings are so important and we don't expect you to be okay, there's no time limit on how long it can take to start healing. But you do deserve to be on this Earth and get help, that's for certain

I'm sorry that you feel alone and life is hard for you currently. You're not alone in your situation, and there is always light at the end of the tunnel.