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Re: Recruitment agencies
toffuna101 wrote: »nope since im only 16. i mean i tried to find part-time jobs in the past when i was still in sixth form especially retail jobs but i never got any luck so i just gave up. not that i would find a part-time job now because my physical condition isnt great. but i do hope that youre able to find a job soon whether that be with or without a recruitment agency.
Thanks again toffuna
Re: Rant about my intrusive thoughts
shannon_164 wrote: »hey @Amy22 🙂
i know it probably wasn’t easy to write, but i am really proud of you for opening up. venting doesn’t always solve everything, but it does help lighten the weight a little and you absolutely deserve space to talk about what you’re going through!
what you’re describing makes a lot of sense, especially when you’re not in a routine or don’t have much to keep your mind occupied. intrusive thoughts and self destructive habits can get louder when we’re stuck in that in between space, and just so you know, you’re not at all silly, and these aren’t ‘silly habits’, they are signs your brain is trying to cope with something, even if it’s not in the healthiest way.
the fact that you don’t want to do those things, but still struggle with them, shows that you’re aware and trying, and that’s a powerful step. try not to be so hard on yourself, even when it feels frustrating. you are dealing with something that takes time, support, and a lot of self compassion.
we’re all so proud of you
Aw thank you so much @shannon_164 I really appreciate your support. I find not having that routine I guess has been making me more impulsive lately because I got so much time to think and possibly overthink things you know that I just do them I guess. I don't know how to really explain to be fair really.
Amy22
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Re: I'm so upset and I'm thinking of renouncing my faith at this point
Thank you @sinead276 I know I don't have to explain myself to others and I usually don't. I guess it might have gotten to me more because of it being Easter and the religious value I hold to that day so it was harder to not take it to heart than it usually would be and like any other holidays I was thinking of everyone with wings more than normal including my nana who I got into Christianity because of in the first place so it hit harder than usual
Lucy_21
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Re: Casual Magic!
@Amy22 , ahh that's so cool that you also watched / weatch UnJaded Jade. I have found her so inspiring!
And oooo I love your description so much of your casual magic there, esspecially the sensation of the yarn pulling through the perfect stitch. That sounds so satisfying! What are you creating at the moment?
And oooo I love your description so much of your casual magic there, esspecially the sensation of the yarn pulling through the perfect stitch. That sounds so satisfying! What are you creating at the moment?
Sian321
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Re: General chit chat
@toffuna101 that’s brilliant, well done you! I was always shocking at essays, i got so bored writing them. The only essays i enjoyed writing were politics essays in college.
I’m a horrible and awful person
Context: if you know the past situations with male k you’ll know there has been a big lead up and the past few days I’ve felt so crap with it all and worn down by the lack of his efforts so I snapped at him last night and I said this…
TW// mentions of medication
TW// mentions of medication
This is the last time I’ll send you a message like this because I’m to tired of trying to save this friendship. Time and time again I’ve tried to stay and not leave because all you do is say people leave and whilst yes people leave but some people leave for good reasons to protect themselves or they get pushed away and your doing a brilliant job at making me not want to stay in this friendship.
You asked me what you have done wrong and whilst I cannot understand why you can’t see what you’ve done wrong over and over I’m a big enough person to communicate so let me tell you.
Your hurting me over and over and you make it impossible for anyone to have a voice and feelings, I’m to busy protecting you because you get upset when others have feelings and you go and tell others about it and send them screenshots but I’m done caring.
I set boundaries and you ignore them ALL the time acting like I’m not human. You set the same boundaries but that’s okay but you expect me to follow them and get upset when I don’t.
You say I don’t listen but you HAVE never listened to me, you walk all over me and ignore anything I do and say. If I say I’m struggling that means nothing to you because everything seems to always be about you. You vent to me everyday and every second of the day which is draining.
You’re constantly bossing me around and you act like I’m a dog, I don’t have to follow your orders. I’ve already walked away from this friendship once and whilst I’m trying to stay your making it very hard to.
I am human, I have feelings, I have mental health problems, I’m not your dummy to walk all over and I’m not your therapist. Treat me like a human, respect me like I’ve always respected you because you are really hurting me. One day I will walk away and I won’t come back.
You say you have autism and you might very well have it and if so that is okay but you forget that I am not stupid! You act dumb and idk why you do that and you don’t show your true self.
I am not your mum so stop pinning those responsibilities on me because that isn’t fair, start being responsible for your own life and act your age. You don’t need my permission for everything and if that carries on I will ignore you because that’s not a nice thing you have been placing on me. The only time I actually want to know what your doing is when your taking painkillers because your so reckless with them but you don’t need to ask me to go toilet, to leave life 360 with kiara, you don’t need permission for everything!!
I’m trying my fucking hardest with this friendship but it’s draining me. Yea I act okay because you are always struggling so I’m expected to be okay because you constantly vent to me. I’ve set this boundary multiple times and I’ve offered to find you help irl but you don’t listen and you don’t put the effort in, anything I suggest you always have a reason on why you can’t do it
The more you let your mental health bring you down because you don’t want to reach out to professionals it will lead to you dragging everyone else down with you!
Start thinking about others because you will loose everyone and then you’ll be alone. Professional are there for a reason and idk how many times I have to tell you but i am NOT and professional. Get that in your head and start making good choices.
This is your last chance before I walk away just like kiara has.
You asked me what you have done wrong and whilst I cannot understand why you can’t see what you’ve done wrong over and over I’m a big enough person to communicate so let me tell you.
Your hurting me over and over and you make it impossible for anyone to have a voice and feelings, I’m to busy protecting you because you get upset when others have feelings and you go and tell others about it and send them screenshots but I’m done caring.
I set boundaries and you ignore them ALL the time acting like I’m not human. You set the same boundaries but that’s okay but you expect me to follow them and get upset when I don’t.
You say I don’t listen but you HAVE never listened to me, you walk all over me and ignore anything I do and say. If I say I’m struggling that means nothing to you because everything seems to always be about you. You vent to me everyday and every second of the day which is draining.
You’re constantly bossing me around and you act like I’m a dog, I don’t have to follow your orders. I’ve already walked away from this friendship once and whilst I’m trying to stay your making it very hard to.
I am human, I have feelings, I have mental health problems, I’m not your dummy to walk all over and I’m not your therapist. Treat me like a human, respect me like I’ve always respected you because you are really hurting me. One day I will walk away and I won’t come back.
You say you have autism and you might very well have it and if so that is okay but you forget that I am not stupid! You act dumb and idk why you do that and you don’t show your true self.
I am not your mum so stop pinning those responsibilities on me because that isn’t fair, start being responsible for your own life and act your age. You don’t need my permission for everything and if that carries on I will ignore you because that’s not a nice thing you have been placing on me. The only time I actually want to know what your doing is when your taking painkillers because your so reckless with them but you don’t need to ask me to go toilet, to leave life 360 with kiara, you don’t need permission for everything!!
I’m trying my fucking hardest with this friendship but it’s draining me. Yea I act okay because you are always struggling so I’m expected to be okay because you constantly vent to me. I’ve set this boundary multiple times and I’ve offered to find you help irl but you don’t listen and you don’t put the effort in, anything I suggest you always have a reason on why you can’t do it
The more you let your mental health bring you down because you don’t want to reach out to professionals it will lead to you dragging everyone else down with you!
Start thinking about others because you will loose everyone and then you’ll be alone. Professional are there for a reason and idk how many times I have to tell you but i am NOT and professional. Get that in your head and start making good choices.
This is your last chance before I walk away just like kiara has.
River
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Re: General chit chat
@Leyla that is amazing! I love dogs.
My favourite part? Sunday night my partner and I was sat on the big reclining chairs in the garden with cold drinks and just listening to our favourite songs. It was so small but so nice. We laughed about many memories. We were sat out till 7.30, it was freeeeezing by the end but we didn't wanna move lol.
I made eggs on toast for lunch and then tidied up the kitchen, so if I do nothing else today I can say I've done that?
My favourite part? Sunday night my partner and I was sat on the big reclining chairs in the garden with cold drinks and just listening to our favourite songs. It was so small but so nice. We laughed about many memories. We were sat out till 7.30, it was freeeeezing by the end but we didn't wanna move lol.
I made eggs on toast for lunch and then tidied up the kitchen, so if I do nothing else today I can say I've done that?
Re: General chit chat
Good morning
All back to reality today, everyone’s back at work.. so I should be too. I have to hoover and get this place back into some form of order. But feeling that distinct lack of motivation and I think the gravity of the last few days has hit and i wanna lie down and watch telly
but I know what helps me and it’s not lying down watching telly.
How are we all?
All back to reality today, everyone’s back at work.. so I should be too. I have to hoover and get this place back into some form of order. But feeling that distinct lack of motivation and I think the gravity of the last few days has hit and i wanna lie down and watch telly
but I know what helps me and it’s not lying down watching telly.How are we all?