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Re: Books
I love this thread so much because I get to talk about my favourite thing, books!.
So mostly I have been using my local library to get books out my desk is full of books and my bookshelf is. I'm a book ban lol 😂. I got some books on forensic science which is a secret passion/hobby of mine, I find the process of it fascinating. I also got a book written by Juno Dawson called Wonderland and another by the creator of five nights of freddys himself it's the first book in the series called Silver Eyes. I can't remember the name of the author, Scott Cawthorn rings a bell......
Just need to actually read them and get motivated because my focus is eeslly bad atm 😂 I can't sit through a chapter of a book before doing something else.
So mostly I have been using my local library to get books out my desk is full of books and my bookshelf is. I'm a book ban lol 😂. I got some books on forensic science which is a secret passion/hobby of mine, I find the process of it fascinating. I also got a book written by Juno Dawson called Wonderland and another by the creator of five nights of freddys himself it's the first book in the series called Silver Eyes. I can't remember the name of the author, Scott Cawthorn rings a bell......
Just need to actually read them and get motivated because my focus is eeslly bad atm 😂 I can't sit through a chapter of a book before doing something else.
Amy22
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Re: Being in a workplace where you can’t tell if everyone hates you or not is wack
@Sian321 to be fair, I’m glad I’m not the only one who felt that way. And it’s good to know that I have someone I can trust
Re: Introducing Good News Friday!
Morning all. Hope you are having a lovely end to the week. This week's good news story the impressive work of this young person with the help of AI. Amazing stuff!
https://www.onlygoodnewsdaily.com/post/student-creates-ethical-ai-to-restore-damaged-artworks
https://www.onlygoodnewsdaily.com/post/student-creates-ethical-ai-to-restore-damaged-artworks
Owen
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Re: Feeling alone
@Redemption , thank you for your post here.
It sounds really positive that you're listening to yourself here, and to those feelings that come up when you find yourself craving connection - to care and be cared for - perhaps in a more long-term or intimate way. That makes sense, and I wonder how it feels to acknowledge that? To be noticing yourself thinking, hey, I might be ready for that! I might want a connection and a source of care that feels a bit more central in my life, and could be in my future!
You mentioned that using dating apps feels a bit conflicting for you because of the payment barriers sometimes, and you also mentioned some worries about your height possibly. You're doing really well to talk about this, and we appreciate your trust in sharing. It's really positive to hear you also naming things about yourself that you feel confidence around, like your loyalty or your humour too. What kind of attributes would you say you'd like for a potential future partner to have to? What are some personality traits that you often feel pulled to?
I hear you, and that feeling of being behind sounds like quite a lot of pressure too. As though there is something 'wrong' or not quite right about exactly where you are. I hear you, and at the same time, there truly are so, so many different and diverse ways to live a life - all of which are valid. Relationships, love, connection, intimacy - these paths will look different for every person, with some people for instance having a 'chapter' of their life where friendship really is the main focus, or other 'chapters' where a 1:1 romantic connection is their main source of support. When you hear yourself say that you have never hugged a girl, not had sex, not been in a relationship, what kind of feelings does that bring up for you? - I'm wondering if there's sadness there, a feeling of being left out, or maybe excitement, curiosity?
We're listening, and you're doing so well to talk about this!
It sounds really positive that you're listening to yourself here, and to those feelings that come up when you find yourself craving connection - to care and be cared for - perhaps in a more long-term or intimate way. That makes sense, and I wonder how it feels to acknowledge that? To be noticing yourself thinking, hey, I might be ready for that! I might want a connection and a source of care that feels a bit more central in my life, and could be in my future!
You mentioned that using dating apps feels a bit conflicting for you because of the payment barriers sometimes, and you also mentioned some worries about your height possibly. You're doing really well to talk about this, and we appreciate your trust in sharing. It's really positive to hear you also naming things about yourself that you feel confidence around, like your loyalty or your humour too. What kind of attributes would you say you'd like for a potential future partner to have to? What are some personality traits that you often feel pulled to?
It’s just hard sometimes, trying to get a job, find a relationship and move forward in life. Even though I’m focusing on getting into work, the thought of being in a relationship is on my mind constantly. I’m 23, nearly 24, and I’ve never had a relationship, never hugged a girl and I’m still a virgin, which makes me feel even more behind.
I hear you, and that feeling of being behind sounds like quite a lot of pressure too. As though there is something 'wrong' or not quite right about exactly where you are. I hear you, and at the same time, there truly are so, so many different and diverse ways to live a life - all of which are valid. Relationships, love, connection, intimacy - these paths will look different for every person, with some people for instance having a 'chapter' of their life where friendship really is the main focus, or other 'chapters' where a 1:1 romantic connection is their main source of support. When you hear yourself say that you have never hugged a girl, not had sex, not been in a relationship, what kind of feelings does that bring up for you? - I'm wondering if there's sadness there, a feeling of being left out, or maybe excitement, curiosity?
We're listening, and you're doing so well to talk about this!
Sian321
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Re: Alcohol Awareness Week
To round up some of what we've seen from your comments!
There's a lot of insight from you all here, with @DonnerKebab @independent_ and @Amy22 mentioning less money and disposable income for everyone, so it not being a choice as such and an indicator of bigger problems in the world
@ellie2000 @AnonymousToe @Amy22 Have pointed out some reasons why people may make the choice not to drink such as social anxiety, it not being good for your health when used to excess, and it also interfering with medication for a lot of people (which I actually hadnt considered so thank you for pointing that one out!)
There were also mentions of bad experiences with alcohol whether that is yourself or family members, and I think it's true that even one bad experience can be a huge put off, which is so valid!
As a follow-up question, I wonder if you all had any insights on how you feel about the culture surrounding drinking at the moment? As in, do you feel comfy speaking about not wanting a drink right now, or having a drink if the group you're with might not to?
I know in the past it could be seen as something you 'had' to do in a social situation - I wonder where it sits now in your experiences?
There's a lot of insight from you all here, with @DonnerKebab @independent_ and @Amy22 mentioning less money and disposable income for everyone, so it not being a choice as such and an indicator of bigger problems in the world
@ellie2000 @AnonymousToe @Amy22 Have pointed out some reasons why people may make the choice not to drink such as social anxiety, it not being good for your health when used to excess, and it also interfering with medication for a lot of people (which I actually hadnt considered so thank you for pointing that one out!)
There were also mentions of bad experiences with alcohol whether that is yourself or family members, and I think it's true that even one bad experience can be a huge put off, which is so valid!
As a follow-up question, I wonder if you all had any insights on how you feel about the culture surrounding drinking at the moment? As in, do you feel comfy speaking about not wanting a drink right now, or having a drink if the group you're with might not to?
I know in the past it could be seen as something you 'had' to do in a social situation - I wonder where it sits now in your experiences?
Leyla
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Re: Alcohol Awareness Week
@Leyla wen u drink ur brain goes into defence mode, it says 'i dont like this' n it switches off n teleport safely tucked up in bed. i dont drink anymore coz life is kindof gd 
Re: I failed in life
@Blue_lily @Azziman most of my art and writing is me taking inspiration from my negative experiences and turning them into digital art or stories. It’s almost therapeutic, even if the themes aren’t happy.
Besides therapeutic art, I also got back into creating small paintings to hang in my room.
Besides therapeutic art, I also got back into creating small paintings to hang in my room.
Re: sleep study
@toffuna101 it sounds so positive that getting a better understanding of what's happening when you're sleeping helped to raise your self-esteem and boost your confidence! Sounds like you're feeling quite a lot of admiration right now for what your body can do!
How did you feel after listening back to last night's recordings?
How did you feel after listening back to last night's recordings?
Sian321
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