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Hey @TheNightmare , thanks so much for this post firstly, and how are you doing this afternoon? Thank you for letting us 'in' in this way, and for sharing what's been on your mind

You described how you have faced a lot of setbacks over the years, which leave you worried and self-doubting. There's a little voice in your mind sometimes that says, 'what if I fail?' and sometimes the feeling of being worried has been with you for so long it feels like it's become a part of who you are. In the back of your mind, you've had doubts about being too slow or not good enough, and it's been hard to feel like 'yourself' when you're dealing with the constant up and downs of finding and pursuing opportunities and then navigating setbacks. You're working hard at re-building your confidence, and you want to rediscover a sense of momentum in life. I hear you, and it sounds like so much to be holding right now - all those doubts and questions and worries and hopes too.

May I ask, if that 'worry' you feel were a person in its own right, what do you imagine it would say to you, and what would it's greatest fear be do you think?

I also feel curious about that voice that whispers, 'What if I fail?' That sounds like a frightening thought, @TheNightmare , and I wonder what 'faliure' would mean? What would happen if you failed? What would that look like? Who would you be failing? We're here to listen without judgement and to be with you in this.

I don’t know exactly what I want, but I need to get moving.

I hear you, and it sounds like it can feel really, seriously heavy some days to feel without direction. To be feeling stuck and struggling to find momentum. It's very, very draining And you want to get moving. I wonder, would you be open to telling us more about not knowing exactly what you want? What's that been like for you? You mentioned cars, and houses, and relationships, and you said that there's no reason why you can't have these in your future. That sounds heartening, @TheNightmare - like a voice that gently talks back to the part of you that fears you'll fail and says, 'but what if I don't? Why can't I also have these things that make me happy?' What do you feel you might need most to help you get clearer on what you want?

We're here with you, @TheNightmare and we're listening. Thank you for continuing to share with us, and I'm so glad to hear this space has felt supportive for you

Im so so sorry you're feeling like this, here's some support services if you need