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Re: Some news for you! Friday Thread + Volunteer Recruitment
Hey hey @TheNightmare just hopping in here. The Saturday and Sunday threads will be ran by staff for the time being. Today's thread will be ran by me and @Sian321 3-4pmTheNightmare wrote: »@ella Can I please if you can share if this will be with the usual mods who run the Friday chat threads or will it be maybe with the newly recruited mods? I will come regardless, will be great either way like if it the usual mods we'll be a bit a bit more familiar with them, the mod will be more familiar with us but if it's new mods or a different mod to usual will be great getting to know them. Also will the usual support groups still happen on Sunday?
In terms of Sunday Group Chats, we are in the process of looking at our chat schedule and mod capacity. Right now I can confirm that a chat will be running this evening. I'll pop a post on the boards later this afternoon to let you know which once we've confirmed it internally but so far it's looking like we can run Support Chat!
Hey @Katie thanks a lot for letting me know, looking forward to seeing you both on there and really appreciate you 2 stepping in ❤️
Re: General chit chat
@TheNightmare I'm okay thanks, just sat indoors missing the sunshine
Re: Struggling to cope with the aftermath of ending some friendships
I am not looking for any solutions. I just want to feel heard.
Even though I have removed my former friends contacts, and tried to keep going ending, my mind has been stuck replaying an interaction with a former friend. I was remembering when she focussed on the intention behind her comment instead of how it impacted me. It has been making me feel silenced, and still very hurt especially when she used to be in a romantic relationship with a mutual friend. My internal voice has been mimicking her, trying to explain away other people’s actions. I know the critical voice is not accurate because she is not present with me and there are no situations currently where she could focus on intent. I also know that it was valid for the comment to have made me feel invalidated, regardless of the intention. However, it has reinforced the impact of her invalidation. It is understandable that it will have a lasting impact, causing me to anticipate getting similar experiences in the future.
I have also still been hurt that she did not take any accountability for dismissing how a comment made me feel, and my other former friend refused to take responsibility for the impact of excluding me from the group. They spoke to me as though they did nothing wrong, and blamed me for the entire conflict. I am aware that they will also be in pain from ending my friendship with them and that not everyone will come to realise the impact of their actions. I know that what they did was wrong, regardless of whether they have not realised the impact of their actions, even though they could have now. However, it is hard to get over being blamed for the disagreement. It is also reasonable to expect them to see the hurt caused and be upset if they do not.
I keep anticipating future confrontations from them, others getting involved, and how I will react. It is possible that these scenarios could happen but it is impossible to know for certain that they will. I may never see them again. The thoughts are not accurate. However, it has been creating anxiety, triggering another scenario, leading to a negative thought which I challenged and validated.
I recognise that I am doing my best to move forward from the experience. It is understandable that it is difficult to get over the situation. I will move on from it but it will take time. It is commendable that I am continuing to journal my feelings and thoughts and challenging my thoughts and sharing them in this community. It shows how proactive I am in taking care of my mental health.
Even though I have removed my former friends contacts, and tried to keep going ending, my mind has been stuck replaying an interaction with a former friend. I was remembering when she focussed on the intention behind her comment instead of how it impacted me. It has been making me feel silenced, and still very hurt especially when she used to be in a romantic relationship with a mutual friend. My internal voice has been mimicking her, trying to explain away other people’s actions. I know the critical voice is not accurate because she is not present with me and there are no situations currently where she could focus on intent. I also know that it was valid for the comment to have made me feel invalidated, regardless of the intention. However, it has reinforced the impact of her invalidation. It is understandable that it will have a lasting impact, causing me to anticipate getting similar experiences in the future.
I have also still been hurt that she did not take any accountability for dismissing how a comment made me feel, and my other former friend refused to take responsibility for the impact of excluding me from the group. They spoke to me as though they did nothing wrong, and blamed me for the entire conflict. I am aware that they will also be in pain from ending my friendship with them and that not everyone will come to realise the impact of their actions. I know that what they did was wrong, regardless of whether they have not realised the impact of their actions, even though they could have now. However, it is hard to get over being blamed for the disagreement. It is also reasonable to expect them to see the hurt caused and be upset if they do not.
I keep anticipating future confrontations from them, others getting involved, and how I will react. It is possible that these scenarios could happen but it is impossible to know for certain that they will. I may never see them again. The thoughts are not accurate. However, it has been creating anxiety, triggering another scenario, leading to a negative thought which I challenged and validated.
I recognise that I am doing my best to move forward from the experience. It is understandable that it is difficult to get over the situation. I will move on from it but it will take time. It is commendable that I am continuing to journal my feelings and thoughts and challenging my thoughts and sharing them in this community. It shows how proactive I am in taking care of my mental health.
