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I have got a job but theres an issue
I’m starting induction next week for a domestic role. I didn’t want to do it at first, but I decided to start widening my options because things were dragging me down too much. Another Christmas was coming, and it felt like I had failed, but it’s not a job that’s completely unsuitable for me. The hours are every day, but just a couple of hours in the morning, which suits me since I prefer working during the day rather than evenings. I didn’t want to be too picky, and I’ve tried to be flexible. I’ve overthought the stigma around domestic jobs, but it’s a simple job and harder to mess up. I wouldn’t want to do it for life, but it doesn’t have to be forever, and it’s an important job. People should never look down on it.
I tend to focus more on the cons than the pros, even though multiple people have said I should be proud of myself, maybe even some who doubted me. I’ve struggled to feel positive about it and I’m scared of messing something up. I’ve been venting about this for ages, yet I still feel conflicted. It seems like part of me doesn’t want it, but I do. I think I’m slowly becoming more positive that I have a job, though I’m scared of failing. Previously, I’ve had negative experiences one after another, which makes it hard to feel optimistic, but I think getting into the routine will help. The job is only a couple of hours a day, seven days a week, so I’ll need to adjust to getting up earlier, but the short hours are constructive and give me a sense of accomplishment.
Living at home, I don’t have many bills, just my car, a bit of housekeeping, and my phone bill, which I’m trying to reduce. If I’m sensible with money, which I think I can be, I can treat myself occasionally but only buy what I can afford. I hope this marks the start of an uphill journey, and it should make it easier to get other jobs from here. I’ve done well by taking this role despite hesitations, ignoring the stigma, completing the online ID verification, and persevering through doubts, dark thoughts, and setbacks. I just want to do well and focus on the positives.
Also wanted to say a massive massive thank you, to you all for being with me during my journey and you're going with during this too, you all absolutely incredible, I mean it ❤️.
I tend to focus more on the cons than the pros, even though multiple people have said I should be proud of myself, maybe even some who doubted me. I’ve struggled to feel positive about it and I’m scared of messing something up. I’ve been venting about this for ages, yet I still feel conflicted. It seems like part of me doesn’t want it, but I do. I think I’m slowly becoming more positive that I have a job, though I’m scared of failing. Previously, I’ve had negative experiences one after another, which makes it hard to feel optimistic, but I think getting into the routine will help. The job is only a couple of hours a day, seven days a week, so I’ll need to adjust to getting up earlier, but the short hours are constructive and give me a sense of accomplishment.
Living at home, I don’t have many bills, just my car, a bit of housekeeping, and my phone bill, which I’m trying to reduce. If I’m sensible with money, which I think I can be, I can treat myself occasionally but only buy what I can afford. I hope this marks the start of an uphill journey, and it should make it easier to get other jobs from here. I’ve done well by taking this role despite hesitations, ignoring the stigma, completing the online ID verification, and persevering through doubts, dark thoughts, and setbacks. I just want to do well and focus on the positives.
Also wanted to say a massive massive thank you, to you all for being with me during my journey and you're going with during this too, you all absolutely incredible, I mean it ❤️.
Re: Christmas Eve Watch Party!
What Grinch film are we watching? There is the one with Jim Carrey and the awful Illumination one both on ITVX.
Re: Anybody want to vent or chat about anything? w/c 15.12.25
Hey there @Nathan, good to see you
I'm doing good! I've been reading lots in japanese in preparation for the readathon on sunday, and I think I've been improving a lot! Here are the first couple of novels just in case you want to see:
Anyways how are you?
Reflecting on Your Year
Heyo!
We're at the end of the year now, and inspired by a young person who is part of the Comms Committee for the Winter Campaign, we want to know the answer to some prompts. If it helps, imagine you are writing a journal out and using these questions to reflect on your year!
We'd also LOVE to know what your go-to journal prompts are, so please let us know down below!
We're at the end of the year now, and inspired by a young person who is part of the Comms Committee for the Winter Campaign, we want to know the answer to some prompts. If it helps, imagine you are writing a journal out and using these questions to reflect on your year!
- What’s something you’ve learned about yourself this year?
- Describe a small, ordinary moment from today that felt meaningful. Why did it stand out?
- Who in your life has had a positive influence on you this year, and how can you show appreciation for them?
- Imagine your life one year from now. What do you hope will be different and what will stay the same?
- Write about a challenge you’ve overcome. What inner strengths did you discover through that experience?
We'd also LOVE to know what your go-to journal prompts are, so please let us know down below!
Leyla
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Re: Community Secret Santa 2025
Hey team! Okay great sounds like @Amy22 , @eylah , and @Nemuritai you're down to be involved?
Would anyone else like to be included? We'll DM you your assigned person next week!
I don't think I'll be participating - I'd love to normally but I don't have the capacity to support others much right now.
Re: Community Secret Santa 2025
Hey team! Okay great sounds like @Amy22 , @eylah , and @Nemuritai you're down to be involved?
Would anyone else like to be included? We'll DM you your assigned person next week!
Would anyone else like to be included? We'll DM you your assigned person next week!
Sian321
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Re: What is your favourite christmas song?
Love this! Christmas music brings me such a nostalgic, cosy feeling whenever I hear it, I recently heard 'The Christmas Song' playing in the mall near me, it's such a classic.
https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=F1itSKJLWQY
I also love mistletoe by good ol biebs! Reminds me of being a teen again.
I'm not a huge fan of Shakin' Stevens - Merry Christmas, it's a bit too repetitive, I feel dizzy by the end of it.
I agree @independent_ anything Buble is a classic!
https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=F1itSKJLWQYI also love mistletoe by good ol biebs! Reminds me of being a teen again.
I'm not a huge fan of Shakin' Stevens - Merry Christmas, it's a bit too repetitive, I feel dizzy by the end of it.
I agree @independent_ anything Buble is a classic!
Verity
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Re: Anybody want to vent or chat about anything? w/c 15.12.25
Hiya, I just completed my online interview for the bbc journalism apprenticeship I applied for which is part of their bbc extend which is aimed for neurodivergent people to get into tv and film
@Amy22 well done. That's absolutely incredible and you should be very proud of yourself. How do you think you did with it?
Honestly to be fair I winged it but I had a go and that is what counts. If I was able to get the apprenticeship it would mean a lot because it would give me an entry into TV and film again. Also, I'm still doing my internship over at a company near me in their marketing department. So if I didn't get the apprenticeship I still got a chance of being taken on over in the marketing department instead.
@Amy22 you miss all the shots you don't take. I reckon you've done amazing at it. And it sounds like you've got a whole load of plans just in case. Wishing you the best of luck with it Amy.
Aw thank you so much. To be fair I tend to just apply and hope for the best really because at the moment with todays job market, employment ain't that great for young people myself included. I've got plans for what I could also do instead but still unsure really what I ideally want to do after my internship ends. Plus that and my tutor has just left as well because he's relocating to the other scheme that is run in the hospital. So he will be looking after the other interns. We got a new tutor and she is lovely. I met her the other day and she's very nice. Hopefully she doesn't do too many things last minute like my other tutor did because he had a tendency to rush through things with us.
Basically the scheme I am on is aimed at young neurodivergent individuals who want to get into employment but don't know where to start. It's mainly aimed towards autistic adults to help gain the skills needed for full time employment.
@Amy22 yeah, it is a brutal job market right now isn't it. But it's amazing that your jumping at whatever opportunity you get. Hopefully it all works out well for you, and you land it, cause you honestly do deserve chances like these to succeed.
Aww thank you. I just want to do something I enjoy to be fair.
Amy22
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