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Re: Anybody want to vent or chat about anything? w/c 22.09.25
Im overwhelmed again, I was contacted about a job but it was cleaning which I dont want to and now im stressing and overwhelmed because I didnt take it but I don't want to do cleaning its stressing me out. Life's so overwhelming
Re: Loneliness - Reach out at The Mix!
I can’t remember a time when I haven’t been lonely 😂
But yeah, university is a lonely time for me. I spend so much time alone, can’t talk to people, and then at the end of the day I go back to… nobody. At least with school I could come home and chatter away to my family all evening. But I know not everyone has that.
Selective mutism is incredibly lonely.
But it’s not all bad, I’ve come across some lovely people and spaces like here where I can communicate and get that connection I can’t have irl. It doesn’t quite help with loneliness as much as real face to face conversation but it’s something.
Trying to accept that I will always be lonely isnt an easy one though. I just try not to think about it.
But yeah, university is a lonely time for me. I spend so much time alone, can’t talk to people, and then at the end of the day I go back to… nobody. At least with school I could come home and chatter away to my family all evening. But I know not everyone has that.
Selective mutism is incredibly lonely.
But it’s not all bad, I’ve come across some lovely people and spaces like here where I can communicate and get that connection I can’t have irl. It doesn’t quite help with loneliness as much as real face to face conversation but it’s something.
Trying to accept that I will always be lonely isnt an easy one though. I just try not to think about it.
Re: Afraid to eat in front of people
@Azziman thanks for replying. I don’t remember how long ago I noticed this happening. But since I was young, I was always quite skinny. Only until a few years ago, I started to put on weight and this has also made me feel horrible about myself. I’m fine and normal, I just wish I was slimmer. I’ve began to cut out sugar and tell myself no sugar now. Which I find very very difficult because sugar is my comfort food. I also am trying to stop binge/comfort eating which I struggle with.
Perhaps this started a few years ago, when I first started talking to my ex. Only since then is when I noticed it. I always told him I don’t want to on a date with you, and I never once went out on a solo date with him, or ate in front of him, unless it was a snack. At work I told him I’m going somewhere else, once I’ve finished eating you can come.
Now looking back on it…what the hell?
If someone can give me some solutions and let me know why I do this please. I literally don’t take offence to anything, so please do not sugar coat anything. Thank you all.
Perhaps this started a few years ago, when I first started talking to my ex. Only since then is when I noticed it. I always told him I don’t want to on a date with you, and I never once went out on a solo date with him, or ate in front of him, unless it was a snack. At work I told him I’m going somewhere else, once I’ve finished eating you can come.
Now looking back on it…what the hell?
If someone can give me some solutions and let me know why I do this please. I literally don’t take offence to anything, so please do not sugar coat anything. Thank you all.
Re: Loneliness - Reach out at The Mix!
It took me a while to realise that maybe I might be lonely. What helped me recognise it was seeing other people experience loneliness. For example, I watched a podcast on The Mix Six where a guest, around the same age as me, talked about struggling with loneliness. Hearing them realise they were a bit lonely made me understand that it is not bad or unusual, and that it is absolutely okay to feel lonely. It can be quite common. I often feel quite lonely during the day, especially when there are not many services or activities available. While I am looking for work, my days can be boring, which adds to the sense of loneliness. I also feel lonely in terms of my interests, as I do not always have people to share them with. I have not had a relationship yet, so I sometimes daydream about being in one. Sometimes during arguments or disagreements, I feel like I have no one by my side or that not many people see my reasoning or points. Recently, I have had a few issues with some people, and I feel like I am the problem, which makes me feel lonely too.
There are certain things I want to do but might not be able to because I do not have the right person or people to do them with. For example, going on a UK holiday in an RV or a cruise abroad with a romantic partner. What helps me is knowing that it does not have to be forever. I can get a relationship even if I do not know when, I can make more friends, and there are ways to work on my loneliness. This community has and is helping me a lot with my loneliness, and I am trying to use other services as well for long-term support. It is tough dealing with these feelings on my own, but attending sessions here and similar activities helps, and I definitely want to keep addressing my loneliness. Thanks for posting this @Leyla I kinda needed it.
There are certain things I want to do but might not be able to because I do not have the right person or people to do them with. For example, going on a UK holiday in an RV or a cruise abroad with a romantic partner. What helps me is knowing that it does not have to be forever. I can get a relationship even if I do not know when, I can make more friends, and there are ways to work on my loneliness. This community has and is helping me a lot with my loneliness, and I am trying to use other services as well for long-term support. It is tough dealing with these feelings on my own, but attending sessions here and similar activities helps, and I definitely want to keep addressing my loneliness. Thanks for posting this @Leyla I kinda needed it.
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@Leyla the only drink that's better out of a bottle is coke, I fucking love cafes that sell coke in those glass bottles!! It is superior and will always be!! My mum prefers bottled beer tho, she drinks the light version of corona which you can only get in bottles, it serves her well as she likes a beer but doesn't like strong drinks
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independent_ wrote: »@Leyla the only drink that's better out of a bottle is coke, I fucking love cafes that sell coke in those glass bottles!! It is superior and will always be!! My mum prefers bottled beer tho, she drinks the light version of corona which you can only get in bottles, it serves her well as she likes a beer but doesn't like strong drinks
The glass bottles of coke which I always call fancy coca cola is always the best. I do love the can version too especially on a warm day. I was in tesxo getting my meal deal and I think I saw a pack of glass coke bottles in the fridge, so tempted but I told myself no 🤣 cause I was supposed to be back in work 😂. Might be a nice gift for the office later on during Xmas season. I don't normally drink alcohol or lager as much unless it's cider which I do enjoy or like cocktails or bucksfizz which I adore.
Amy22
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I hate my job
Hey, hope everyone is doing good. So long story, short, I started a job in June and have hated it the whole time. Having chronic mental health issues doesn't help, and I thought it wasn't going too badly as I was doing sort of okay. Now it's just got even worse. I've had a whole situation with my managers, and now I'm being labelled as disrespectful and having an attitude problem. Again, long story short, I couldn't work one day because I wasn't going to be in my hometown, I physically was not there. I told them this, giving them a month's notice to find a solution. Bare in mind we are short staffed, but according to managers we have enough staff (we don't). It's such a terrible company to work for, they are all patronising and hypocritical, and you can't challenge them because they see it as disrespect and attitude. Basically, the whole situation ended up being my fault, and I now have a warning on my record (I don't care about this). My manager is going on and on about not dragging out this situation and just dropping it and moving forward, bare in mind this happened a week ago, but she also wants to have a meeting next week to discuss my issues with the company, as I said I didn't feel respected by them. Even though I said this out of anger and said to drop it, she won't. I am going to look for another job, but truthfully job-hopping and moving on to new jobs gives me so much anxiety that I feel like I need a few months out of work everytime I leave a job to fully reset myself, but people just don't understand this. And now actually being an adult (I'm 19 LOL), I'm just constantly told to get over it and grow up kinda thing. I know it probably sounds stupid, but work is draining me. If I have a day off and then work the next day, I will count down the hours knowing I have to go into work. At this point I will have to be the main source of income for my household. We've been on benefits my entire life (it's me, my mum and twin brother). My mum has been out of work for years, but knows she will need to try and go back to work soon. My brother is autistic (as am I), he is still currently in a form of education, they are also trying to help him with work placements to eventually get him into paid work. But I just don't know what to do. I literally can't see myself working full-time without having a breakdown a few weeks in, and I have no passion or love for anything anymore. I don't even know what I want for a career. Like I can't understand how people go their whole lives working and enjoying it. I have literally resorted to trying to earn money by playing games through an app, but to earn the full amount you have to reach ridiculous levels on these games and honestly it seems like it's going to end in disappointment. Sorry for the SUPER long message, but I literally don't know what to do anymore.
I hope someone takes the time to read this because I do REALLY appreciate any replies xxx
I hope someone takes the time to read this because I do REALLY appreciate any replies xxx
TBQ_9
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(Suicidal thoughts but no plan) sometimes, I love making myself feel worse
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