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Re: disney film
Ahh that's a hard question @toffuna101 ! I think I'll go with Frozen or Moana
i loved frozen when i was younger.
Re: Still Stuck After So Long
DonnerKebab wrote: »Mate, if i could offer you some advice, maybe not the best advice, but this would be it. You can only try you're hardest. There's nothing more you can do than that. And as hard as it seems, you have to drill it into yourself that so much of you're situation is not you're fault at all. There are people graduating university with medical degree's who are unemployed in this market despite being trained doctors. People with nursing degree's unable to get work as nurses. I finished a computer science degree, and I'm in a lot of student debt, unable to get a job of any kind right now. It's insane the state of the job market in the UK. There is only so much you can do when the situation is what it is, and is out of you're hands. I mean, i was even thinking of trying to save and go on a working holiday to Australia to escape this job market for a year, but even that seems distant to me now. The point is, the state of the Job market isn't you're fault, you have to drill that fact in. And this won't make the feeling of being behind go away, but you might be able to ease it a bit if that makes sense. I'm in the same boat as you are. Heck, my older brother (not my severely autistic younger one), he mocks me every day now for not having a job 8 months out of uni rather ruthlessly. It's not easy, but, please understand, It isn't you're fault. 20 years ago, you'd have smooth sailing by now into a career. Heck a little over 25% of people aged 18-25 are in the same boat we are now, and it's rapidly rising. The entry level job market is a barren wasteland. So please don't feel alone, or like you've failed, cause you haven't. The system has failed people like us. And eventually, they're gonna have to take action to sort this with the NEET levels rising as high as they are, if for nothing else, then for future tax income when boomers retire in coming years. So, perhaps not the best advice, but it's all i can say right now mate. You're a warrior for holding on, and there's always hope things will get better in future.
Woah… that all means a lot. Honestly, I wasn’t expecting such a long and thoughtful reply, and I really appreciate you taking the time to write all of that. It’s comforting to know I’m not alone in this, and hearing that even people with degrees like medicine or nursing are struggling puts things into perspective. What you said about it not being our fault really hit me—because I’ve been blaming myself so much lately, and it’s exhausting.
You saying “you’re a warrior for holding on” genuinely got me emotional. It means more than you know. The fact that you’re going through it too and still found the strength to lift someone else up… that says a lot about you. I know it’s not easy for you either, and I’m sorry your brother is giving you such a hard time. I can’t imagine how tough it must be to deal with that on top of everything else. You deserve so much better than that, and I hope things start to turn around for you soon.
I’ll try to remind myself more often that this broken system isn’t a reflection of my worth or effort. Thank you again for sharing all that. It helped more than I can properly put into words. You’re doing great, and I’m really grateful to have someone like you to talk to.
Re: Home life as a carer/ OCD
@Donner Kebab
Yeah. I am planning what I would like to do after this is over. It's something positive to look forward to and it distracts me from whats going on now. Since I'm jobless at the moment it will be a fresh start. I can find a new job that I can manage and I'm also trying to think what is important to me, how I want to live my life. I don't have much time to make healthy food for myself or exercise etc at the moment so I am trying to plan healthy meals that I will enjoy. I have bought myself some exercise equipment as well so when this all quietens down I'm going to take some time to focus on myself and getting myself well again. I'm also looking at the possibility of somewhere new to live. I've been struggling for years so I want a fresh, new start. I can start from scratch and create a routine that works for me now and will make me happy. I am also in the process of getting therapy. So I'm on the right track.
I hope you get to were you want to be soon and that the therapy you are getting helps.
Yeah. I am planning what I would like to do after this is over. It's something positive to look forward to and it distracts me from whats going on now. Since I'm jobless at the moment it will be a fresh start. I can find a new job that I can manage and I'm also trying to think what is important to me, how I want to live my life. I don't have much time to make healthy food for myself or exercise etc at the moment so I am trying to plan healthy meals that I will enjoy. I have bought myself some exercise equipment as well so when this all quietens down I'm going to take some time to focus on myself and getting myself well again. I'm also looking at the possibility of somewhere new to live. I've been struggling for years so I want a fresh, new start. I can start from scratch and create a routine that works for me now and will make me happy. I am also in the process of getting therapy. So I'm on the right track.
I hope you get to were you want to be soon and that the therapy you are getting helps.
Re: i feel like i dont deserve it (TW - suicide)
thank you @shannon_164 this was so reassuring to read. im still a teenager, and now that im healing ill try to make the most out of it. 
Re: What's on TV?! Thread
@shannon_164 , oh wow Derry Girls is so good! Definitely one to watch over and over again!
Is anyone else a bit fan of repeat-watching things? I know I am!
Is anyone else a bit fan of repeat-watching things? I know I am!
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it's been a month and they won't leave me alone
It’s been a month since the hallucinations started. They’re still prevalent, if not getting worse.
I’m hearing what I perceive to be voices in my head. They’re not my voice. They range from child to adult, male to female, and some indescribable voices that sound human but I don’t believe to be. I briefly saw a man on the sofa, and then I heard his voice in my head saying, 'help me.' I did nothing, and part of me feels guilty. The most recent voice I heard was a child’s, but i don’t remember what she said. I think she was saying something about me.
I can feel them around me. When they don;t touch me, it feels like a weight, similar to the sensation when you know someone is staring at you. When they do touch me, it’s usually on my back, shoulders, or head. One of them was hurting my back and I asked for it to stop. It stopped, but continued to touch my back afterwards, though it wasn’t painful.
More recently, I had an experience that terrified me. I woke up during the night, and an image of a face wouldn’t leave my mind, no matter what I did. I felt him standing beside my bed. He was watching me—just staring, doing nothing. It was a 10, what I categorise as intense. It felt similar to sleep paralysis (which I’ve experienced before), but I was able to move. I tried a coping strategy my therapist had taught me, but it didn;t help. His face wouldn’t leave my mind. He just stared at me as if i were a worm. It was disturbing and emotionally dysregulating.
I’m scared of sleeping because I don’t want to see him again. I want to wake up from this nightmare. I don’t want to be special. I don’t want to see him again.
Fortunately i guess, I haven’t relapsed. I’m around nine months clean, which is the longest I’ve ever gone. Part of me knows that, if I relapse, i’ll feel guilty about throwing all that time away so easily. But another part of me doesn’t care. My vision is odd, and the colours look strange. I should stop now before they start finding me
I’m hearing what I perceive to be voices in my head. They’re not my voice. They range from child to adult, male to female, and some indescribable voices that sound human but I don’t believe to be. I briefly saw a man on the sofa, and then I heard his voice in my head saying, 'help me.' I did nothing, and part of me feels guilty. The most recent voice I heard was a child’s, but i don’t remember what she said. I think she was saying something about me.
I can feel them around me. When they don;t touch me, it feels like a weight, similar to the sensation when you know someone is staring at you. When they do touch me, it’s usually on my back, shoulders, or head. One of them was hurting my back and I asked for it to stop. It stopped, but continued to touch my back afterwards, though it wasn’t painful.
More recently, I had an experience that terrified me. I woke up during the night, and an image of a face wouldn’t leave my mind, no matter what I did. I felt him standing beside my bed. He was watching me—just staring, doing nothing. It was a 10, what I categorise as intense. It felt similar to sleep paralysis (which I’ve experienced before), but I was able to move. I tried a coping strategy my therapist had taught me, but it didn;t help. His face wouldn’t leave my mind. He just stared at me as if i were a worm. It was disturbing and emotionally dysregulating.
I’m scared of sleeping because I don’t want to see him again. I want to wake up from this nightmare. I don’t want to be special. I don’t want to see him again.
Fortunately i guess, I haven’t relapsed. I’m around nine months clean, which is the longest I’ve ever gone. Part of me knows that, if I relapse, i’ll feel guilty about throwing all that time away so easily. But another part of me doesn’t care. My vision is odd, and the colours look strange. I should stop now before they start finding me
