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Re: being aggressive
Obviously I’m looking at this from a female POV, but I was raised around shouting and aggression (not violence) from one of my siblings .. I have absolutely no clue where she got it from as my parents were never like that. I don’t think it will automatically make you the same. I was never ever an aggressive angry person before i went through trauma. That was worse than listening to shouting for 10 years for me.
Re: The role of support group moderators
One of the reasons i struggle in my other job is because the support given is meant to be a bit robotic. This defo isn't in the spirit of chat imo as it's never ever been like that in the many, many years i have been there. I think bringing this in over time would have meant mods and users can feel more comfy with it.
Re: The role of support group moderators
This has been a very sudden change and while it sounds like it might work really well in the long term, last night was strange and made me very anxious. The mods clearly wanted to say more but weren’t allowed. It’s a shame as I think both kinds of support are important
And it’s just not the same and wasn’t a gradual change like the last time this was trialled a few years ago and didn’t work.
And it’s just not the same and wasn’t a gradual change like the last time this was trialled a few years ago and didn’t work.
degree apprenticeship
alternatively to open university, ive been thinking about doing a degree apprenticeship since you get paid to work and study at the same time. ive been thinking about doing a solicitor apprenticeship in particular i know those are competitive like most degree apprenticeships.
Re: sixth form
thank you. its almost 6am and i think im ready to go back to school. im not meant to be on my pc though so i have to be sneaky.
Re: Im just tired.
Thanks again @Gemma 
I guess idk though i feel like i just dont matter as much as everything else
Ill be doing a T level in early years education and childcare. So basically to get the qualification for working with 3 or 4 months - 5 years and then i can use that to possibly get into uni for primary teaching afterwards.
I guess but i dont know im just worried itll affect my performance with kids and just like most ither things ill lose motivation again or something like i have for a lot of other things.
I start tomorrow lol im petrified
I guess idk though i feel like i just dont matter as much as everything else
Ill be doing a T level in early years education and childcare. So basically to get the qualification for working with 3 or 4 months - 5 years and then i can use that to possibly get into uni for primary teaching afterwards.
I guess but i dont know im just worried itll affect my performance with kids and just like most ither things ill lose motivation again or something like i have for a lot of other things.
I start tomorrow lol im petrified
Chloe234
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Re: Topic-specific support group this Thursday: University!
alright thanks for elaborating with that. @Gemma
being aggressive
If you are brought up around people who are angry quickly and resort to violence, do you think you are likely to grow up to be that way as well?
Men in my life are aggressive and very angry all of the time. They love fighting and being strong so much, they are always boxing the air or flexing their (sometimes none existent) muscles. It makes me cringe but I saw my 1 year old cousin do it yesterday.
When my dad was alive I remember feeling so safe with him I could say anything. He used to get aggressive and hot headed but I would remind him to calm down and he would apologise. I cant do that with other people because they don't listen the way my dad did.
I think my dad was a good person who wanted to be good and calm but didn't know how because of the people he was brought up around.
How can I make sure I'm not the same ?
I am feeling very down right now. I remember last time I felt real down I snapped at someone. But I feel like I want to cry idk why and now its making me feel angry with myself. but i don't think I am angry. just sad I think
i want to be a good and kind person. Mam said I'm very like my dad and my uncle said my dad was more of a man. I would like to be like my dad but more able to control how I feel but still able to be a man.
Men in my life are aggressive and very angry all of the time. They love fighting and being strong so much, they are always boxing the air or flexing their (sometimes none existent) muscles. It makes me cringe but I saw my 1 year old cousin do it yesterday.
When my dad was alive I remember feeling so safe with him I could say anything. He used to get aggressive and hot headed but I would remind him to calm down and he would apologise. I cant do that with other people because they don't listen the way my dad did.
I think my dad was a good person who wanted to be good and calm but didn't know how because of the people he was brought up around.
How can I make sure I'm not the same ?
I am feeling very down right now. I remember last time I felt real down I snapped at someone. But I feel like I want to cry idk why and now its making me feel angry with myself. but i don't think I am angry. just sad I think
i want to be a good and kind person. Mam said I'm very like my dad and my uncle said my dad was more of a man. I would like to be like my dad but more able to control how I feel but still able to be a man.
Re: The role of support group moderators
I dont know if it exists already but maybe there could be like a guide / advice / tips on supporting other people. I don’t think I’m very good at it at all and I’d like to know how to make more of a difference if I can.
Re: im at breaking point.
AnonymousToe wrote: »Oh @eylah that sounds terrifying. I don’t know what to say. Maybe you should ask your doctor about it so they can let you know what they think at this point?
You said ‘one of the requested tests’ so I’m assuming they’re testing for multiple things. Maybe ovarian cancer is the least likely possibility and they just threw it in as a bonus because why not test for it if they’re testing for other things too. I’m not sure. I hope they don’t take a long time to give you the results, and I really hope it’s nothing serious. We’re here for you if you want to talk about it
thankyou sm
full blood count with two cancer blood tests requested. i wish i never looked lol. thankyou i dont see her til 19th sadly.
eylah
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