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Leg pain / numbness endometriosis
As a lot of you already know I have a condition called endometriosis and it causes pain in my legs but today I’ve been experiencing numbness and pins and needles in my feet to my legs is that normal I’m used to the pain the pain has been going on for a long time but the numbness and pins in needles are new to me
Re: Community Check-In 💛
I'm gonna put the FAQ that V answered here that I took directly from the confidentiality post as I feel it answers a fair bit of what is being said here:
Why do you have to report non-emergencies?
Mostly legal reasons - there's some new legislation coming into effect now which puts more responsibility on institutions (like us) to report more safeguarding concerns.
The field of safeguarding has also moved on quite a bit from where our confidentiality policy was previously, so there's some wider change in our sector too.
Does this mean The Mix will report things more lightly?
Not necessarily. It's a funny one - there will probably be more situations where we escalate something as a non-emergency, but less situations where we escalate as an emergency.
So the total number of reports we make will likely go up, but the number of emergencies should go down.
Is your policy the same as Shout's now?
Yes, Shout and The Mix now operate under one policy.
Does this only apply to things posted after the merger?
Yes, that's correct.
There are a couple of reasons for that. 1) there's simply no way we could go through old posts, and 2) the information and safeguarding risk presented in old posts would be out of date.
When we're conducting risk assessments, we need the information we're using to be new and current for it to be a useful process for the person involved.
What happens in a non emergency? Will it just take police longer to come out?
So, there are a huge number of possibilities and it depends on the services involved. The honest answer is we don't know - and they may not tell us what they decide to do.
Our role in that situation is to pass the information on to the services involved, and they don't always keep us informed on what decisions they make with that information.
It might be that the police just keep that information on file in case more reports come in in the future, it may be that someone reaches out to you (like your social worker), it may be that someone comes out to you in person. I realise that's quite vague, though!
The key thing is that we'll always be transparent about our actions with you, and we'll communicate any information we have at the time.
Are there any non-emergency situations that apply to adults?
If someone is an adult (not an adult at risk of harm) there are no instances where we would escalate something as a non-emergency. The only time we weigh in with that age group is when there is an immediate threat to life involved - a bit like our old policy.
Mostly legal reasons - there's some new legislation coming into effect now which puts more responsibility on institutions (like us) to report more safeguarding concerns.
The field of safeguarding has also moved on quite a bit from where our confidentiality policy was previously, so there's some wider change in our sector too.
Does this mean The Mix will report things more lightly?
Not necessarily. It's a funny one - there will probably be more situations where we escalate something as a non-emergency, but less situations where we escalate as an emergency.
So the total number of reports we make will likely go up, but the number of emergencies should go down.
Is your policy the same as Shout's now?
Yes, Shout and The Mix now operate under one policy.
Does this only apply to things posted after the merger?
Yes, that's correct.
There are a couple of reasons for that. 1) there's simply no way we could go through old posts, and 2) the information and safeguarding risk presented in old posts would be out of date.
When we're conducting risk assessments, we need the information we're using to be new and current for it to be a useful process for the person involved.
What happens in a non emergency? Will it just take police longer to come out?
So, there are a huge number of possibilities and it depends on the services involved. The honest answer is we don't know - and they may not tell us what they decide to do.
Our role in that situation is to pass the information on to the services involved, and they don't always keep us informed on what decisions they make with that information.
It might be that the police just keep that information on file in case more reports come in in the future, it may be that someone reaches out to you (like your social worker), it may be that someone comes out to you in person. I realise that's quite vague, though!
The key thing is that we'll always be transparent about our actions with you, and we'll communicate any information we have at the time.
Are there any non-emergency situations that apply to adults?
If someone is an adult (not an adult at risk of harm) there are no instances where we would escalate something as a non-emergency. The only time we weigh in with that age group is when there is an immediate threat to life involved - a bit like our old policy.

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(TW suicide) why would I want to be alive when those who’s ruined me are living better lives?
Disclaimer: I am currently safe. But with that being said,
Why the fuck would I want to stay in this world, knowing I have nothing to look forward to, whilst those who’ve hurt me have better lives than I ever will.
So many people have genuinely fucked me up as a person. I can’t go into adulthood normally without suffering from extreme low self esteem, low self worth, no will to live and extreme jealousy and trust issues.
The same people who’ve hurt me are living the best lives. They’re surrounded by groups of friends, have a good relationship, have a good career and are doing well in regards to money.
What the fuck do I have? It’s so fucking unfair and
Why the fuck would I want to stay in this world, knowing I have nothing to look forward to, whilst those who’ve hurt me have better lives than I ever will.
So many people have genuinely fucked me up as a person. I can’t go into adulthood normally without suffering from extreme low self esteem, low self worth, no will to live and extreme jealousy and trust issues.
The same people who’ve hurt me are living the best lives. They’re surrounded by groups of friends, have a good relationship, have a good career and are doing well in regards to money.
What the fuck do I have? It’s so fucking unfair and
I would rather kill my self than live with that fact.
Re: TW - self harm
Thank you @Azziman im safe. I managed to distract myself with just random games and YouTube videos and stuff. Not the most productive but at least I got through it I suppose. Then moved on to distracting myself with study because I have sooo much to do 🥲
Re: Numb and hopeless (TW)
Thank you @amy02 today has been a much better day but I’m very stressed.
I’m scared how people at uni might react if I tell them how I feel. I am in contact with the wellbeing people but it’s kind of hard to tell them everything right away
I’m scared how people at uni might react if I tell them how I feel. I am in contact with the wellbeing people but it’s kind of hard to tell them everything right away
Starting to question everything (TW self-harm)
I’m tired, I’m exhausted, I’m hurting, I’m neglecting myself. Everyday I’m just a people pleaser, I ignore my own triggers and problems just to please people and make them happy because there all that matter in this world. Not me. Never will be me.
regression
So as many know it’s something I struggle with a lot however I am also a caregiver virtually for 2 friends who are also regressors and whilst it’s sometimes okay it’s so difficult with one person. Maybe that’s because we have history and maybe even just burnt to many bridges in the passed but whatever I still help him but the past 2 weeks they’ve been little non stop and it’s so so so hard because they stress you out but you can’t tell them the truth or you’ll upset that.
Self harm
My self harm healed as it’s always been something that heals so fast but I don’t have any objects now as I’m trying to stick to my grandmas wish but I hate seeing my arms bare. I hate seeing them looking so…clean…
I do t miss self harm for the most part but tonight I do just because it’s a shitty night and I’m just ready to delete everything and live my life in a rock 👍🏻
I’m too tired and shaky to type anymore but yeah…sorry
regression
So as many know it’s something I struggle with a lot however I am also a caregiver virtually for 2 friends who are also regressors and whilst it’s sometimes okay it’s so difficult with one person. Maybe that’s because we have history and maybe even just burnt to many bridges in the passed but whatever I still help him but the past 2 weeks they’ve been little non stop and it’s so so so hard because they stress you out but you can’t tell them the truth or you’ll upset that.
Self harm
My self harm healed as it’s always been something that heals so fast but I don’t have any objects now as I’m trying to stick to my grandmas wish but I hate seeing my arms bare. I hate seeing them looking so…clean…
I do t miss self harm for the most part but tonight I do just because it’s a shitty night and I’m just ready to delete everything and live my life in a rock 👍🏻
I’m too tired and shaky to type anymore but yeah…sorry

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Shutting down
I have to bury my trauma deeper and try to forget about my trauma I’m going to shut down until I can find the strength to deal with all these painful emotions on my own again I’m going to put up my front again and try my best to be cruel and mean it keeps me safe from anymore hurt.
Re: your doing your best 💓
you are worthy of love even if 
- you dont feel worthy
- there are things you want to change abt yourself
- you have failed at things
- you lose your temper sometimes
- you are struggling
- you are not perfect all the time
- you make mistakes
- you find it hard to control your emotions
- in the past you have been made to feel unworthy

- you dont feel worthy

- there are things you want to change abt yourself

- you have failed at things

- you lose your temper sometimes

- you are struggling

- you are not perfect all the time

- you make mistakes

- you find it hard to control your emotions

- in the past you have been made to feel unworthy


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