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Re: How do you make friends??? (At uni or just in general)
Thats a very good question...
But seriously. If your uni is anything like mine, then you have to realise as soon as possible that people there are actually much nicer and willing to talk than it may seem, it took me over two years to realise, that so if theres one thing I wish I knew sooner it would be this!
If the autism group is also anything like mine, then it will be your best friend through uni! (Also wished I joined sooner lol). I didn't talk during the meetings, and a few other people didn't too. I mostly talked on their discord server and I felt very accepted anyway. The autistic community will understand whatever you're struggling with, whether its how to prepare for a presentation, or just what to make for breakfast haha. So I can't recommend joining enough, and remember theres no pressure for you to do anything or contribute in any way.
About making friends... yea I'm not an expert I'm sorry but I think its important to acklowledge that its going to be tough, especially for an autistic, socially-anxious individual who isn't experienced making friends (I'd understand). Its just something you slowly learn over time, but its important to be confident in yourself and trusting that you can do this! Just accept you are not good at it, and remember you are doing your best, help others underestand this too. And I'm sure you'll make friends in no time
Oh and btw, you will have some people leaving you sooner or later, its unavoidable. But that doesn't mean you're 'weird' or not 'worth it', it just means there's not really a connection between you two, and you should accept that and move on, NOT give up!
Take care and always remember we're here for you!
But seriously. If your uni is anything like mine, then you have to realise as soon as possible that people there are actually much nicer and willing to talk than it may seem, it took me over two years to realise, that so if theres one thing I wish I knew sooner it would be this!
If the autism group is also anything like mine, then it will be your best friend through uni! (Also wished I joined sooner lol). I didn't talk during the meetings, and a few other people didn't too. I mostly talked on their discord server and I felt very accepted anyway. The autistic community will understand whatever you're struggling with, whether its how to prepare for a presentation, or just what to make for breakfast haha. So I can't recommend joining enough, and remember theres no pressure for you to do anything or contribute in any way.
About making friends... yea I'm not an expert I'm sorry but I think its important to acklowledge that its going to be tough, especially for an autistic, socially-anxious individual who isn't experienced making friends (I'd understand). Its just something you slowly learn over time, but its important to be confident in yourself and trusting that you can do this! Just accept you are not good at it, and remember you are doing your best, help others underestand this too. And I'm sure you'll make friends in no time
Oh and btw, you will have some people leaving you sooner or later, its unavoidable. But that doesn't mean you're 'weird' or not 'worth it', it just means there's not really a connection between you two, and you should accept that and move on, NOT give up!
One last thing. I kind of relate to this, but its best to try not to please others in this way, it makes it worse for everyone. Be true about who you are and if someone doesnt accept that its their problem, and they're probably not a good friend to have anyway. But its hard to do I know, so if you end up doing this from time to time to make certain situations easier to handle then that's ok. Just try your best not to. Just be yourself as they sayAnonymousToe wrote: »I dont know if that sounds horrible, but I just mean I pretend to be interested in the same things they are, so they’ll accept me.
Take care and always remember we're here for you!
Re: See you in a couple weeks! 🌈
see you soon. hope you get well soon. ( i dont have a pet. can i do you a oil pic of snimal instead. ).
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Re: See you in a couple weeks! 🌈
See you soon @JustV and hopefully things are looking better for you when you return.
(unfortunately i don't have any pets to provide pictures of 😂)
(unfortunately i don't have any pets to provide pictures of 😂)
Re: See you in a couple weeks! 🌈
See you soon @JustV I hope you’re feeling better soon.
And a very quick update before you go seeing as i mentioned it on Tuesday - all went well for Theo at the vets today. He’s fractured his paw so needs lots and lots of rest but he’s all ok and recovered well from the sedation
And a very quick update before you go seeing as i mentioned it on Tuesday - all went well for Theo at the vets today. He’s fractured his paw so needs lots and lots of rest but he’s all ok and recovered well from the sedation