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Re: How do you make friends??? (At uni or just in general)
I've already had my time at university and while I don't have an autism diagnosis, I struggled making friends in high school and often got picked on and taken advantage of. I was also very quiet and generally, I type more than I speak. I didn't do anything to prepare for socialising at university (I commuted in though so I never lived with other students) and didn't really think much about how to make friends. Didn't join any clubs or groups either. So like you, and many others here, I was nervous about starting university as I didn't know whether I would fit in, whether people would like me or whether it would just be a repeat of high school.
The other students on my course were lovely and quite accepting of differences, even though we were mostly the same age and hadn't long finished high school. In the first week, someone on my course invited me to a student night out drinking, but I didn't go. I was worried in case I ruined my chances at friendship, but it didn't. On my course there were a few others that also didn't like to go out drinking, and we all became friends.
I was known for certain interests but at the same time, I did feel that I had to try and like the same things as my friends. It works on a surface level- you get along, have something similar to talk about etc., but as you've realised, it's not very authentic or sustainable. Since graduating a few years ago, I've kept in touch with my friends from university. I've dropped some interests that weren't me (that I was only doing to keep up with a friend), but I have rediscovered interests that are me. And as a result of this, I've realised that I share similar interests with another friend from university. So the friendship I have now is a bit more authentic than when I was actually at university.
I guess it's having a balance of thinking up ways to make friends and being interested in them, as well as allowing yourself to be you and not solely doing things just for others.
Best of luck
The other students on my course were lovely and quite accepting of differences, even though we were mostly the same age and hadn't long finished high school. In the first week, someone on my course invited me to a student night out drinking, but I didn't go. I was worried in case I ruined my chances at friendship, but it didn't. On my course there were a few others that also didn't like to go out drinking, and we all became friends.
I was known for certain interests but at the same time, I did feel that I had to try and like the same things as my friends. It works on a surface level- you get along, have something similar to talk about etc., but as you've realised, it's not very authentic or sustainable. Since graduating a few years ago, I've kept in touch with my friends from university. I've dropped some interests that weren't me (that I was only doing to keep up with a friend), but I have rediscovered interests that are me. And as a result of this, I've realised that I share similar interests with another friend from university. So the friendship I have now is a bit more authentic than when I was actually at university.
I guess it's having a balance of thinking up ways to make friends and being interested in them, as well as allowing yourself to be you and not solely doing things just for others.
Best of luck
Maisy
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Re: Major trigger warning and very long post 😭
Just arrived. She is being nice with me so think she not hate me anymore which is good. Hated the awkwardness
Rose113
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Trigger Warning - mentions of past suicide attempts - Hi. I need help.
Trigger Warning - mentions of past suicide attempts
My name is kawthar. 20 . My birthday is in 2 month on one of the meetings I was they spoke about the mix community so I decided to give it a shot . I have ADHD autism Bipolar and BPD. I've been in and out of hospital for my mental health issues and other stuff a lot happened this month aside from my bff moving to Libya and not coming back . I want to break this circle of nightmares but I can't. NHS24 my mental health team duty crisis keep saying you can Kawthar . Idk how to break the circle . My life is beginning to get a bit better but I can't break this circle of ending up in hospital. Joanna a lady from my autism group she removed me from a group today I won't be joining anymore it doesn't matter anymore. My hobbies or distraction techniques are : reading , colouring , listening to music , watching movies especially horror movies, writing my stories and poems , doing Art which helps , doing my assignments, cleaning my room , crying , speaking to my other bffs fatima and other bffs , talking to NHS24 sometimes helps when they don't call police or ambulance on me . Did u guys know this month I ended up in hospital nearly 5 times and tried to k************ like let's say over 100 times. Trigger alert plz help me and send me stuff that would help me idk if anyone would see this. I don't always use the community of the mix all the time I get scared of what people would say to me . I swear all the time but not on phone . I'm mad rn . A couple good things that happened to me this month is 1. I finally am getting a social worker . 2 . Started going back to yoga and pilates and my physio said it makes me feel better sometimes. 3. My distraction techniques are kinda making me feel better . 4. Haven't been in A&E for 4 days. And 5. My dangerous distraction techniques have been helping 199% now . I just need help . Idk what help I need . Also my medication is starting kinda making me feel better. Last thing . Idk if should do this I have 3 businesses and 2 on Facebook and 1 on WhatsApp idk what to do . Yeah that's all from me now sorry this is long .
My name is kawthar. 20 . My birthday is in 2 month on one of the meetings I was they spoke about the mix community so I decided to give it a shot . I have ADHD autism Bipolar and BPD. I've been in and out of hospital for my mental health issues and other stuff a lot happened this month aside from my bff moving to Libya and not coming back . I want to break this circle of nightmares but I can't. NHS24 my mental health team duty crisis keep saying you can Kawthar . Idk how to break the circle . My life is beginning to get a bit better but I can't break this circle of ending up in hospital. Joanna a lady from my autism group she removed me from a group today I won't be joining anymore it doesn't matter anymore. My hobbies or distraction techniques are : reading , colouring , listening to music , watching movies especially horror movies, writing my stories and poems , doing Art which helps , doing my assignments, cleaning my room , crying , speaking to my other bffs fatima and other bffs , talking to NHS24 sometimes helps when they don't call police or ambulance on me . Did u guys know this month I ended up in hospital nearly 5 times and tried to k************ like let's say over 100 times. Trigger alert plz help me and send me stuff that would help me idk if anyone would see this. I don't always use the community of the mix all the time I get scared of what people would say to me . I swear all the time but not on phone . I'm mad rn . A couple good things that happened to me this month is 1. I finally am getting a social worker . 2 . Started going back to yoga and pilates and my physio said it makes me feel better sometimes. 3. My distraction techniques are kinda making me feel better . 4. Haven't been in A&E for 4 days. And 5. My dangerous distraction techniques have been helping 199% now . I just need help . Idk what help I need . Also my medication is starting kinda making me feel better. Last thing . Idk if should do this I have 3 businesses and 2 on Facebook and 1 on WhatsApp idk what to do . Yeah that's all from me now sorry this is long .
Re: Very specific niche interests <3
For me it's very old 80's movies which star Jeffery Combs in them (Re-animator is a guilty pleasure of mine and is a very good bad cheesy horror film though I argue it's a rom-com horror ). I also have a nieche interest in bones, animals, knitting, crochet, the band Nirvana, the 90''s riot grll movement, Ikea plushies, jigsaw puzzles and pathology (the study of anatomy and stuff ).
Amy22
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Re: oil art. digital :)
@Slinky your goat.
@Amy22 . i did a fairy. hope you dont mind. ylur a sparkle in everyone’s life. si it fit you better a fairy. .
a cat for katie. and a rose for rose. idk if they acc on here though.
@Amy22 . i did a fairy. hope you dont mind. ylur a sparkle in everyone’s life. si it fit you better a fairy. .
a cat for katie. and a rose for rose. idk if they acc on here though.
eylah
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